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What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew About Women

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I bought this book for my husband shortly after it first was printed because I thought it would enrich our marriage of a few years. I took a "sneak peek" at the book and read it all in one night! I learned so much about myself as a woman and had some real laughs about how we really do think! My husband read it and commented that three books changed his life: The Bible, "How to Win Friends and Influence People", and this one. He bought a few paperbacks and took them to his young married friends at work. I have given this as bridal shower gifts because its value is lasting. Now I am ordering another one to replace my long lost book I loaned out. It is easy to read a book that it so true but amusing also.

I found this book by chance and decided to read it and I don't regret that I did. This book touches on many causes of depression in women based on a survey Dr. Dobson conducted. I think he did manage to hit the mark but his survey was very leading. He ask women to rank ten items on how much each one bothered them. The list included issues such as self esteem, sexual problems, problem with in-laws, problems with children, time constraints and busyness, hormones, and others. I feel if his survey was a little more open ended he might have found different results, but the problems he choose to address are things all married couples face at one time or another and are worth looking at.

This book is primarily written about stay at home mothers more than women in general. It does promote that women should be at home with their children, especially while their young. Even, Dr. Dobson admits that this situation isn't always possible in our society. This book doesn't state that the only place for women is in the home, but it does encourage those that choose that position. It stresses the importance of full-time mothers and seeks to restore some of the respect that has been lost for them.

After reading this I did gain some insight on women's emotional need to "vent", as my wife puts it, and how that can sometimes be caused by hormones. I also gained new perspective on how a non-involved father's behavior is like forcing his wife to be a single parent. There were a few other things I gained from this book, but to gain them I had to sift through pages of useless information, including a whole chapter on the benefits of hormone replacement therapy.

While I originally started reading this to gain insight on my wife I felt like the book turned from that and seemed most times to be written to women. Like I said, I gained a little. The information in the book is insightful, but it isn't anything I would call profound. To any prospective readers out there I would suggest looking for something else. Its a good book, just not great.

Yes, this book was written in 1977 and it shows. However, there are a few golden nuggets scattered throughout the book. The main purpose of the book is to address the sources of depression in women, as identified through questionnaires filled out by over 5,000 women attendees at Family Life Seminars. According to the survey, the sources of depression in women are (in order of most troublesome to least troublesome): low self-esteem; fatigue and time pressure; loneliness, isolation, and boredom; absence of romantic love in marriage; financial difficulties; sexual problems in marriage; menstrual and physiological problems; problems with the children; aging; and in-law problems.

You can see that the sources of depression in women weren't radically different in 1977 as compared to today. So while the book has some dated attitudes and ideas, it is possible to derive insight from the reading. Each chapter contains anecdotes and Dobson's observations, and ends with a question and answer section.

One of the sections that I found interesting was Dobson's suggestions on how wives can "teach" their husbands about women's emotional needs. Instead of nagging, Dobson says to plan the timing, setting, and manner to focus on your needs and desires rather than his inadequacies and shortcomings. Dobson also has an extended section that examines popular ideas about the meaning of 'love', and another section where he gives tips on how husbands can enhance sensuality in situations where the wife's sex drive is inhibited for whatever reason (and Dobson discusses a short list of reasons). Finally, there is a fascinating section on the emotional and physical symptoms of estrogen deprivation (I would love for this section to be verified or updated by current medical knowledge).

--Lynellen.com

A MUST READ for any HONEST man who wants to support his wife in raising children and maintaining a wholesome family.
If you are a male specie who wants to vegg out on a recliner while waiting for a wife to cook you dinner, then don't waist your time reading this book. You will hate it. Because it is simply against your little miserable existence of avoiding responsibilities. No wonder why there are so many feminazies out there! They are sick and tired of men escaping responsible decisions... I wish those women would hear Dr. Dobson. Let the truth be known. That egocentric bozo they experienced as their husband (or father) is absolutely NOT what God intended a true husband (or father) to be.
I was second-guessing my wife who decided to give up her very successful career to stay home with our kids. After all, the peer pressure is insurmountable! Having read this book, I am inspired as never before to SUPPORT AND CARE FOR my courageous wife. I have recommended this book to all my male friends who have faced similar dilemmas.

An excellent book for those preparing to marry or those who are already married. Dr. Dobson helps "clear the fuzz" for men who "just don't get women." He also includes a section on what husbands wish women knew about men. This book is good for use in continuing discussion between couples.

I found this book to be very insightful--It gave practical advice for both men and women. I also found the return to traditional values to be refreshing. I recommend this book for every Christian couple.

I thoroughly enjoyed reading this book. It provided a lot of useful information and helped improve my marriage of 22 years. I highly recommend this book to husbands of any age. If you're a young husband, this book can REALLY help you get off to a good start.

This book may have been trendy in the 1950's, but it's way out of touch today and it never was based on any facts. It infers that all women are not employed, have few interests in life and are limited in their thinking ability. I don't know how or why the author's wife could have let him write or publish such un-informed, biased rubbish. According to Dr Dobson, women wait all day for their man to return home from thier business lives and take them to cocktail parites and men should be considerate of how limited their thinking is. Judge that for yourself.

This is an old book, but in excellent shape and full of practical information that is still relevant today.

If a guy wants to know about the innerworkings of the female mind than this is the book to buy,it is interesting to see how differently men and women think and is good advice for any guy who truly wants to understand the woman in his life.