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Wing to Wing, Oar to Oar: Readings on Courting and Marrying (Ethics of Everyday Life) [Paperback]

Amy A. Kass , Leon R. Kass
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...a wonderful anthology.... It teaches a higher form of sex education--a form that cultivates awe for the depth and breadth of marital love while showing respect for the fragility of the human heart. -- USA Today, William Mattox Jr.

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  • Paperback: 636 pages
  • Publisher: University of Notre Dame Press; First Edition edition (February 1, 2000)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0268019606
  • ISBN-13: 978-0268019600
  • Product Dimensions: 6.2 x 1.4 x 9.1 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 2.3 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (11 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #70,607 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Amy A. Kass, Ph.D. is a Senior Fellow at Hudson Institute. Now Senior Lecturer Emeritus, for thirty years she was an award-winning teacher of classic texts in the College of the University of Chicago, where she was a Senior Fellow in the John M. Olin Center for Inquiry into the Theory and Practice of Democracy. She has served on the National Council of the National Endowment for the Humanities, as well as on the Council of Scholars of the American Academy of Liberal Education, and as a consultant on American history and civic education at the Corporation for Public Broadcasting. The author of numerous articles, she has edited four previous books: Giving Well, Doing Good: Readings for Thoughtful Philanthropists (2008); The Perfect Gift: The Philanthropic Imagination in Poetry and Prose (2002); Wing to Wing, Oar to Oar: Readings on Courting and Marrying (with Leon R. Kass, 2000); and American Lives: Cultural Differences, Individual Distinction (1995).

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128 of 131 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars Wing to Wing, Oar to Oar February 2, 2000
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> This anthology on Courting and Marrying was very interesting and bolstering of many things I knew to be right and good. The authors say that all the selections are not what they deem a single coherent traditional teaching on the subject, but that they are offered "in wisdom-seeking rather than wisdom-delivering-spirit, as writings that make us think, that challenge our unexamined opinions, expand our symnpathies, elevate our gaze, and introduce us to possibilities open to human beings in everyday life that may be undreamt of in our philosophizing." pg.19. It was eye-opening to trace the decline of courtship at the beginning of the 20th century and what the emergence of dating methods did to male and female relationships. The authors see an increased failure of marriages NOT because courting isn't done the old fashioned way but because certain elements of what makes marriages work are no longer even considered. . Largely elements that have become secondary in importance to the current all encompassing reason for marriage, ROMANTIC LOVE. Not to say that romantic love shouldn't be a factor, but that it is not necessarily the greatest or only factor. Also included are reflections on the virtue of modesty, the merit of waiting and the fulfillment of partnership and parenting. A good resource and thought provoking book.
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54 of 54 people found the following review helpful
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Some reviewers seem insistent that Amy and Leon Kass are stuck in a cultural and intellectual backwater, still insisting on ideas and values that are badly out of date.
Others say that Leon and Amy Kass have written the best answer to modern misunderstandings and mistakes concerning marriage and sexual relationships.

They are accused of trying to force their narrow, archaic views of the sexual nature of humanity.
They are also accused of depending strangely on ancient writings that have little 'scientific' value.

Leon and Amy Kass admit themselves that most of the writings they draw from are old--but the value of such writings is in finding what the people who wrote them have in common with modern times.
Basic facts of life--like the connection between sexuality and reproduction, the connection between monagomy and stable societies, and the connection between morality and healthy relationships--are the themes that hold this book together.
The book tends to question many modern assumptions--not for the purpose of turning back the clock, but for the purpose of finding a way to improve the future prospects in relationships, marriages, and society in general.

At no point do the editors preach to the reader. Instead, they encourage the reader to think--and to feel--and to explore the meaning of being a human being.

This book is written for college-level reading, although an intelligent high school student (one who has been trained to think for himself) can readily understand it.

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72 of 74 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A Wonderful Gift February 26, 2000
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Amy and Leon Kass have presented a wonderful gift to parents and to their children. Parents will cherish the book's wisdom as they try to instruct their children, whether of marriageable age or younger, about the ritual (courtship) leading to the ultimate commitment (marriage). Young adults facing, it seems, a directionless world will cherish the guidance the book provides. All readers will admire the clarity and the beauty with which almost all of the many authors, including the Kass's, communicate their messages. The Kass's draw on a remarkable variety of sources, from the ancient religious (Genesis) through classical literature up to and including modern sociology. Even "Miss Manners" (Judith Martin) is cited and she has good things to say. A few of the selections are a bit difficult and may easily be skimmed, skipped or saved for a second try later. Most are easy to read and many are downright enjoyable. One selection from Tolstoy (from "War and Peace": The Courtship of Pierre and Helene) tells the reader exactly how NOT to enter into the ultimate commitment. Another (Divakaruni, "The Word Love") is truly heartbreaking as its depicts some of the consequences of a typical modern "relationship". I've already ordered copies of the book for my young adult daughters, and I'm encouraging my 10th grader (a voracious reader) to take a crack at it. Thank you, Amy and Leon Kass!
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4.0 out of 5 stars The book was fine.
The book has a great cross section of stories to read that are enlightening. The only criticism would be that the exeprts from longer books be put into better context for a reader... Read more
Published 1 month ago by Cleopatra
5.0 out of 5 stars Great readings
I bought this for a Family and Politics class. The readings that the Kasses have gathered are essential not for every individual, but for our society that de-emphasizes marriage... Read more
Published 2 months ago by Joe Ralias
5.0 out of 5 stars Wing to Wing
This a wonderful book with lots of informative essays for any person studying courtship and marriage or just wishing to learn more about how to have a successful relationship. Read more
Published 15 months ago by TayRob2015
5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent book alternative to myriad of lame Christian "dating books"
I bought this book originally looking for a good well-reasoned alternative to the wasteland of pathetic Christian dating/marriage books on the market (e.g. Read more
Published on July 10, 2005 by Michael Westra
5.0 out of 5 stars Alternatives, Not Answers
If you don't like reading "classic" literature - that is, literature from another time, place and era, with a perspective utterly distinct (and even contrary) to our own - don't... Read more
Published on November 9, 2004 by Abnobel
5.0 out of 5 stars Propaganda?
Natasha pretends to be a stone-hard woman who stands at the crossroads of social change while wondering in aristocratic fashion why so many stand in the way of Herstory; in reality... Read more
Published on May 3, 2002
1.0 out of 5 stars Wing to Wing, Oar to Oar: Another Sentence
Amy and Leon do quite a job with traditional texts. It is not an accident that the only evidence for such absurd moral values is found in ancient texts. Read more
Published on August 3, 2001 by Natasha Bolkonski
4.0 out of 5 stars USA Reviews Wing to Wing, Oar to Oar 2/10/00
The USA Today review on 2/10/00 was intriguing to me, as it's not the first place I would expect to find support for research that regards traditional relationship models as valid... Read more
Published on February 11, 2000
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