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The Wishing Year: A House, a Man, My Soul A Memoir of Fulfilled Desire [Hardcover]

Noelle Oxenhandler (Author)
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July 8, 2008
One New Year’s Day, Noelle Oxenhandler took stock of her life and found that she was alone after a long marriage, seemingly doomed to perpetual house rental and separated from the spiritual community that once had sustained her. With little left to lose, she launched a year’s experiment in desire, forcing herself to take the plunge and try the path of Putting It Out There. It wasn’t easy. A skeptic at heart, and a practicing Buddhist as well, Oxenhandler had grown up with a strong aversion to mixing spiritual and earthly matters. Still, she suspended her doubts and went for it all: a new love, a healed soul, and the 2RBD/1.5 BA of her dreams. Thus began her initiation into the art of wishing brazenly.

In this charming, compelling, and ultimately joyful book, Oxenhandler records a journey that is at once comic and poignant, light and dark, earthy and spiritual. Along the way she wonders: Does wishing have power? Is there danger in wishing? Are some wishes more worthy than others? And what about the ancient link between suffering and desire? To answer her questions, she delves into the history of wishing, from the rain dance and deer song of primeval magic to modern beliefs about mind over matter, prosperity consciousness, and the law of attraction.

As the months go by, Oxenhandler is humbled to discover the courage it takes to make a wish and thus open oneself to the unknown. She is surprised when her experiment expands to include other people and other places in ways she never imagined. But most of all, she is amazed to find that there is, indeed, both power and danger in the act of wishing. For soon her wishes begin to come true–in ways that meet, subvert, and overflow her expectations. And what started as a year’s dare turns into a way of life.

A delightfully candid memoir, unfettered, poetic, and ripe with discovery, Oxenhandler’s journey into the art and soul of wishing will inspire even the most skeptical reader to search the skies for the next shooting star.

Praise for THE WISHING YEAR

"This is a wonderful book, full of wisdom gleaned from a year of Noelle Oxenhandler's daring to embrace what she had previously denied herself--her own personal wishes. I highly recommend The Wishing Year for anyone wanting to learn more about what life has to offer when we pay attention to our heart's desires."
Sarah Susanka, author of The Not So Big Life

"Do you want to know how wishes come true? Then read The Wishing Year. It's a book that beautifully illuminates the art and mystery of wishing--and it does so in a way that is inspiring, funny, serious, honest, heartfelt, and irresistibly readable."
–Jack Kornfield, author of After the Ecstasy, the Laundry

"The Wishing Year is an elegant exploration of the way thought shapes reality. Writing with great personal honesty and candor, Noelle Oxenhandler's exhilarating prose takes us deep into the pain and glory of being human."
–Mark Epstein, M.D., author of Open to Desire

“Oxenhandler's new book makes it okay to be a smart, sophisticated grow-up who also believes in magic. She dives beneath the new age veneer and deconstructs how wishes really come true.” –Susan Piver, author of How Not to Be Afraid of Your Own Life


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*Starred Review* Are wishes mere child’s play, or “does a wish have power?” Finding herself alone and unmoored after passion laid waste to her marriage and her California Zen Buddhist community, Oxenhandler decided to conduct a personal inquiry into the art and consequences of serious wishing. She chronicles her surprising findings in 12 scintillating chapters that mark a year spent wishing for a man, a house of her own, and spiritual healing. A writer of unusual perspectives, ruminating habits of thought, practiced skepticism, and pirouetting prose, Oxenhandler delves into the realms of magic, spirituality, philosophy, and psychology as she analyzes her reluctance to wish for money or material things; excavates the meanings of archetypal figures, symbols, and rituals; explores dreams and mind-over-matter belief systems; portrays a constellation of amazingly intuitive and plucky individuals; dissects self-help books; and attempts to understand a series of astonishing coincidences and spectacular good fortune. In a charmingly self-deprecating and anecdotal mix of the everyday ups-and-downs of a postdivorce recalibration and profound questions of purpose and desire, Oxenhandler offers a stimulating take on the mysterious workings of the universe. This just may hit it big like Elizabeth Gilbert’s Eat, Pray, Love (2006). --Donna Seaman

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“Inspiring . . . fascinating . . . Similar in style to Elizabeth Gilbert’s Eat, Pray, Love, The Wishing Year offers a thoughtful approach to the notion that we can create change simply by signifying our intent.”—Sunday Oregonian


“Readers will enjoy watching Oxenhandler realize her dreams through diligence, hard work and a ‘willing suspension of disbelief’ in the captivating magic of wishing.”—Publishers Weekly

“[Oxenhandler] mines her quotidian ups and downs during a twelve-month period with the exacting honesty and hopefulness of a Buddhist Anne Lamott. . . . [An] endearing combination of meticulous research and winsome enthusiasm.”—Kirkus Reviews

