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Winning Your Wife Back Before It's Too Late

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This book did give some very useful insights as to how to work on yourself and improve yourself. The idea is to recognize your mistakes and shortcomings and work on improving these. After all, this is really all you have control over. I think this book was written from the standpoint of the husband being messed up and causing the wife to leave (emotionally or physically). My particular situation is where my wife has become emotionally involved with another person and yet has told me that I have been the best husband she could ever want. There was one time that Smalley talked about this scenario. She is still trying to resolve her mis-guided feelings, but she says there is nothing I can do to improve. Of course, there is always room for improvement, so I have tried to work on strengthening my relationship with God and continue to show my wife unconditional love and honor as Smalley talked about in the book. This book would be most useful for the husband who has caused the marital breakup.

She was gone. She loved me but.... now there was this new guy and they were talking wedding bells. I read this book and it laid out for me in simple terms what I had done wrong-and it was me. And what I needed to do and who I needed to be. Using football metaphors, Smalley listed the does and don'ts in simple concise language. He doesn't guarantee results in reconciliation but he does guarantee a better life. I've been around the block but boy did I learn alot about women in this book. When I faced up to what Smalley outlined and realized what I needed to do I called her. Her response was immediate and positive. Thank you, Gary Smalley.

My wife recently left me and while I have read many book to see what I could do and what was wrong in our relationship this is the one book that gave me straight foward proactive advice on how to start to get my wife back into my life. I have read this book three time since I received it and learn new things every time. I also recommend "Love is a Decision" and "Hidden Keys" both by Gary Smalley. Read them both and allow Christ into your heart and live, He will help in your relationships. God Bless.

I had client whose wife was in the process of leaving him.... this book (since he followed EVERY step to the letter) helped him immeasurably -- he was able to WIN BACK the heart of his wife..... !!!!! I have no idea what the other reviews were reading but this book WORKS -- it is of course better to provide regular heart, romantic, loving 'maintenance' for your wife but if you have neglected her over some period of time, this book will help you restore relationship....

Can a book really change a marriage? Yes, this book is so helpful and so practical. It is written for men to understand in a sports "language" much like Gary and Greg being my coach.

My wife and I separated in June of '10 after fourteen years & 3 kids. She was done with me. Her friends and relatives were done with me. I was devasted.

I must have bought 15-20 books during the next few months searching for an answer to recover my marriage.

To my dismay I found there are very few books out there that address recovering failed a marriage. The vast majority talk about how to "move on" and accept what happened. I didn't want any part of those books. Of those that advocate recovering, most come from the Christian community, so I bought them all, even though I do not consider myself a Christian in the usual sense.

This book was one of several standouts - deeply touching, sincere, non-dogmatic, and emminently practical. The other standouts are two books, another by Gary Smalley: "If Only He Knew; What No Woman Can Resist" and Gary Chapman: "Hope for the Separated; Wounded Marriages Can be Healed". Most of the other Christian books struck me as too dogmatic, guilt-oriented or rigid in their approach.

I studied these books continually while we were separated, practicing what they said, and re-reading random chapters for solace and hope when times got tough. Finally after 4 1/2 months, my wife could no longer resist the kindness, patience and sincerity I showered on her that were coached by these books. We reunited in October. I'm happy to say, my marriage is thriving now after 5 months back together, due almost entirely to the new perspective and behavior I learned from these books. I continue to practice what I learned and it keeps my marriage healty.

---HIGHLY RECOMMENDED---

Do what these books say. You don't need to be religious. Don't make excuses - change yourself. Your life will change and your wife WILL change. It worked for me, and probably would not have without this philosophy.

This is a great book for all men who are about to lose their marriage.
I am married to a Korean woman and being a westerner, there was a lot of friction from language barriers, which I thought I had anticipated and prepared for quite well. But then came the cultural challenges and the language problems seemed minute.

After reading this book, I gained a very clear insight about how my actions affected my wife's moods and also learned that I was being selfish.

For around 5-6 months, I felt I was close to a divorce. My sister gave me a copy of this book and after reading it, totally changed my views and now my wife and I are back together again and happy.

I loved the 'checklist' towards the end of the book so much that I actually took the time out to type out all three pages worth and review them at least twice a week if not more.

This book is highly recommended for those men who want to save their marriages. A warning: be prepared to change yourself and face some harsh realities. If you humble yourself, you can save your marriage.

Also, I would like to recommend watching the movie "Fire Proof" and getting the book "Love Dare". These books combined should be sufficient to get you on the road to recovery. It worked for me and I'm confident it will work for you too. God bless.

My name is Jack, not really, but that is the name they used in this book. My wife, "Deanna" and I are still happily married and celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary late last year.
I have thought of this book many times since, even before it was written, when it was in it's beginning stages, up until today, 20 years after it was published.
The principles in this book work, plan and simple, we are living examples. Most people these days just get divorced. They think it's the easy way. But really, the easy way is to do the work neccesary to make your marriage successful. I know my wife and my children have appreciated the effort we have made to be an example of a good, successful marriage.

I think Gary Smalley does a fine job of writing an effective book that is engaging, while teaching.

Honestly, I was looking for something else to give to a friend who asked me to help him in his marriage. I found this book on Amazon and purchased two. I gave one to him but wanted to read as well. I went through a divorce 10 years ago and decided if God ever blessed me with another woman I would do everything I can to know all I can about relationships and growing together. So while I read Smalley and Chapman and others to learn all I can to do it right, I also read about getting it right when you error. Barbie and I have been married 8 years and to date we still have not had any major disagreement. I always ask myself, "Five years from now will it really matter"? Seems the answer is always NO.

This book will help anyone who really takes it seriously. It is by far the very best relationship book that I have ever read about trying to fix something that is broke or about to break. This book is not something you skim. You need to read and really digest what the authors are saying. Will it fix everything...no. In my friends case it appears that his wife will continue with the divorce proceedings. However, he knows what he did to hurt and scar the relationship over the years and what he needs to improve for him to have a lasting marriage if God has plans for him to have another chance.

Winning your Wife back is a book I will use with others in the future struggling in their relationships with the hope they will get right with God and with each other. In my friends case his relationship with God is back on track from our talks and he is working hard in all areas of his life to mend fences and build bridges. God bless all of you.