I Will Not Be Broken: Five Steps to Overcoming a Life Crisis [Hardcover]

Jerry White (Author)

Book Description

ISBN-10: 031236895X | ISBN-13: 978-0312368951 | Publication Date: April 29, 2008 | Edition: First Edition

The loss of a loved one, a painful divorce, or a serious physical injury---we must all, at one point, face tragedy---unavoidable moments that divide our lives into “before” and “after.” How do we muscle our way through tough times and emerge stronger, wiser---even grateful for our struggle? In 1984, author Jerry White lost his leg---and almost his life---in a landmine accident. He has endured the pain of loss and the challenge of rebuilding.  As cofounder of Survivors Corps, White has interviewed thousands of victims of tragedy.  With this book, he shares what he has learned.

White outlines a very specific five-step program to coping with disaster; to achieving strength and hope; and to turning tragedy into triumph.  In their own words, his survivor friends and colleagues share their stories.  It's a group that includes the well known, like Lance Armstrong, Nelson Mandela, and the late Princess Diana, and also everyday survivors. Through their stories and the author's words, the book takes readers step-by-step through the process of not only surviving tragedy and victimhood, but going on to thrive.

Editorial Reviews

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“An amazingly poignant book. But it does more than capture the collective experience of enduring a tragedy. It provides a road map for the individual and their family to put one foot in front of the other and reenter the land of the living. This book will be a remarkable tool.”
---Bob and Lee Woodruff, authors of In an Instant

“[White’s] courageous personal experience is a beacon for all who are searching to recover and reclaim life.”
---Her Majesty Queen Noor of Jordan, bestselling author of Leap of Faith

“We can choose happiness, even after the worst of times. Jerry White offers an excellent guide to navigating and overcoming the traumas we face in our lives.”
---Deepak Chopra, author of Buddha: A Story of Enlightenment

“Offers wise, practical, and inspiring steps to come back from life’s worst setbacks. Jerry White speaks with compassion and authority---and an abundance of emotional intelligence.”
---Daniel Goleman, author of Social Intelligence

“This is an important book. Jerry White shares lessons learned from his experience . . . to help trauma victims recover, survive, and thrive.”
---Jane Goodall, author of Harvest for Hope

About the Author

Jerry White is a recognized leader of the historic International Campaign to Ban Landmines, corecipient of the Nobel Prize for Peace; as well as cofounder of Survivor Corps. He lives in Maryland and Malta with his wife, Kelly, and four kids.

--This text refers to the Paperback edition.

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Product Details

• Hardcover: 224 pages
• Publisher: St. Martin's Press; First Edition edition (April 29, 2008)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 031236895X
• ISBN-13: 978-0312368951
• Product Dimensions: 8.1 x 5.4 x 0.4 inches
• Shipping Weight: 13.6 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (14 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #583,322 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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25 of 26 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars This Book Drawn on What We Can Do, April 30, 2008

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Sandy Carlson "SandyCarlson" (Connecticut, USA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: I Will Not Be Broken: Five Steps to Overcoming a Life Crisis (Hardcover)

When he was a college student in Israel in the mid-1980s, a landmine--leftovers of the 1967 War--blew Jerry White's world apart, taking a leg but leaving him with a big choice. Would he become a victim of an accident and live in bitterness and self-pity, or would he choose life?

First with the help of the do-or-die Israelis who had no time for self-pity or any other form of self-destructive self-indulgence, and then with the help of family and friends and countless wise others, White chose life and transformed his traumatic experience into his life's work. Today he is the leader of the International Campaign to Ban Landmines (for which he was corecipient of the Nobel Prize for Peace in 1997), and cofounder of Survivor Corps. He describes his journey from victim to survivor to "thriver" in his new book I Will Not Be Broken.

The book outlines a program of five steps for coping with disaster. He draws on his experiences as well as those of famous persons such as Lance Armstrong; Diana, Princess of Wales; Christopher Reeve, the American Psychological Association, and the not so famous--his college roommate, his mom, Bosnians who survived the warn in their country, a little Cambodian girl who also lost a leg to a landmine. His drawing on the wisdom of persons from all walks of life underscores he beliefs that wisdom is a collective resource as well as an individual one and that all life is interconnected. White's book approaches the challenge of trauma positively by focusing on individual strengths rather than dwelling on what went wrong and why.

