Without Embarrassment: The Social Coward's Totally Fearless Seduction System [Kindle Edition]

Michael Pilinski (Author)

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Fear of having your romantic advances rejected by a woman can be a deeply paralyzing near-phobia that can haunt a surprising number of men -- even guys who are otherwise social and even outgoing. Doesn't matter: deeply rooted ideas of diminished self-worth can make it impossible to think, talk, act and sometimes even MOVE when an opportunity to romantically engage a woman presents itself.

If you're the kind of guy who's always had difficulty socializing or interacting with women in such a way, then Without Embarrassment is the book for you.

Author Michael Pilinski lays out a concise plan that shows how to analyze and ultimately overcome the web of fears, anxieties and socially awkward behaviors that can easily ruin your entire social life. Discover how the basis of your love shyness is due to misguided feelings of shame that have become gradually linked to your natural and very human need for affection.

You will learn how to defeat this deadly toxic shame once and for all -- breaking the destructive cycle of inhibition, self-castigation, over-thinking and other self-defeating behaviors that are holding you back. Mike's extraordinary fearless seduction system will demonstrate how to develop a casual, seductive personality that an amazing number of women will find absolutely charming. His clever romantic tactics will improve your odds of successfully making solid emotional connections with women at every step along the path of courtship... from the moment that a girl first catches your eye, to the thrill of ultimately winning her heart.

Without Embarrassment will guide you towards creating the perfect high status male attitude for yourself as well. You will witness a near magical improvement in your ability to attract women once your status appears to go up a few notches in their eyes, the improvement will be stunning!

Mr. Pilinski's book is written with great humor and a conversational style based on his own personal experiences dealing with these very same anxieties and social fears. His low pressure methods of quietly attracting attention to yourself by designing an aura of personal male power makes it extremely safe for even the most fragile male ego to operate with total and complete confidence around women.

Never again stand by helplessly while your mind blanks-out at the worst possible moment when an opportunity to cold approach a cute chick appears. Learn how to "read" a girl by watching how her eyes move when you ask her a question, and then use this 'secret' that you've just learned to connect with her in an entirely natural way that makes it seem like the two of you are on the exact same wavelength. Casual connecting like this can get the seduction ball rolling in no time at all.

So why not learn how to break the destructive cycle of uncertainty and other self-defeating behaviors that are holding your romantic life down today, and get busy designing your very own Grand Social Adventure!

About the Author

Michael Pilinski is the author of two highly acclaimed books in the dating market, 'Without Embarrassment' and his follow-up masterpiece 'She's Yours For The Taking'. The focus of Without Embarrassment centers around helping guys overcome their oversized fear of being rejected by women. We're talking about the sort of paralyzing fear that can completely shut down and stifle any chance of having a normal social life and romantic relations. This fear of rejection was the problem that Mike personally suffered from while growing up -- which ultimately left him barren of any social life whatsoever by the age of 25. During those dark days he somehow found a way to turn things around... literally just boot-strapping himself up out of the social gutter. Step-by-step he made small but vital breakthroughs... asking a girl out, going on a date, trying for a kiss. Fighting his way through the self-hatred and endless recriminations that followed every rejection, Mike finally made it beyond the prison of toxically-shamed affection needs to ultimately overcome an incredible case of rejection phobia. Repeatedly failing at the dating game can cause a man to develop bad social habits or odd public behaviors which make him unappealing and unattractive to women. This keeps him locked in a deadly, never-ending cycle of failure, rejection and withdrawal that can last for a lifetime if not challenged and interrupted. Mike understands this and his books lay out a plan for turning a guy's luck around women immediately. He shares the insights, solutions and work-arounds that he managed to develop on his own to eliminate the types of typical problems that shy and introverted men everywhere have had to deal with in desperate silence for so long. Mr. Pilinski's careful comprehension and treatment of these deeply unsettling issues are what makes his work stand out among the sea of boring, repetitious, copy-cat advice in the dating field. You'll also enjoy Mike's humorous and irreverent writing style. You'll laugh, cry, pound the wall... but most of all thrill to a journey of self-discovery that you will never soon forget.

Product Details

• Format: Kindle Edition
• File Size: 493 KB
• Print Length: 302 pages
• Publisher: Michael Pilinski; 8 edition (October 28, 2002)
• Sold by: Amazon Digital Services
• Language: English
• ASIN: B003YOSDP8
• Text-to-Speech: Enabled
• Lending: Enabled
• Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (14 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #132,598 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)

More About the Author

Mike Pilinski is the author of two highly-acclaimed self-help books in the men's dating market -- 'Without Embarrassment' and 'She's Yours For the Taking'. These books address issues of shyness and social awkwardness in men and especially the irrational fear of rejection that blocks many great guys from achieving social and romantic success with women. His books share the insights, solutions and work-arounds that he managed to develop for himself to eliminate the types of frustrations that shy and introverted men too often find themselves dealing with in shameful isolation.

In August of 2011 Mike published his first science fiction novel called 'The Necronaut'. This is the thought-provoking story of a dying man who has his consciousness experimentally transferred into a computer system, where he finds he's become an 'electro-conscious entity' that can travel back and forth through the barrier separating the living from the dead to report on what he discovers.

This book is Mr. Pilinski's first work of pure fiction -- the original manuscript actually having been written in 1992 and then subsequently lost for 20 years until the efforts of a close friend in 2010 produced an unexpected and surprise recovery of the missing pages. Mike proofread the script and applied a finishing polish to his scientific thriller, rewriting about 10-15% of it to modernize the technology for this first release.

He is currently working on early story development for a second science fiction novel, tentatively titled: 'Sixth Awakening at Neptune'.

