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Winning Your Husband Back Before It's Too Late: Whether He's Left Physically or Emotionally, All That Matters Is...

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I am still reading this book and am amazed at the insight and practical help it offers. I wish I knew about this book several months ago. Drs. Smalley don't pull any punches about what is right and they also show a compassionate understanding of the heart wrenching mess one's marriage can become. This is definitely a book that I will need to read many times and put into practice the suggestions they offer. Truly, change has to come from within and however our spouse chooses to respond is out of our control. We can only change the things we have control over and have to trust God with the rest. That is a hard concept to understand in our society.

The next three reviewers paint quite an unfair picture of this book as well as the author. One reviewer ends her comments by asking if the author has written a book to men challenging them to treat their wives right. She said, "didn't think so." Well that is plain wrong. He did write a book to men which was much more challenging to men than his advice to women. It's called "If Only He Knew: What No Woman Can Resist" and you can find it here on amazon. In that book (which the reviewer has obviously not read) he tells the husbands that they are the ones ultimately responsible for trouble in their marriages. He says "if after 5 years of marriage there are still unresolved issues that he hasn't address, then it falls squarely on the HUSBAND's shoulders." How is that for responsibility? There was no blame on the wife... If you read both (all) of the author's books you will see he teaches a very consistent view of marriage and the husband/wife roles. However, if you only read one book with your own agenda, you will not present a fair evaluation of this book or any book for that matter. Ladies, this book will help you in your marriage. While you are at it, pick up the other book for your husband. :)

The courageous stories of women in this book inspired me to read it in one sitting! It takes a lot of courage to "win your husband back" because I believe it was too late for us! This book offers the "hope" you need to not give up! Life is hard enough with all it's challenges but this book really gave me hands on ideas that work!

This book offers a Faith centered approach to winning your husband back, by first looking to yourself and the Lord for change. It offers support, suggestions to reach your husband, and hope for your future, with or without him. I would recommend this book to anyone whose been left by their spouse or just feels the distance.

First, the title of the book does not describe the contents. It should be titled "keeping the husband you have."
2nd: Please DO NOT READ THIS BOOK FIRST if your husband has left you. Please read "Love Must be Tough" by Dr. James Dobson. The contents of Winning Your Husband contains the first steps of when your husband leaves, but it is on the 2nd to LAST Page!

I found this book to be very helpful and encouraging to me. I am currently separated from my husband and I am desperately trying to put the pieces back together again. This book is specific on areas a wife can do to change her behavior towards her husband. Although it takes two to make a marriage/seperation, I have found that what I say and how I say it really helps in bringing us closer. Gary Smalley has always been so great at the marital relationship and this was no exception.

This straight forward book gets right to the heart of the matter. It is for those women who want to save their marriages because they truly believe in the vows they made at an altar before God. One must be willing to do God's will and not their own. MUCH easier said than done but it can be done. It will make you face the reality and power of your own pride but is well worth the hard look at ones own heart. I found this book very helpful.

Although this book does not promise that your husband will return, if you follow Gary Smalley's advice, it will make your life more fulfilling and prepare you for a future marriage that you never dreamed could exist. If you read my comments to earlier reviews, you know what I mean.

As for the book, here is how it works: First, you need to recognize that Gary is talking to you, and only you. (He will talk to your husband in another book.) IF YOU DON'T GET THAT, reading this book will be like looking for a diamond mixed in with 10,000 crystals. Gary helps you to examine your life and recognize your own faults, weaknesses, and shortcomings. He encourages you to meet as many of your own needs as you can. He teaches you to gather around you only those who believe in marriage and will encourage you to keep the faith (no quitters allowed in your circle). He focuses your attention on the wonderful and good things in your marriage instead of the problems. He helps you understand that honoring and being gentle with your husband is a gift that God gave you to bring out your husband's best qualities, not a detestable act of submission required by God. You are actually helping him to do something that he couldn't do for himself in all his years of singleness. Gary knows all too well, that once your husband opens his heart to you again, the temptation to make him see what he has done to you will be great...this is the turning point in your marriage. You can start the cycle over again or you can CHOOSE to forgive your husband, to learn to establish healthy boundaries in your marriage, to open yourself to honest communication, and to discover all the wonderful qualities your husband has hidden from you and/or shown another woman. When I went through this process, I had to continually ask myself would I rather harp on this/that problem or enjoy the warmth of my husband loving me. I realized that when I consistently chose the latter, he wanted to do all those things I had begged him to do before. May God bless your journey more abundantly than He has blessed mine!

If you are looking for general advice on how to win your husband back, this book will not help you or give you any good advice. I only made it through the first couple of chapters and had to stop because it was totally based on religion and God (included bible verses). There was nothing in that book that was useful to me. I could not relate to any of the advice given. The book suggests that if you turn to God, your relationship will miraculously turn itself around. If you are looking for solid, down-to-earth advice, I would suggest Relationship Rescue by Phillip C. McGraw or How One of You Can Bring the Two of You Together by Susan Page. I found those two books very helpful.

There isn't anything in this world that would entice me to be anything but equal to my husband. This book not only encourages women to become submissive to their husbands, but it essentially tells them that they would have to in order to save their marriages. It tells women that they, and only they, are responsible for the condition, and ultimately the repair, of their marriages, and that their husbands are essentially blameless. It also tells women that they shouldn't expect be very high on their husband's list of priorities because God doesn't want it that way. According to this book, the only way to save your marriage is to change absolutely everything about yourself in order to become what the Bible (a book written by men!) says you should be. Hogwash! I resented just about every piece of advice in this book, and I don't know how to follow this advice without losing all my self-respect and dignity in the process. I love my husband very much, but he could never respect the person this book wants me to be, and neither could I.