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Without Embarrassment: The Social Coward's Totally Fearless Seduction System

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One of the biggest problems I've had with most self-help material on women is that they typically brush off the past as insignificant. But for most people who have extreme difficulty with women -- as opposed to those who at least have occasional success -- truly understanding our inner working and how we came to be this way is paramount to overcoming the obstacles. How can you defeat fear if you don't know where it comes from? Well, maybe some people can brainwash themselves, but not lonely, introverted, critical thinkers. And that's where this book stands out. The author offers keen insight into fear and shame and how they evolve throughout our lives, and in particular, in those early formative years. In fact, the first few chapters of this book may as well have been my autobiography! (Although he hardly mentions religion, which in my case, was a significant contributor to my self-defeating attitude and behavior.)

I also appreciate his approach to courting women (as opposed to "picking up" women). Most other programs advocate manipulation ("negs" or "cocky-funny" etc.), sneeking under the radar ("ask her opinion on something" or "talk to her friends while actually ignoring her a bit" etc.), and other "techniques" that basically only work in crowded, trendy bars and strip clubs, because they ignore the essential nature of the mating game -- we present ourselves, they choose. This is a powerful perspective because it is universal among organisms that reproduce sexually. This perspective is in stark contrast to the banter that most other pickup artists employ that only describes certain limited social characteristics of certain species. Consequently, while other programs advocate gimmicks to "beat the system," Pilinski acknowledges the hard truths (like the shortcomings of being short, or the fact that you will not bed every chick you hit on no matter what Mystery-Cocky-Funny-Hypnosis-whatever methods you use) and instead focuses on the natural dance of courtship. For example, most guys still struggle with women when using the aforementioned methods because these methods all skip the fundamental first "step" -- eye contact. Sure, they give you "rules" for making eye contact, like "don't look away until she looks away" or "move in on the third look." But then they drown you in "approaches" that have you butting into other people's space uninvited. Hence the shenanigans.

This is not a book for the so-called "average frustrated chump" (or AFC in geek-speak) who's looking for that 100%-fail-safe-money-back-guaranteed method.

This book is for guys who are grounded in reality, not kung-fu pickup artist fantasies. This book is for the highly intelligent, creative, wonderful guys out there who find themselves paralyzed by shame and fear and thoroughly naive and ignorant in the mating game. This is for guys who simply want to feel like human beings, not pimps.

I read the ebook version that Mike sells. When I bought it, I was a complete loser with women. (Since then I've gotten much better.) I can without hesitation say that Without Embarrassment was absolutely a godsend for me. My problem used to be that I reeked of a low-status male. I was the classic guy who was dumped on, who acted way too nice to everybody. Mike explains how to cure your low status craving for the approval of others, but at the same time how to display high status without becoming a jerk.

Plus Mike gives some tips and techniques for how to get women to be attracted to you.

When I got Without Embarrassment, I read it over a 2-day marathon. (It's a long book.) It helped my improvement tremendously.

Now, a definite disclaimer about this book: it is NOT for guys who are already good with girls. If you've already got a lot of self-confidence, then you're better off getting more advanced books. But if, like I was, you've got social phobia and constantly feel embarrased about yourself, this book will help you.

Since I'm not shy, I had some doubts about whether the book would be helpful, because the title implied it was geared towards shy people.

Actually the book helps one develop charisma and the personality type that attracts women as well as friends. "Attitude" entails more than self confidence, he shows you how to be the kind of person who people enjoy being with.

The book is very honest. The author doesn't brag but admits his failures and how he dealt with them.

The book is huge and has a lot of information and detail.

Since I went to an all-boys high school I did not get a chance to learn dating skills and how to deal with the opposite sex, so I found the book especially useful in improving my social skills.

I've read the book twice already because there is so much in it, that I missed a few things the first time.

Thank you Mike Pilinski!

I think a lot of the bad reviews here are from dudes who are already good with girls. When I got this book, I was painfully shy, and I credit this book for helping me break out of that.

This is one of the better books on dating. Michael Pilinski speaks directly to the social coward. Never have I read a dating book that speaks squarely to its intended audience. He only mentions problems the social coward is likely to experience (nervousness, anxiety, self consciousness), defines it, and destroys that belief system. The beauty of the book comes from Michael Pilinski's empathy for the social coward, as he claims to have been one himself. This book deals with the issues preventing shy men from dating, so you won't find too much on the opposite sex.

This book is one of the best of not THE best self improvement book ever written. The author is honest enough to reveal some of his failures and experiences.

Author speaks to readers in a manner of a friend speaking to a friend rather than being a teacher which makes it easier for reader to connect with the author on equal level. On top of that, the author seems to be genuine in his effort to help rather than try to sell as much book as possible which make the information in this book a trustworthy source of inspiration.

The BEST self improvement book I'd read so far!

I found this book gave me a deep understanding of all the steps that he describes. He prefers to describe a few technics and ideas, but they are of a profound value and he elaborates a lot about it so you have a very deep understanding of it. I would say it is definitely for BEGINNER to INTERMEDIATE level of expertise... , but it is the BEST to have!

I loved this book. It is officially now one of my favorite reads. You know you're enjoying something when you don't want it to end. This is how I felt with reading Without Embarrassment: The Social Coward's Totally Fearless Seduction System.

This book that Michael Piliniski wrote will help most, men, who are normal but for whatever reasons have psychological flaws like being shy, having fear, being ashamed, possessing low self-esteem, or being afraid of rejection and as a result deathly afraid to approach women for courtship and thus void of having a girlfriend or life-partner.

My "powerful loner"(coined by Pilinski) shame hates me for admitting this but I am one of those guys I described above with the flaws. I just finished reading the book so I haven't had the chance try everything Pilinski says you do but I can already tell his common sense approach and methods does work. One of the things Pilinski say men must do, is dress nice and look stylish, just to initially attract women and you know what, it works! I always had a sense for dressing stylish and cool but for a long time now just dressed down and typically looked plain because subconsciously that was how I felt about myself, not realizing, I was projecting a low-status male image to women everywhere.

Now that I am more confident, better informed on men/women courtship, and enjoy dressing stylish...guess what? I'm getting more women checking me out. That is not something that was happening before I read Without Embarrassment and before I started dressing nice and being more conscious and aware of things around me and myself.

This is only one small example how this book has helped me improve my life.

Thank You Michael Pilinski.

I have a background in Psychology and I studied several classics such as Freud, Jung, Kubler-Ross etc. When I picked up Without Embarrassment my expectations were low, instead I was pleasantly surprised: from cover to cover this book is full of intelligent perspectives about the male/female relationship and the attraction between sexes, all told with a sparkling sense of humor. This book is practical, subtle, and it's miles ahead of all the "alpha male" kind of unrealistic books that you can find around.
I can't praise "Without Embarrassment" highly enough, and I just wish I had read it much earlier. Strongly recommended.

Without embarassment: The social Coward's Totally Fearless Seduction System. Gives you the know into some fear's of dating and relationships. A book on good masculine behavior including suggestions about lifestyle and understanding woman.