I Will Remember You: What to Do When Someone You Love Dies - A Guidebook Through Grief for Teens [Paperback]

Laura Dower (Author), Elena Lister (Introduction)

Book Description

Publication Date: May 1, 2001

Just as death is a part of life, grieving is a part of living. For teens, this can be a particularly painful lesson to learn. I WILL REMEMBER YOU is an inspirational and accessible guide to coping with loss. It includes personal stories of death and life from real teens, advice from a renowned grief counselor, and dozens of hands-on creative exercises to help teens move through their pain and sorrow . . . into tomorrow.

Editorial Reviews

Amazon.com Review

New emotions, new friends, and physical changes make the teen years hard enough to deal with, but when someone close dies, life as a teen can seem almost unbearable. I Will Remember You encourages young readers to explore the "long, winding tunnel" of the grieving process, to keep going in the face of terrible loss and sadness. Through stirring words by well-known personalities (E.B. White, Emily Dickinson, Rainer Maria Rilke, Dr. Seuss, Mother Teresa, Woody Allen, even Pooh and Piglet!), as well as from fellow teens who have lost a loved one, grieving teens can begin to take comfort that they're not alone.

Each chapter helps readers explore different aspects of grief, such as denial, ritual, remembering, mourning a stranger, and anniversary "aftershocks." Renowned grief counselor Elena Lister, M.D., offers advice based on her many years of professional experience, and author Laura Dower presents dozens of creative, helpful exercises to move through the experience of loss. As Dower writes in her preface, this book does not provide "the 'right' answers or tell you how or what to feel." Instead, it's more like a "grief map. It helps you to see the path, but it can't tell you where to go." One of the most useful (and impressive) elements of the book is the very sensitive section on what not to say to someone who is grieving (and possible responses to these statements): "You'll get over it. Do you want to tell me when?" "Your mother/father lived a full life. How do you define full?" Of course, Dower also includes a list of more thoughtful, appropriate statements: "I am sorry. How can I help?" "What was your relationship like?" With the gentle help of this guidebook, grieving teens may just make it a little farther through that long, winding tunnel. (Ages 13 and older) --Emilie Coulter

Product Details

• Reading level: Ages 12 and up
  
• Paperback: 211 pages
• Publisher: Scholastic Paperbacks; 1 edition (May 1, 2001)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0439139619
• ISBN-13: 978-0439139618
• Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 5.5 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8.8 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (5 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #389,776 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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17 of 17 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars As if it spoke to me, June 6, 2001

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Michelle Bergeron-palmer (Western Massachusetts) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: I Will Remember You: What to Do When Someone You Love Dies - A Guidebook Through Grief for Teens (Paperback)

My father died three years ago when I was thirteen. I have never read a book that depicts my feelings so accurately. It is ideal for any teen that is overcoming grief but also for any parent who wishes to understand the grief that their teenager is dealing with.

15 of 15 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Coming from a contributor, May 3, 2001

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This review is from: I Will Remember You: What to Do When Someone You Love Dies - A Guidebook Through Grief for Teens (Paperback)

I was a contributor to this book and had known about this project a couple years ago when I wrote my piece. I wasn't sure what I was getting into. I thought it was probably just another Chicken Soup like book. However, I was wrong. This book is the most amazing thing I've seen for teens who are suffering with grief and at the time I was going through everything I would have given my soul for a book like this. I am really proud to have been a part of this project and I found it helpful even today. I hope a lot of grief stricken teens pick this book up. It is truly amazing.

15 of 16 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars An Inspiring, Important and Beautifully-Done Book, July 19, 2001

By A Customer

This review is from: I Will Remember You: What to Do When Someone You Love Dies - A Guidebook Through Grief for Teens (Paperback)

I Will Remember You addresses one of the most-overlooked and difficult issues in growing up, offering readers inspiring and important ideas to deal with grief. Although this is a guidebook for teens, as a parent, I found the information incredibly helpful in helping my children understand the grieving process. Dower's accesssible, well-written passages--along with the real-life writing from teens--illuminates the feelings associated with getting through grieving. This is a terrific resource for parents, teachers, librarians and yes, teenagers.