In 2009 Mike was drawn into the fascinating world of Forex currency trading and has been captivated with the speculative foreign exchange markets ever since. He was equally bewildered as a newbie, however, trying to navigate the landscape of widely scattered bits of information about Forex that seemed to be haphazardly sprinkled everywhere across the net -- from best trading software, to brokers... to what the heck "pips" even were!

'The Forex Lifestyle' is Mr Pilinski's attempt to shine an introductory light on this intriguing subject for all other Forex beginners to take hold of... crip-notes which they can use to quickly determine if speculating in currency trading might be right for them as well.

Mike fancies himself a true Renaissance man who knows just enough about all sorts of things to make him dangerous. He's scuba-dived without certification (not recommended), made his own rockets from various fireworks parts as a kid (not recommended), learned how to fly an airplane, and even got himself out of a tailspin while practicing wing stalls solo (highly recommended, except for the tailspinning thing). Simply getting his pilot's license wasn't good enough though, Mike spent several years building his own fiberglass-composite two-seat experimental airplane in his garage. Fortunately, he ran out of money and had to sell it before he could kill himself during early flight tests.

Against all odds, Mike is still alive today and in complete possession of all his limbs.

Mike Pilinski's dream is to have his ashes sent to the moon one day so that his carbon remains can look back on the homeworld every morning and smile back at us all like the Cheshire Cat.

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57 of 60 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars FINALLY, an average schlep who understands the plight of the average schlep., May 23, 2006

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A Tone Poem (The Bronx) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Without Embarrassment: The Social Coward's Totally Fearless Seduction System (Paperback)

One of the biggest problems I've had with most self-help material on women is that they typically brush off the past as insignificant. But for most people who have extreme difficulty with women -- as opposed to those who at least have occasional success -- truly understanding our inner working and how we came to be this way is paramount to overcoming the obstacles. How can you defeat fear if you don't know where it comes from? Well, maybe some people can brainwash themselves, but not lonely, introverted, critical thinkers. And that's where this book stands out. The author offers keen insight into fear and shame and how they evolve throughout our lives, and in particular, in those early formative years. In fact, the first few chapters of this book may as well have been my autobiography! (Although he hardly mentions religion, which in my case, was a significant contributor to my self-defeating attitude and behavior.)

I also appreciate his approach to courting women (as opposed to "picking up" women). Most other programs advocate manipulation ("negs" or "cocky-funny" etc.), sneeking under the radar ("ask her opinion on something" or "talk to her friends while actually ignoring her a bit" etc.), and other "techniques" that basically only work in crowded, trendy bars and strip clubs, because they ignore the essential nature of the mating game -- we present ourselves, they choose. This is a powerful perspective because it is universal among organisms that reproduce sexually. This perspective is in stark contrast to the banter that most other pickup artists employ that only describes certain limited social characteristics of certain species. Consequently, while other programs advocate gimmicks to "beat the system," Pilinski acknowledges the hard truths (like the shortcomings of being short, or the fact that you will not bed every chick you hit on no matter what Mystery-Cocky-Funny-Hypnosis-whatever methods you use) and instead focuses on the natural dance of courtship. For example, most guys still struggle with women when using the aforementioned methods because these methods all skip the fundamental first "step" -- eye contact. Sure, they give you "rules" for making eye contact, like "don't look away until she looks away" or "move in on the third look." But then they drown you in "approaches" that have you butting into other people's space uninvited. Hence the shenanigans.

This is not a book for the so-called "average frustrated chump" (or AFC in geek-speak) who's looking for that 100%-fail-safe-money-back-guaranteed method.

This book is for guys who are grounded in reality, not kung-fu pickup artist fantasies. This book is for the highly intelligent, creative, wonderful guys out there who find themselves paralyzed by shame and fear and thoroughly naive and ignorant in the mating game. This is for guys who simply want to feel like human beings, not pimps.

27 of 27 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A Groundbreaking Book For Shy Men, September 21, 2005

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Bruce Peters (Buffalo, NY USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Without Embarrassment: The Social Coward's Totally Fearless Seduction System (Paperback)

I read the ebook version that Mike sells. When I bought it, I was a complete loser with women. (Since then I've gotten much better.) I can without hesitation say that Without Embarrassment was absolutely a godsend for me. My problem used to be that I reeked of a low-status male. I was the classic guy who was dumped on, who acted way too nice to everybody. Mike explains how to cure your low status craving for the approval of others, but at the same time how to display high status without becoming a jerk.

Plus Mike gives some tips and techniques for how to get women to be attracted to you.

When I got Without Embarrassment, I read it over a 2-day marathon. (It's a long book.) It helped my improvement tremendously.

Now, a definite disclaimer about this book: it is NOT for guys who are already good with girls. If you've already got a lot of self-confidence, then you're better off getting more advanced books. But if, like I was, you've got social phobia and constantly feel embarrased about yourself, this book will help you.

14 of 15 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars It should get 6 stars! * * * * * *, July 27, 2006

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This review is from: Without Embarrassment: The Social Coward's Totally Fearless Seduction System (Paperback)

Since I'm not shy, I had some doubts about whether the book would be helpful, because the title implied it was geared towards shy people.

Actually the book helps one develop charisma and the personality type that attracts women as well as friends. "Attitude" entails more than self confidence, he shows you how to be the kind of person who people enjoy being with.

The book is very honest. The author doesn't brag but admits his failures and how he dealt with them.

The book is huge and has a lot of information and detail.

Since I went to an all-boys high school I did not get a chance to learn dating skills and how to deal with the opposite sex, so I found the book especially useful in improving my social skills.

I've read the book twice already because there is so much in it, that I missed a few things the first time.

Thank you Mike Pilinski!