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Will the Real Me Please Stand Up?: 25 Guidelines for Good Communication

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First of all, I must warn you not to pay attention to the reviewer from San Jose... they are either brain dead or have not read the book (I'm sure it's the latter), because this book has already changed my life perspective with reading only the first few chapters. I have never said that about a book and I have hundreds in my library.

I have been a fearful person for most of my life... fearful of what others might think of me, so I put on a facade each day and try to be someone who I am not... I'm 34 years old and living a constant facade has left me with very few meaningful relationships and constant bouts of depression.

I bought this book a while back, but I never started reading it until June 8th 2004. I have been in a state of depression now for about 3 months and I have been praying and asking God to change me and to allow me to learn how to love other people instead of avoiding and being afraid of them and what they might think of me.

God has answered my prayers with this book. I have read only a few chapters and it feels like the shell inside me that I have been building for years has been cracked and the real me is beginning to emerge. What a liberating feeling. My depression and my focus on myself is diminishing at an unbelievable rate.

I have always had suspicions of others thoughts about me. I create a fantasy life of imagining what they might be thinking about me, so to avoid rejection, I keep my distance and act cool and aloof in there presence. Meanwhile I go on in my lonliness with my insides unknowingly crying out to communicate to others. In reality, my imagination of what they think about me probably doesn't even come close to what they really think.

I started reading this book only a day ago, and I can already see a monumental difference in the way I am communicating with others around me... fearless and loving are two words that I can describe my feelings toward others now... and in only one day... unbelievable! Seeing as I have always been fearful and bitter toward most other people.

This may be the most "perspective changing" or possibly "life changing" book I have ever read, that remains to be seen, but I am already ordering other books from John Powell.

If you have been lonely, depressed, afraid to speak in front of others or voice your opionion for fear of being rejected... wait no longer......

BUY THIS BOOK NOW! YOUR LIFE IS WAITING FOR YOU!

The ancient Greeks philosophy has been condensed into two words... "KNOW THYSELF". This book will help you find the real you.

Mark................ <////><

In this book are guidelines for communication in deep personal relationship. It is written in a spirit of acceptance and treasuring the other as well as of oneself. As well as other books of this author this book too helped me a lot by personal growth. I found in them a lot of answers or confirmations of my feelings or thoughts, I felt I am not alone,... I often leaned on these ideas when feeling anguish because of rejection or misunderstandings, ...when I was hurt or afraid...it helped me to see forward and I am very thankful for that

I agree with the reviewer below - ignore the San Jose reviewer. The title describes exactly what it delivers.. Helping people show their 'real' selves. I'm a Clinical Psychologist, and I recommend this to clients who struggle with social anxiety/social phobia.. but also to any clients who are struggling with low self esteem, or social insecurity at any level.. I think it's an excellent book, written simply and clearly, with straightforward suggestions to effect change, and challenge yourself to be your true self with others..

This book is one of the best that I have read on self discovery, peeling off layers, and becoming aware of just how you are living your life. It causes you to examine your behaviors and reactions and get to the bottom of what causes you to have some of the reactions you have. Mr. Powell has done a masterful job of developing the questions that help you understand how you communicate---and he provides the tools for you to make any changes you might want to make. This book is excellent for anyone who wants to communicate more authentically and effectively and it can also be a valuable tool for therapists to use with their clients.

This book is used in my Practitioner class, and as it it easy to read and very informative, I am enjoying the addition to our textbooks, binder, and other spiritual reading that is necessary to the class.

An excellent guide to opening communications, starting with yourself and working outward. The result - spiritual satisfaction. Very readable!

Sorry -- I'm evaluating some communication books for a large organization -- and I just couldn't get past the title. How could any business person recommend this to a large group of peers...with a straight face...or expect them to take it seriously? Possibly the first rule of good communication, especially when presenting one's written advice and expertise to complete strangers...is to craft a title that actually says something.