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You married your husband; you didn't plan on marrying his parents. But, like it or not, they're part of your family. In-law problems can plague many marriages because so many couples feel hopeless about making things better. Jenna Barry's witty and insightful book gives hope to women and men who struggle with overbearing, over-involved or downright malicious in-laws. She gives useful, humorous and down-to-earth advice that says: "I've managed to do it, you can do it, too!" A Wife's Guide to In-laws is the Red Bull® of relationship books: it will give you wings. --Dr. Scott Haltzman, Best-selling author of The Secrets of Happily Married Women and The Secrets of Happily Married Men

"Jenna's work has been a beacon of hope for those who struggle with one of the most difficult relationships- the in-laws. Her unique insight gives readers practical, easy-to-follow tips and provides insight on how to deal with `the other half' of one's marriage. Her comprehensive work allows marriages to grow in a positive, yet straightforward manner, which for most can be the number one burden in sharing a life with another. Jenna's work is a must read for those who struggle with mitigating the third wheel and should be the go to source for everything in-laws." --Gabriel Lefrancois, Hitched Magazine -- Hitched Magazine

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Jenna D. Barry defines a very common conflict that devastates many marriages and provides step-by-step advice for winning the in-law battle in order to create a better marriage. She deftly mixes wisdom with touches of humor to lift the tone of what could be a stressful how-to for many couples. Although we like to have advice from experts in a given field (and this book contains such), we also like to learn from people who have "been there, done that." The strength of this book is its author's experience: she actually DID what she's talking about--she gained her husband's loyalty--and now shares her successful methods with others facing the same issues in their lives. She establishes credibility with readers as she describes feelings they have and her first-hand knowledge of what they are going through. Jenna offers a wide range of advice, varying in degrees of firmness, and encourages the reader to decide what will be most effective for her particular situation.
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Product Details

  • Paperback: 281 pages
  • Publisher: lulu.com (November 24, 2008)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0557025001
  • ISBN-13: 978-0557025008
  • Product Dimensions: 6.1 x 0.6 x 9.2 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 1.1 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (26 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #248,503 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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A year of disrespect from my new mother-in-law had reached it's climax. I hate confrontation and have always been raised to be respectful of my elders, however my in-laws were making my life horrible and I knew something would have to change. After finally asserting my feelings to my mother-in-law, I can tell you that I was banned from their home and told that my existence would not be acknowledged until I could learn to behave as a daughter to them. After weeks of crying myself to sleep at night, and my husband siding with his parents, I finally bought this book!

This book is humorous and calming. The author describes different "types" of in-laws. Mine are not-so-great white sharks. It is not a boring read. I can say that the strategies suggested in the book are very helpful in assisting me to change my own behavior. As a result, I can already see tiny changes in my spouse's behavior. I am less critical of his parents in his presence and he is finally standing up for me to them. It's a hard road but I am starting to see a light at the end of the tunnel and our marriage is greatly improved from several weeks ago. (before the book) There are worksheets in the back of the book which I did not find helpful at all (which is why I don't give 5 stars). There is also two chapters specifically geared towards your spouse.
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The constant war with your in-laws will take a toll on your marriage, quite possibly the ultimate toll. Since none of us want that to happen, if you are currently waging this war I suggest you read this book. The Wife's Guide to In-Laws will take you step-by-step through pinpointing exactly what your issues are, setting up a plan to address them and actually following through with the plan you set up with lots of examples along the way. Actual sentences you can use when talkingto your in-laws or your husband can give you the extra confidence you need to address the issues you are having with respect and sensitivity while at the same time standing your ground.

At times in situations like this a wife can feel helpless, after all they aren't your parents what right do you have to ask them to back off? The Wife's Guide to In-Laws does a wonderful job of building confidence in the reader letting you know that just because you are married to your husband doesn't mean his family can cross your personalboundaries and make you uncomfortable. You do have the right to respectfully decline an invitation or ask them to call before they just drop by your house. At the heart of this book is the need to be honest with yourself. pick the battles that truly matter most to you then stand your ground in an understanding but firm way. A Wife's Guide to In-laws: How to Gain Your Husband's Loyalty Without Killing His Parents will teach you how to do just that.
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There's good advice in this book regarding communicating with your spouse and basically treating him as you want to be treated. There is a big emphasis on prioritizing your relationship as the most important, which is true to have a healthy marriage. What I don't agree with is the idea that the wife should work things out with her husband's parents and leave him out of it. I've had two sets of challenging in-laws. My first husband and I went to a counselor who told us that HE was responsible for setting boundaries with his own parents and letting them know I was his priority. This worked great. They respected his feelings and our relationships improved immensely to where I felt comfortable freely calling my mother-in-law and she was supportive which I appreciated. It was an adjustment, and important for my first husband to stand his ground as a man, not a little boy being intimidated by his parents and giving into guilt and manipulation. As a result, he had a personal growth spurt and found greater happiness within himself and his own identity and independence separate from his controlling and domineering mother.

My second husband has a much harder time setting boundaries with his parents. I tried working things out with them on my own and it led to them completely cutting me off. They have a difficult time openly talking about things, they prefer to sweep things under the rug while having everything their way. Since we've been married, three years now, they haven't called our home phone line once. They make no effort to get to know me. I met my husband in the military and we never lived in their state, so making an effort has been key to bonding as a family. Unless we live near them, they seem to have no interest in having anything to do with me.
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The Wife's Guide to In-Laws is the best in-law self-help book (and I've read several)! The information and advice is practical while funny. The author gives many different examples and levels of confrontation to use (from out-right confrontation to diversions). In addition, the author describes concisely why my husband may react a certain way to his parent's behavior. Most importantly, the author adds levity to the tense situation by bringing in humor. Personally, I found myself chuckling when my in-laws, husband, or I would exhibit a behavior mentioned in the book.

I've purchased several copies of this book for friends as a gift. The advice is good for brides that have good relationships with their in-laws to terrible relationships. For those with good relationships, it helps keep good boundaries and reminds the bride of how to avoid problems that she may create. For brides with difficult in-law relationship, it will hold her accountable for the part she contributes and give sound, reasonable advice on how to manage her in-law relationship while not jeopardizing her marriage.
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