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Why You Behave in Ways You Hate: And What You Can Do About It

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it lets you see exactly what happened to you in your family and how that's impacted your life. the charts were particularly helpful.

This book is excellent in that it shows you how your childhood can lock you in self-defeating behaviors. The charts are repetitive and the book is not well-organized. But the book is not at all dry as some reviewers here mentioned.

The major flaw in this book is actually in the second part of its title "and what you can do about it". The author offers no other actual solution than therapy. So the title is misleading and the book misses the major reason for it: the solution.
Yes, there are ways to solve these issues on your own and it can be explained in a book.
Harder cases can dealt with in a therapy, but most people could have got a major help from this book otherwise!

I was able to take action to promote my best interest after reading this book. I bought five and gave them to my friends.

Most authors write 5 books on self-help that all say the same thing but with different titles.

This guy has written 1 book which I think is excellent. It is written quite dry, tends to repeat a lot of the same materials, could be better organized, and is a very difficult read. But let that not take away from the book's information. It is an extremely informative book that discusses you as an adult now and how incidents that occurred in your childhood made you turn out the way you are.

I consider myself a highly educated individual, and I must say that this book is an excellent resource. But don't expect it to be an easy read; I've had the book for 5 years and still haven't finished it.

Hopefully some day I will but it doesn't matter, because I plan on using it the rest of my life. I strongly suggest you give this book a look.

This book is so narrowly focused, it was of no use to me. A much better book for me was: Negaholics - How to Overcome Negativity and Turn Your Life Around. This may be an opinion which is closely linked to the fact that I'm a woman and Negaholics is written in a very "touchy-feely" style by a woman. The idea for both books is that bad experiences and/or toxic relationships in your childhood deeply affects the way you view yourself and all your relationships. Why You Behave in Ways You Hate really focuses on people who had toxic relationships with their parents. Negaholics does not focus on such specifics, but gives some really positive techniques to try to turn your negativism around.

Now I know why I do those things. I had always suspected those influences, but wasn't sure - not wanting to blame everything on my family. Thank you for a very enlightening and to the point read.

if you spend any amount of time wondering why you are the way you are, then you won't be sorry that you got this book, it is a wonderful book that will give you some amazing insights to who you are.

This book is a very infomative self-help book. It is however very dry. I have read other self-help books that are just as informative, if not even more so, and they keep your eyes glued to the pages.

The book was about behaving in ways you hate and why but it did not really discuss what you can do about it except by going to a Shrink!!!
Really? WOW! Ground breaking stuff there, Irwin!
Maybe going to a shrink isn't always an option and finding a decent shrink is even harder.
If there hadn't been the promise of "what you can do about it", I'd say it was pretty good. But Irwin made a promise he didn't keep.