“Recommended . . . joyful and humorous reading.”—Library Journal



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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 304 pages
  • Publisher: Random House; 1 edition (July 8, 2008)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1400064856
  • ISBN-13: 978-1400064854
  • Product Dimensions: 5.8 x 1 x 9 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 14.4 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (32 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #516,807 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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33 of 38 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars The Wishing Year, July 12, 2008
This review is from: The Wishing Year: A House, a Man, My Soul A Memoir of Fulfilled Desire (Hardcover)
"The Wishing Year," by Noelle Oxenhandler, is the kind of book that I am always wishing for--absorbing and lovely to read, and at the same time provocative and intellectually engaging. Along the lines of literary non-fiction like Jonathan Franzen's "How to Be Alone" and Rebecca Solnit's "A Fieldguide to Getting Lost," this memoir stages the existential predicament of how to approach one's own longings and ambitions, with grace and authenticity, while also acknowledging the pressures and realities of our consumer-based society. The comedic pace of the narrative is note-on, populated with wide-ranging geographical adventures, winsome characters, and deeply funny everyday moments. Waking up one January morning, Oxenhandler confronts several absences in her life and decides to embark upon a yearlong quest for very specific objects. Halfway through the book, she refers to her quest as an "experiment in desire," and this phrase seems to embody the underlying ambition of the book itself--to enter into the terrifying quandaries that genuine passion brings with it, while at the same time relishing the wonderful angst, even dread, of wishing. Oxenhandler's experiment gives rise to profound and timeless questions: what do our desires reveal about ourselves? Is it possible to seek spiritual wholeness, or romance, or even financial prosperity, and still retain skepticism towards superficial success, pop psychology, and ego-based desires? Like books by Franzen and Solnit, Oxenhandler's memoir demonstrates what, in my experience, the best kinds of texts ask of their reader--to share in the spiritually intense comedy of human life and to take real risks in the questions that we pose and the desires that we wish for.
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17 of 18 people found the following review helpful:
4.0 out of 5 stars Interesting..., August 10, 2008
This review is from: The Wishing Year: A House, a Man, My Soul A Memoir of Fulfilled Desire (Hardcover)
I really liked this book and it's not the type of book I usually read. There are too many books,tapes,programs,dvd's,etc. you name it-- we are in a storm of "law of attraction" information these days. But there has never been anyone who is not connected in some way to these products that has written about their personal experience while using this information. Very savvy of Ms.Oxenhandler to write a memoir about this topic as well as timely. Magic is a delicious subject and law of attraction is the topic on everyone's list. Ms. Oxenhandler is very knowledgeable about things that I did not expect to be in this book which is what made it an interesting read. Her experiment in making wishes to better her life was fun to read but it is just one layer of this book. The one thing that did disappoint was that she did not give the readers any information about her ailing mother after she spent a great deal of time worrying about and helping to move her from France to CA. All in all it's a good read. You can read this book over a weekend.
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18 of 20 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars An Interesting and Useful Read, July 31, 2008
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This review is from: The Wishing Year: A House, a Man, My Soul A Memoir of Fulfilled Desire (Hardcover)
I spent the whole day yesterday reading this wonderful book. It is the kind of book I've been waiting for for quite some time. It's a book for people who have read all the Law of Attraction, intention manifestation, or even magic books. If you've manifested a few things here and there, but still have some concerns about how it all works or how you can be both spiritual and materialistic, this book is a great start.

It's great to finally read a book that goes deeper into the act of wishing (as the author calls it) and provides its readers with an in-depth real life example of what happens when you take that first step. It's amazing what starts to happen when you take that first step: the Universe responds. I have had experiences like the author and I felt her excitement when things started to happen, seemingly out of nowhere.

That being said, I had a few minor issues with this book. The author herself complains a lot about how her spiritual community fell apart. That's fine and all, but I think it's perfectly clear that she was one of the reasons that happened. She had an affair with a married man (the spiritual mentor of her community) while being married herself. She glosses over this in a couple of sentences in the book. I feel that if she really wanted to grow as a spiritual individual, she would acknowledge that she played a huge part in why her spiritual community fell apart. She should face her own darkness and take some responsibility, instead of always complaining: "Oh, my spiritual community fell apart, and now I don't know who I am." I don't know, maybe she has dealt with those issues. Maybe she is reluctant to share it with the world, and that's understandable.

With that being said, that was a very minor detail I had trouble with. I actually enjoyed 99% of this book, hence the five star rating. It was fun to read her reactions to books that I've read myself, like "It Works" and "The Science of Getting Rich" or that ever-popular movie, "The Secret." (I had a similar reaction to hers.)

Overall, this is a very worthwhile book for anyone who is interested in intention manifestation, The Secret, magic, or whatever. I can't recommend it highly enough.

If you feel like all the books you've been reading sound too good to be true or extremely filtered of real human experience (a whole book of "you can do it, think positive!" gets kind of annoying when you have real life problems to deal with), then I definitely recommend picking up this very interesting memoir.

-Ater
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