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Women with Attention Deficit Disorder: Embrace Your Differences and Transform Your Life Paperback – November 29, 2005
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People who have ADHD are often extraordinarily bright, high achievers, even "miracle workers" among peers. Common companions to this level of achievement are monumental effort, inability to perform, and huge inconsistencies in application of skills.
What people near an individual with ADHD rarely realize is how well that individual is hiding the tremendous time, effort, and inconsistencies behind their accomplishments. All the public sees is the "magic" the ADHD individual can work. What's hidden is the extreme opposite (the "dark side"): an inability to perform so pronounced that the person with ADHD herself cannot grasp a reliable self-image from the enormous range between the low and high sides of her performance. When she shares her difficulties or others learn of them, her peers often react in disbelief and even mockery of the idea that this extraordinary, highly intelligent person cannot manage an everyday task like clearing clutter, doing the dishes, or paying bills. People with ADHD make life-altering decisions in an effort to avoid the failure, discovery of, or mockery/disbelief from peers: they move, quit their jobs, change majors, quit school, pick up addictive habits (self-medicating) like heavy caffeine usage, and so on (Solden, 2008).
Solden confirms that ADHD results in cognitive and psychological challenges, but it is a physical ailment that is medically identifiable via MRI (2008).Read more ›
Sari Solden's fresh perspectives have helped me hop off the Treadmill of Getting Nowhereness that so many women with ADD seem to be on. Her hefty book is packed with eye-opening comments that seem outside the perspectives of most other writers on the general subject of ADD/ADHD.
Solden's focus is on the impact of ADD behaviors on others and how this distorts the mirror in which we seek our sense of self. That dynamic translates into an array of family, community, and workplace issues. She provides the reader with why/because insights that, while never condescending, make recognizably clear and tenable what others have only skimmed over in their rush to suggest clever coping mechanisms.
These insights have already helped me explain to my own significant others -- those who are still speaking to me, that is! -- how I need to approach life and how they can best accommodate my unique style in return for the many ways in which I go overboard accommodating *them*. This delicate negotiation phase is a tricky one that Solden covers, I believe, too briefly given its importance; this is no mere matter of coping mechanisms. In a future edition, she might want to consider expanding that chapter. While at it, she might make her examples of dialog with significant others a little less stilted -- they're written in classic "Therapese" -- so readers could actually imagine themselves saying such things without dissolving into gales of laughter.Read more ›
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I've read quite a few books on ADD, and found this one intelligent and useful. It's greatest virtue is that it articulates really nicely the differences in ADD for men and women. Read morePublished 11 days ago by Col. Mustard
This book changed my life. Honestly. After many years of suffering and therapy, I finally realized (by reading this book) that I might have ADHD. Read morePublished 12 days ago by Aliopa
I'm not crazy, stupid, lazy or flaky. If you have or think you have ADD/ADHD as an adult female you need this book.Published 2 months ago by dreaming of beaches
Very well written. Sari speaks about ADHD as only someone who has this disorder is able to. This book is not about theories but about life situations for women with ADHD>Published 3 months ago by C. Grunert
I felt as if this book was written about my life. I found immense comfort in the realization that I am not alone in my struggles.Published 4 months ago by Hanna drake
My therapist recommended this book and it explained so much of why I am the way I am. I am 63 years old and just was diagnosed recently. Read morePublished 5 months ago by B. CARPENTER
This book is a fantastic resource! I found it engaging, thought provoking and practical. I know I will re-read this one.Published 5 months ago by Savvy Shopping Mom