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Why Some Christians Commit Adultery

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This book should be required reading for any one in a church leadership position. Sanford deals with tough root issues that many people have but are not aware of. He connects how "broken places" in our lives, often from the past, are affecting our current daily lives in all aspects. He connects the dots for those who are seeking help for themselves to overcome besetting problems in this area. He gives clear explanation to those who are asking the "why" about someone they love who may have this problem.

But this is no "poor me victim" book as Sanford holds accountable those who would not seek help. Yet he manages to deal with many difficult and unseemly topics with the compassion of a loving grandfather, not throwing the baby out with the bath water.

The best part of this book is the road map he gives the christian in identifying behavior ahead of time that could become problematic. He gives clear examples of what christians should be doing and not doing in regards to personal relationships and communication with each other. Many will be surprised to see behavior mentioned which they may think is "harmless and even spiritual". If more people would read this book, I am convinced the problem of adultery would be greatly reduced.

After reading this book you will be able to recognize "innocent" behavior which can lead to adultery and thereby "flag" it before it happens. This book could save you and those you love, much grief.

This excellent book may only be excelled by a possible sequel which would have more on cures. For a clear understanding of relationships between workers and between clergy and laity that get too close in the church, this book is unsurpassed...everything from understanding when communication is too intimate to accidental or innocent physical contact to adultery--all in easy to understand word pictures. Everything you need to know about this temptation progressing to sin.

While this book was purchased as a replacement for an earlier copy, it still stands as a unique yet necessary tool for Christian living. Designed for couples, this clearly-written volume has application for singles as well. A very useful guide for today's world.

Sanford throws around psychological terms like Freud without any data or research to back up his claims. He talks about transference, double transference, emotional defilement, etc. without any evidence or solid definitions. I would categorize it as psychobabble.

He is clearly some type of Pentacostal, which might not appeal to all audiences. At one point he talks about how some women are deceived by Satan to believe that Jesus came and personally made love to them. It's a little warped.

He also credits a person's background far too much. For example, he says that his son's remained virgins until their wedding because he had come from parents and grandparents who had done so. That's ridiculous. Sexual purity is a choice people make individually and has nothing to do with pedigree. Plenty of people remain "pure" who weren't taught to do so and visa versa.

At another point he calls children from broken homes "orangutans" and talks about encouraging his children to hang out with children from stable homes. So kids with divorced parents are like orangutans? That's a horrible instance of name calling and slander.

In any case, I would not in any way recommend this book to anyone for any reason. I'm sure there are better books out there on this topic.