I Will Not Be Broken is an earthy, conversational, and real testament of the beauty and wonder of all life. Here are some highlights of the book in White's words.

"Each of us has seeds of victimhood, survivorship, and thriving potential within us."

"The challenge we face is integrating our experiences--sorrowful and joyful--to help us evolve from victimhood to thriving."

"For many people, there isn't one precise moment of crisis [but an accumulation]--a few unpleasant things overlap, and a crisis sneaks up from behind."

To prevent being broken by crisis,

First, face the facts. "Great teachers and prophets admonish us to get real with ourselves, no matter how humiliating the facts."

"None of us will get very far without first examining our circumstances, relationships, and feelings. We will need to be ruthless in our self-assessment."

Second, we need to choose life. "We must consciously choose for our lives to go on in a positive way."

We can accomplish this by "nurturing a positive view of ourselves, keeping things in perspective, and maintaining a hopeful outlook."

Having crossed the threshold to survivorship, we can take the third step of reaching out because no one thrives in isolation.

"We have to let people in our life into our life." As Albert Schweizer has said, "'At times our own light goes out an dis rekindled by a spark form another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.'"

Next, we need to get moving, to think of the future and develop a plan for achieving goals, though "the speed at which [we] move is less relevant than the belief that [we]will move."

Finally, we must take Step Five and give back. "You must give to a community in order to belong to a community. You can become a volunteer, a community leader, a donor, a social change agent, a future peer supporter. You get outside yourself and, by doing so, get away from your suffering. It's not charity. It's not pity. It's gratitude in motion. It is belonging in action."

Taking these steps is the best way to avoid falling into the trap of victimhood, a stagnant state of being that includes living in the past, wallowing in self-pity, resenting others, blaming others, and taking from others.

Taking these steps can lead to resilience, "our capacity to bounce back and resume function and health after a confrontation with disruptive or traumatic events...Resilient people are somehow able to draw on past experiences and find inner strength to navigate their troubles and make the transition to a healthy, flourishing future."

5 of 5 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Very inspirational, June 20, 2008

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Kirsten Harrell "ipopin.com | one minute atti... (Dayton, OH USA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: I Will Not Be Broken: Five Steps to Overcoming a Life Crisis (Hardcover)

I must admit I was a bit reluctant to start reading this book because I thought it might be a bit depressing. I knew that the point of the book was that people can learn to thrive (not just survive) after trauma and tragedy; however, I was concerned that reading about so many people's experiences of tragedy would be difficult. I was wrong! I was completely wrong! It is a very inspiring and uplifting book! Once I started reading, I didn't want to put it down.

The author of this great book, Jerry White, suffered the loss of his leg after stepping on a landmine in Israel in 1984. I have to say that Jerry has done a phenomenal job weaving together his story and the stories of many other people into a very uplifting book. I believe Jerry's book is genius in action. Even though he shares details of tragic events and raw emotions, the pages are filled with hope and positivity. He provides a clear road map for moving from surviving to thriving. I think this is a must read for anyone who has had some type of challenge in life - I think that is probably everyone! I have benefited spiritually, mentally, and emotionally from reading the book so I feel obligated to pay it forward by writing this review and letting you know about Jerry's organization - Survivor Corps.

To sum up - this is a great, enjoyable, uplifting, and powerful read. It provides a great roadmap to help you recover and learn to thrive after loss or tragedy.

4 of 4 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars "I Will Not Be Broken" Is Thoughtful, Sensitive, and Useful, July 10, 2008

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Daniel C. Fisher "Danny Fisher" (at large in India) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: I Will Not Be Broken: Five Steps to Overcoming a Life Crisis (Hardcover)

"I Will Not Be Broken" succeeds brilliantly at being what it sets out to be: a thoughtful, sensitive, and useful guide along the path of survivorship. I found it inspiring in all the right places, well-reasoned, and down-to-earth. Being able to discover more about White's own journey and where he looks for guiding lights is also a valuable aspect of the book. We have much we can learn from him.

White intersperses his very accessible philosophizing with his own personal stories as well as those of the people he's met in his work and travels. The result is a very readable book filled with useful tools and reflections on their practical applications by real people.