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J. M. Kearns (Author)
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0470154594 978-0470154595 January 8, 2008 1
How many of us never meet the person with whom we could be happy? How many of us limit our romantic choice to the people who happen to wash up on our shore? In Why Mr Right Can’t Find You, J.M. Kearns, Ph. D., shows that finding true love can be a proactive adventure. In chapters like How Men See Women, The Underrated Chance Encounter, and The Truth About Bars, J.M. Kearns lays bare the surprising vulnerabilities of the single male, and the power they confer on women. Men, he explains, are not shallow, not the enemy, and not aliens from Mars. In fact, the good man who is searching for you is your greatest ally, and Kearns shows you exactly how to take advantage of that fact. In the process he overturns the classic dating myths – that destiny chose the "one and only" man for you, that baggage is bad, that all men prefer the same body type – and solves the fascinating riddle of compatibility, with a hilarious and practical guide to the factors that make two people click, illustrated with real-life vignettes straight from the dating trenches. Finally, in a full online dating section, Kearns (who met his partner online) gives clear, simple advice on sites, photo sets, matchmaking, body issues, and that crucial first meeting.

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"If you’ve been on the lookout for ages but still haven’t found The One, this is for you...you’ll be in the arms of your true love in no time!"
OK! Magazine

"A literary MRI of the male brain."
—Georgie Banks, CBC News Viewpoint.

"Kearns insists it’s really not difficult to direct the right man to you, whether it’s online, someone you already know, or a total stranger. So read this, sit back and wait for the offers to pour in... Kearns says we should break the mentality of ‘acceptable’ places and realize ‘any time is a good time to meet Mr. Right.’ And sadly, men can’t read our minds to establish our interest, so direct him to you."
Cosmopolitan-UK


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Practical, encouraging and giddily optimistic, regular guy Kearns is convinced that "the world is full of lonely winners," but that the hunt for Mr. Right is often unsuccessful because women are taught, consciously and otherwise, not to make themselves available, and thus "don't give themselves enough of a choice." Kearns directs the lovelorn to embrace every opportunity to meet people, no matter how trivial the occasion, and not just when you're "ready for a Vogue cover shot." As women's own barriers to meeting people are the first that must come down, Kearns gently undermines the conventions and insecurities that keep them from actively and effectively seeking a mate, including self-defeating myths ("Serious relationships never begin in bars") and media-inspired body-image issues. Part one takes apart the myriad rituals of courtship, including chapters on "How Women Choose Men" and vice-versa, "The Perfect Place to Meet" and "Going Out Alone." He then tackles the "True and False Signs of Compatibility" across a number of axes (sense of humor, sex, goals), and devotes part three to destigmatizing and demystifying the online dating scene with a detailed step-by-step primer. Personal anecdotes round out this thorough, thoughtful and entirely upbeat dating guide.
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"If you’ve been on the lookout for ages but still haven’t found The One, this is for you...you’ll be in the arms of your true love in no time!" (OK! Magazine)

"A literary MRI of the male brain." (Georgie Binks, CBC News Viewpoint)

"Kearns insists it’s really not difficult to direct the right man to you, whether it’s online, someone you already know, or a total stranger. So read this, sit back and wait for the offers to pour in... Kearns says we should break the mentality of ‘acceptable’ places and realize ‘any time is a good time to meet Mr. Right.’ And sadly, men can’t read our minds to establish our interest, so direct him to you." (Cosmopolitan-UK)


Product Details

  • Paperback: 280 pages
  • Publisher: Wiley; 1 edition (January 8, 2008)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0470154594
  • ISBN-13: 978-0470154595
  • Product Dimensions: 8 x 6.1 x 0.7 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 14.9 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 3.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (23 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #107,641 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

J.M. Kearns grew up in Ontario, Canada and now lives in Cape May, New Jersey with his partner Debra.

His three relationship books have brought female readers a perspective that is male, intelligent, funny, and realistic. That fits with his unique background. Former crisis counselor. Philosophy PhD. Novelist. Not to mention many years "as an embedded reporter in the trenches of the male search for love." Hence his ability to see through romantic stereotypes, find real solutions, and bring his points to life with tasty stories.

His best-selling Why Mr. Right Can't Find You has been published in Canada and the U.S., the UK, Australia, China, and France. Embraced by readers and the press, it has been featured on Oprah & Friends and in OK! Magazine, Glamour, Cosmopolitan-UK, Maclean's, The Toronto Star, and many others. It has two acclaimed companions: Better Love Next Time tells how to decode the lessons of love gone wrong and heal your romantic soul; Shopping for Mr. Right expands on the ideas of Why Mr. Right Can't Find You while answering some burning questions about men, online dating, and how to test a new relationship.

For more on J.M. Kearns, please visit www.jmkearns.com.

 

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1.0 out of 5 stars Beyond Basic and Not Worth the Money or the Read, May 13, 2010
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After reading this book's description and reviews (both editorial and customer) online at Amazon.com, I thought this book sounded like a great one filled with some great insight. Thus, I ordered the book. Upon reading the book, however, I found it be filled with insight so incredibly basic and overly broad. For example, the author would give advice about something, but then offer no specifics on how to achieve the subject of his advice. Don't waste your money or your time with this book; trust me. I returned it.
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44 of 56 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars A Positive Book with the Surprising Answers to Why Mr. Right Can't Find You, February 2, 2008
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As a dating coach and former owner of a singles activities group, I've heard the stories of hundreds of single women discouraged because their Mr. Right seemed to be nowhere in sight. The self-help lit made them think men were aliens and all wanted the same thing - namely, a woman who was nothing like them.

Being a single woman, I could identify with that struggle. J.M. Kearns made me ask some good questions of myself. Why was I worrying about what "all men" want? And why was I choosing only from the men I happened to meet by accident? I started to focus on the guy out there who was looking for me, and how I could take steps to find him.

This shift in thinking takes the desperation out of dating and puts the fun back in. I've shared this with all my single girlfriends and it will definitely be required reading for my clients. After applying his advice, I'm seeing a man who is definitely Mr. Right material.

Read this book -- your pessimism will never be the same!
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5.0 out of 5 stars excellent!, February 28, 2010
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What I loved about this book, was the theory that I don't need to be fixed, but that there is someone out there who will love me just the way I am. The writer also deals a deserving blow to the 'destiny-theory'. Instead of waiting for love to happen to you, you should create your own chances. I couldn't agree more.
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