Women Men Love, Women Men Leave: What Makes Men Want to Commit? [Paperback]

Connell Cowan (Author), Melvyn Kinder (Author)

Product Details

• Paperback: 320 pages
• Publisher: Signet; First Edition edition (May 3, 1988)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0451166418
• ISBN-13: 978-0451166418
• Product Dimensions: 6.9 x 4.2 x 0.9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 6.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.1 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (43 customer reviews)
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43 of 47 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars This Book Helped Me Become A Better Partner in My Relationship, February 10, 2008

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Andrea Wood "Andrea Wood" (New York City) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Women Men Love, Women Men Leave: What Makes Men Want to Commit? (Paperback)

I read this book very recently, and it really helped me with some relationship issues I was having.

The book is divided up into two sections (Leave, and Love), what women do wrong and what women do right. The things I was doing that were unproductive to my relationship were right there in black and white, to read and learn from. It helped also knowing that I'm not the only woman who has done these things, and it also helped that the authors explain psychologically why women do these unproductive things that can hinder the relationship, and also MOST IMPORTANTLY how you can think differently and process things to turn it around and eliminate the unwanted behavior.

It was also reassuring to read the section on what men love and to see the things that I have been doing right.

In part of the Love section, one thing I found very beneficial is where the authors speak about how women keep the passion and sex alive in the relationship. I appreciated hearing it come from the perspective of two men (the authors).

I highly recommend this book.

62 of 74 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A wonderful read with great wisdom, January 27, 2006

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This review is from: Women Men Love, Women Men Leave: What Makes Men Want to Commit? (Paperback)

Loved this book Women Men Love, Women Men Leave : What Makes Men Want to Commit? not because I am looking to snag a man, but because as a widow after thirty eight years with my best friend I wanted to hear from a man what men think and why these days. It is a very informative read and one I would like to see more women read. Even married women whose marriages seem headed for rough waters. There are no games, just direct wisdom for women willing to be quiet and listen and learn.

48 of 57 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars woot woot!, November 25, 2007

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J. Kikuchi (HI) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Women Men Love, Women Men Leave: What Makes Men Want to Commit? (Paperback)

this book is AWESOME! i enjoyed reading men are from mars women are from venus, and this is my 2nd book on relationships/men. i enjoyed this book a little more than men are from mars b/c it really goes into depth abt the psychological aspects of behavior; and knowing is half the battle...right?!

what was also great abt this book was the way they started it off. to really understand the way guys think/feel you need to understand how men bond/are intimate versus the way women are.

as women, when we become intimate, we tend to become "attached." with guys, they tend to go back and forth between attachment and separateness. i guess scientifically, that's just how we are. already, this poses a problem. -=o\ men often need their space but will always feel the need to be with someone at the same time. (pfft, and guys think GIRLS are confusing)

anyway, part one highlights mistakes women make to withdraw the man they're with. they talk abt women who secretly fear intimacy, women who secretly feel contempt for men, & women who give to freely amongst other things. then it goes on to say why these behaviors may draw men away.

part two explains things women can do to improve our relationships and what turns men on (not necessarily in bed).

overall, this is a great book and in the back there's a few quizzes on styles of loving.

i'm actually reading it again.