Wish I Could Be There: Notes From a Phobic Life (Hardcover)

~ (Author) "In the mid-1970s I was in my late twenties and living on New York's Upper West Side with my French girlfriend, teaching music at three..." (more)

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Starred Review. The author's rampant agoraphobia and compensatory claustrophobia leave him terrified of almost any unfamiliar space, including highways, fields, elevators, bridges, tunnels, heights and airplanes; a walk down a country lane leaves him panting and paralyzed with fear. In this absorbing memoir, Shawn—a composer, son of legendary New Yorker editor William Shawn and brother of actor Wallace Shawn—approaches his panics from several angles. He explores the neurophysiology of phobic fear as an exaggerated, partly hereditary version of the innate human response to environmental threats. But he also offers a heavily Freudian account of his own panics, linking them to his parents' overprotectiveness and the resulting psychosexual and oedipal conflicts he suppressed from childhood onward. The latter perspective informs his vivid portraits of his family life; his brilliant, conflicted father, who suffered from similar phobias; and his autistic twin sister. Drawing on the writings of fellow agoraphobes like Emily Dickinson and Blaise Pascal, Shawn makes his fear of vast, exposed spaces a metaphor for humanity's existential predicament, an inchoate realization that "our brief life span is surrounded on all sides by nothingness." The result is both a lucid explication of psychopathology and a deeply felt evocation of a "pain in the soul." (Feb. 7)
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*Starred Review* A composer, pianist, teacher, and author of a book about Arnold Schoenberg, Shawn is plagued by agoraphobia. Afraid of both open and enclosed spaces, and new places, his fears wreak havoc in his life. Shawn has always tried to conceal these inconvenient phobias, but now, in a deeply personal and brilliantly analytical performance, he explains what it feels like to experience these incapacities, delineates the physiological processes involved, and considers how fear, a survival mechanism, becomes a handicap. Shawn creates elegant metaphors and memorable analogies as he explicates the workings of the brain and offers fresh and provocative readings of Darwin and Freud. And then there is the memoir aspect of his probing inquiry. Allen is twin to a mentally disabled sister and the brother of actor and playwright Wallace. Their father was famed New Yorker editor William Shawn, a man of as many phobias as accomplishments whose longtime extramarital affair with colleague Lillian Ross cast a pall over his family. In assessing his complex legacy, Shawn anchors his simultaneously disquieting and affirming study of phobias to real life and uncloaks many essential facets of the human condition. Donna Seaman
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Product Details

• Hardcover: 288 pages
• Publisher: Viking Adult; 1 edition (February 1, 2007)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0670038423
• ISBN-13: 978-0670038428
• Product Dimensions: 8.3 x 5.8 x 1.1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 14.1 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (23 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #541,397 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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45 of 48 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Insightful, Thoughtful, Inspirational, February 21, 2007

By	Jessilynn Almstead "Mittens" (New York, NY) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

This quick read gives an in depth look at the science behind fear and the realm of emotion, and acts as a memoir at the same time. I recommend this book to anyone who battles phobias, panic, anxiety, shyness, communication difficulty, autism, and any mental illness. The role of family is central, and definitely inspires deep thought about the reader's own experiences, even if very different from the author's. Most people can relate to at least some aspect of the author's account. It ends optomistically, offering new perspectives on phobias and fear as individuals, society and human beings.

8 of 8 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars "I have been dragging a ball and chain everywhere I go.", February 11, 2008

By	E. Bukowsky "booklover10" (NY United States) - See all my reviews (TOP 100 REVIEWER)    (REAL NAME)

This review is from: Wish I Could Be There: Notes From a Phobic Life (Hardcover)

In the foreword to Allen Shawn's "Wish I Could Be There: Notes from a Phobic Life," the author states that he has been afflicted with agoraphobia ("an abnormal fear of being in crowds, public places, or open areas, sometimes accompanied by anxiety attacks") throughout his adult life. When a friend suggested that he write a book about his struggles, the fifty-seven year old Shawn "balked at the idea of presenting this aspect of [himself] in print." The reader quickly senses the author's reluctance to lay his soul bare. Shawn states, "I have not attempted a memoir in a ... comprehensive sense." Therein lies the problem. Instead of letting us into his world and providing meaningful glimpses of his day-to-day life, Shawn keeps us at arm's length. Except in passing, he does not discuss his marriage or his children. Using stilted and formal language, he spends many pages discussing "the brain, the physiology of fear, the way we form habits of thought and behavior, [and] what Freud was trying to describe of the inner life of the mind...." For those not studying to be clinical psychologists, these passages are slow going. Even when Shawn reveals details about himself and his family background, he does so with such detachment that it is difficult to identify with his plight. This sentence says it all: "I have deliberately tried to make my own past into something of an abstraction so that the reader is encouraged to think about his or her own life." "Wish I Could Be There" provides an intellectual perspective into the evolution and biological roots of fear. However, it will disappoint those who prefer a livelier and more anecdotal approach.

Shawn is afraid of heights, traveling by water, open parks, fields, bridges, closed-in spaces, wide-open spaces, tunnels, elevators, and subways. He forces himself to travel, in spite of the anticipatory anxiety that he endures before each trip and his exhaustion when the excursion is over. During panic attacks, he has one or more of these symptoms: nausea, a tightening of the muscles, breathlessness, a raised heart rate, and a feeling of intense isolation. His is "a circumscribed world," but he has managed to enjoy romantic relationships and a fulfilling life as a musician and teacher. There may be a genetic component to Shawn's problems, since his father, William Shawn (who edited "The New Yorker Magazine" for thirty-five years) was phobic and his mother had emotional problems that plagued her for years. In addition, Shawn has always felt deeply saddened about the plight of his twin sister, Mary, who is mentally disabled lives in an institution. His experiences growing up in a family "with many invisible barriers" and secrets (including a hidden affair that his father conducted with a colleague for more than forty years) may have contributed to his troubles.

If you enjoy first person accounts of individuals who courageously confront mental illness, I recommend the superb "The Center Cannot Hold" by Elyn Saks. Ms. Saks's story is amazing and well-written, but what makes it outstanding is her unflinching honesty, clarity, and personal approach to her subject. "Wish I Could Be There" may too clinical and dry for most laymen.

8 of 8 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Nicely Done., March 12, 2007

By	Deborah A. Mceachern "voracious reader" (Honolulu, HI) - See all my reviews

Allen Shawn, who suffers from panic and phobias gives us an insiders view. His father most likely did also, and to cope, he structured his life where he went from home to office, office to home without having to deal with open spaces or Nature which triggered his anxiety. Shawn is taking a closer look at what makes those people with heightened anxiety tick. It indeed is their physiology but what else? I enjoyed the book and highly recommend it to anybody who suffers from anxiety or panic.