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Widows Wear Stilettos: A Practical and Emotional Guide for the Young Widow Paperback – January 6, 2009
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"Motivational speaker and coach Fleet, who was widowed at 40 and has since made numerous guest appearances on television and radio, offers a guide for women who have also experienced the loss of a partner at a young age. Fleet's presentation is frank and interspersed with bits of honest humor. The text is easy to read, with charts and tips sprinkled throughout. Fleet, with psychotherapist Harriet, provides information on how to organize details such as funeral arrangements, wills, social security, and insurance at a time when organization is the last thing a new widow may want to face. She discusses emotional, physical, and spiritual health and finishes by focusing on living the rest of your life. This is a book about hope, and women will want to read it and share it with others, regardless of marital status or age. An essential addition to every public library" - The Library Journal
"[The] author has created a wise and practical guide for young widows on how to recover, cope, heal, and find a fulfilling life." - Orange Coast Magazine
"Carole Brody Fleet offers advice and humor in the book,' Widows Wear Stilettos...' to help young widows cope with loss." - The Orange County Register
"A young widow holds out a helping hand to others who have lost their husbands" - The San Diego Union-Tribune
About the Author
Ms. Fleet is an honoree and recipient of the 2008 Embrace Life Award from State Farm Insurance Companies and is a Founding Case Library Author for, "The Hot Mommas Project"; housed at George Washington University, Washington D.C.
Syd Harriet, Ph.D, Psy.D has one doctorate in interpersonal and family communications from the University of Oregon and a second in clinical psychology with an emphasis in behavioral science from the University of Denver. He has been a licensed psychotherapist in private practice since 1983, has written numerous articles on bereavement and conducts monthly workshops and seminars offering support strategies for coping with the loss of a loved one, friend, health, home, income and even the loss of a pet.
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Top Customer Reviews
The good: Chapters such as "The Firsts, Part 1', which deals with those firsts we all have to face from birthdays and holidays, to anniversaries, etc., "The Firsts, Part 2', which largely deals with the issue of the first date/love interest/serious relationship, etc. in a serious manner, and "When Both Mommy & Daddy Are You" which discusses exactly what it's title denotes. She has a good amount of advice on dealing with whom she refers to as "Everybody Else", which I found to be pretty on point. However, contrary to what is written in the publishers description, the issue of in-laws, which can be a major point of topic among many young widows (from how to deal with them without a peacemaker, to how to tell them you're dating) is a tiny blip on her Manolo hoofed radar.
Bottom line, if you are looking for a quick read (you could do this on a long flight, or long Sunday afternoon) and you are not new to grief, you might want to consider picking this up. I would not personally recommend this book for the newly bereaved however. Of course, if you know of a newly bereaved young widow you'd like to share the book with, you could always mark out the relevant chapters for her in her early stages of grief, and suggest she read the rest when she was ready.
Needless to say, she has talked about this book to her Hospice Counselor several times and has now given away her copy. I am online to purchase another for her and multiples for Hospice for future young widows who find themselves looking for answers that most people can not provide. Excellent book. It has made such a huge difference for my daughter! Thank you.
I found it to be a helpful source of realistic suggestion with which I could relate. There were people who suggested that I move on in the grief process or "take my grief to a private place." Needless to say, I was hurt and dumbfounded and confused. It had been such a short time since my husband had passed away that I did not beleive that I shouldn't be grieving but did not understand the timeline suggestions. The book helped put understanding and some courage to be able to understand that grief is individual and there is no specific timeline and that people can be stupid and hurtful. I was able to deal better with my feelings and other's misplaced comments.
It also gave me the perspective that I have to actively work at this process so that I can continue on with my life -- unfortunately, husbancless. I found out that their are small things that can sneak up on you and cause you to breakdown, yes, sometimes in public and it is okay. I can't say that I am healed but I am making progress in this journey and this book has belped that.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Great book. I lost my husband almost 2 years ago and this book helped me a lot. Specially for a 27 years old widow.Published 2 months ago by cristina
Purchased for a friend. She lives in another state. I don't know how much she liked it.Published 2 months ago by Terri T.
It's not about the shoes -- it's about the attitude! The empathetic support and practical advice in this book (and Fleet's later book, Happily Even After) helped me to stop crying,... Read morePublished 3 months ago by Kathleen H Sabaini
Easy to read. I like that it gives you space in the book to write out answers to questions asked in the book. I would recommend this to any young/young-is widow.Published 9 months ago by ZoeT
The author describes all of the challenges widows have after their husbands pass away. This includes judgments made by neighbors on how she should live her life, raise her... Read morePublished 19 months ago by Barbara Fifield
I really enjoy this book and now follow the author on FB. Great concept and the name is a true killer for modern society that have not come to terms with modern widows.Published 20 months ago by Virginia Garcia