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Wise Words for Moms

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Before I purchased the pamphlet, "Wise Words for Moms", I read the reviews. There is almost no middle ground. People either loved it or hated it. As Jesus said, "No one can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other..." (Matthew 6:24). When I read the negative reviews, many of them stated that this pamphlet advocated child abuse and beating your children.

As a mother of five happy, wonderful children (ages 2-18) and a public school teacher for 16 years, this really concerned me. I decided to purchase the pamphlet and see for myself what Ginger Plowman advocates in this writing. I was shocked to learn that NOWHERE in this booklet does she speak about beating, abusing (physically or verbally) or demeaning your children. She uses scripture to teach your child what God thinks about sin. The first page states that "Wise Words are to be spoken with a loving heart and a gentle voice."

Discipline is absolutely necessary in order to raise children to be content and happy adults. The word discipline means to "teach". It appears that some people are so worried about admitting that children may have sin in their hearts that they will make up outrageous allegations in order to prevent people from ordering this booklet.

In today's society, many people choose to avoid discipline at all costs. Children should absolutely be cherished and respected, but without training, they will never learn to become respectful, productive adults. Children need to know when they have done something wrong, what they should have done instead and that there are consequences for their actions. Love without discipline creates a society with no conscience because "everything is acceptable". Without proper training, children grow up to become adults that don't know the difference between right and wrong and don't respect others. Instead, they become self-serving adults with entitlement issues (believing that the world owes them and that they are to take as much as they can instead of giving). This breeds discontentment and unhappiness.

"Wise Words for Moms" is an excellent tool to help parents who want to "train up their children in the way they should go"... (Proverbs 22:6). It is loving and Biblical. It addresses the behavior of the children and teaches them to search their own heart and understand the motives behind their actions. The understanding of their motives leads to a conscious change of heart. Wise Words for Moms uses scripture to teach what God thinks of the children's negative behavior as well as encourages them to use positive behavior that honors God and leads to successful living.

I actually own this...it isn't a book but a chart of what scriptures to read or quote to your child when they do something disobedient or are going through something difficult like fear. There is nothing about spanking in it. Basically it has Heart probing questions, reproof or what to put off, encouragement or what to put on and additional verses.


For example under quarreling, arguing it has questions one example...
Are you being strong and avoiding strife or are you being weak and participating in strife? Then under reproof it says Quarreling. A harsh word stirs up anger. You need to depart from evil and do good because God says it is foolish to quarrel. Proverbs 15:1b, Psalm 34:14, and Proverbs 20:3b then under Encouragement it says Peace making. A gentle answer turns away wrath. It is to your honor to avoid strife and to live at peace with everyone. Proverbs 20:3a, Romans 12:18 Proverbs 15:1a then it lists additional versus to look up

I have really enjoyed using this chart in training my children to do what is right and also for myself. When I deal with things such as fear, worry , selfishness, coveting, or complaining I am reminded through scripture what to put off and put on straight from God's word. It has been helpful with scripture memory too and applying the scriptures right there in everyday life.

Wonderful tool in promoting the reason why we do and don't do things....to Glorify God.

A wonderful resource! I have also seen Ginger Plowman speak at a conference and she is great. I am sad to see that she has any negative reviews. Please keep in mind that people who put down other Christians because of their parenting styles are ignorant about the difference between CULTURAL SPANKING and BIBLICAL CHASTISEMENT. It is something that needs to be studied more thouroughly (like Ginger Plowman has) before being spoken/written on.

This useful booklet gives parents helpful questions to ask their children as they encourage them to put off bad behavior and put on good behavior. Ginger encourages parents to do this gently and wisely. As she says in the introduction, "Wise words are to be spoken with a loving heart and gentle voice." There is nothing whatsoever in this helpful booklet about physical discipline of any kind. Those who assert that there is have clearly not read it.

This is a chart meant to be a companion to her book "Don't Make Me Count to Three" It contains practical applications for what scriptures to use in certain situations. It is meant to get to the HEART issue and address what is driving the behavior instead of just correcting the outward behavior. It also encourages using the scriptures to tell the child not only what actions to put off, but also what to PUT ON. This way you are not just telling them "STOP THAT" or "WE DON'T DO THAT", but you are telling them what their behavior actually means and what to do instead. Thereby equipping them with tools to help them actually CHANGE instead of just STOP. It's true that her BOOK (not this chart!) does advocate controlled, loving use of spanking when appropriate, but this chart says nothing about spanking. It is simply a reference guide for Mom/Dad to use when training their child and teaching them why their behavior is wrong and what the better way is.

I would guess the string of negative, similar reviews in February came from a group of people who agreed to come on and post negative reviews. Especially since most of them talk like this is a book, not a chart. I'm guessing several of those people haven't actually read this chart. Because even if you disagree with the book, I find it hard to see disagreeing with the use of these scriptures if you are a Christian.

It is obvious that those that have chosen to leave negative and nasty reviews have NEVER read this book or any of her books. There is NOWHERE in the book that she promotes "beating" children or babies. She uses scripture to get to the heart of the issue with children and realizes that there are some issues that require CONTROLLED spankings. I just told my husband this morning that the book, "Don't make me Count to Three", is the BEST book I have ever read on training a child's heart. I just wish it was out in audio form so he could also benefit from her God-given wisdom. Please don't allow the negative/nasty reviews keep you from something that could change you and your child for the better. If for no other reason, BUY THE BOOKS and see it for yourself. If you are looking for a CONTROLED Biblical way to train your child's heart and not just his behavior, I promise you wont be disappointed!!

This calendar style chart is easy to reference and gives a scriptural solution when dealing with all common childhood issues, including blaming, complaining, fighting, giving up, disobeying, lying, revenge and arguing. I highly recommend this affordable product to anyone interested in Biblical Parenting.

I'm so glad I bought this chart. I can't think of anything I would add to it. Plowman includes 22 relevant and specific behaviors along with the reproof, encouragement, Scripture, and "heart-probing" questions for each. There is absolutely no basis for the reviews that say this product promotes "child abuse." I can't find anything in it that suggests physical discipline of any kind. I would highly recommend this chart to anyone, even those who don't agree with Ginger Plowman's book, "Don't Make Me Count to Three."

I am confused as to why there are SO many reviews on spanking when this poster doesn't mention it once. That is why it is entitled "Wise Words."

I find the poster to be uplifting, encouraging and helpful in pointing children in the right direction using biblical teachings.

As opposed to many of the reviews here, this calendar style pamphlet has nothing whatsoever to do with "beating" or even spanking your kids. It doesn't tell you at all HOW to discipline them. So I don't know where people come off with these off the wall remarks about abusing our children except that they desperately need the fulfilling love of Jesus in their lives.

This pamphlet IS, simply, a discussion starter tool to get your children to actually think about their actions and the motives running them; to recognize the wrong actions and motives and replace them with loving caring ones. This is designed to get your children to think outside of self and to think of how what they say and do affects others. To this end the author has given questions and verses to discover the sinful behaviors and, in order that the void created by removing the sin not be filled with another sin, she gives a few verses describing the godly behavior that pleases our Heavenly Father.

Obviously this does not contain an exhaustive list of Bible verses on each topic so if you want to dig further, pull out your Strong's Concordance and do a word study together with your children on the topics where the most desired change is needed.

Above all, have fun training them. Bad behavior is NOT the only teachable moment. In fact, studies have shown that people learn better when not in conflict. Bearing that in mind, while you should address the matter at hand, don't forget to revist the matter from the other side when your child is not currently "in trouble."