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Wired That Way, misdirected opinions that need more research
on April 15, 2014
We read this book for a small group with our church. Overall, I would have to say that the profile is okay (but lacking), and the personality descriptions seem okay to start, but eventually the whole book just falls apart when it comes to the author's view on Melancholies and Phlegmatics. Seeing that the author and her mother are both Sanguine/Cholerics, most of the book felt like Melancholy and Phlegmatic bashing by a couple of women who have a skewed idea of those two personality types.
Melancholies (who in their own profile they describe as considerate, faithful, thoughtful, and loyal) are portrayed as perfectionists, perfectionists, perfectionists. Almost never throughout the entire book do they focus on the positive attributes of the Melancholy personality type (i.e. the nurturing, compassionate ones). Phlegmatics they portray as lazy, dumb and slow, never mind that they are calm, patient, friendly, contented listeners (and don't freak out under stress!). The book seems to rag on this personality type the most.
As I said, overall, this book was okay. Mostly more toward the beginning but then we were left wondering, what happened? It seems like they really try to touch on all aspects of life, and for that they did a good job, however, our entire group came away from the reading feeling that these women are very biased in their opinions and don't seem to have any real idea of what wonderful people Melancholies and Phlegmatics really are. We prefer the Myers Briggs typing, which we found after reading this book, that is SO much more accurate and non-biased to any certain personality type. Not to mention, that Wire That Way tries to stuff everyone into four neat and tidy little boxes, which is just SOO unrealistic and lacking in judgement, insight and common sense. People are far more complex than this book gives the varying personalities the credit for. That's why we prefer Myers Briggs. 4 personality types? Try 16!
I also feel like they did a poor job in differentiating between Melancholies and Sanguines, as they do have one chapter on these two and it is a good chapter, however, they fail to go further into the different ways one would react to a different situation than the other would, and believe me, that information is very important. We know several people who are masking and we really feel like if the authors would have went more in depth throughout the entire book about these two personality types and how they differ but are similar, rather than having focused so much on the Melancholy perfection, perfection, perfection, then our friends may not still be so confused about their true personality types. I just think it's sad that they came away from reading this book more confused than coming into it.
Thanks for listening! :~)
Proud ENFP married to an INFP, for reference, I scored high Sanguine in Wired That Way's profile (I believe I am secondary Supine) and my husband is primary Supine, secondary Melancholy.