Women and Their Fathers: The Sexual and Romantic Impact of the First Man in Your Life [Paperback]

Victoria Secunda (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: May 1, 1993

A powerful, groundbreaking exploration of the father-daughter relationship and its influence on a woman's life--from the author of When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends. " . . . you'll better understand how Dad may powerfully influence your romantic choices."--New Woman.

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

Heartfelt, chatty, well researched and supportive, this study clearly demonstrates how a daughter's relationship with that old mystery man, Dad, colors the rest of her love life. Secunda ( When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends ) talked to 150 daughters, 75 fathers and numerous psychologists. Young, middle-aged and elderly, these daughters and fathers speak frankly about filial/paternal love, guilt, failure and abuse. These aspects are grouped into thought-provoking categories (though with some confusing overlap): doting, seductive, demanding, absent or distant dads; maverick, fearful, competitive, good-girl or princess daughters. Seconda winds up with suggestions for both parties on improving their relationship, and offers questions a daughter can ask to find her way into the uncharted territory of the paternal heart.
Copyright 1992 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

From Library Journal

Having completed her hugely successful When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends ( LJ 6/1/90), Secunda moves on to the father/daughter relationship. She theorizes that a woman's adult relationships with men are shaped by her relationship with her father. Dad may have been absent, doting, distant, or demanding; his little girl a maverick, a good girl, fearful, or competitive. In any case, she grows up to marry someone just like Dad. Gender identity and sibling birth order also enter the picture. If the conflicts created by the particular father/daughter relationship are examined, then healing can begin. Both father and daughter can put the relationship in perspective and move on to a more mature relationship. This title will be just as popular as the last. Essential for public and academic libraries with self-help collections.
- Lisa Wise, Three Rivers Lib. System, Glenwood Springs, Col.
Copyright 1992 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 483 pages
• Publisher: Delta (May 1, 1993)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0385310234
• ISBN-13: 978-0385310239
• Product Dimensions: 9.1 x 6.1 x 1.1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1.6 pounds
• Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (4 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #773,544 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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17 of 19 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Eye-opening and powerful., June 16, 1999

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This review is from: Women and Their Fathers: The Sexual and Romantic Impact of the First Man in Your Life (Paperback)

Reading this book was such an eye-opener. It made me identify areas of my life deeply influenced by my relationship with the first man in my life. The truth in its pages was crushing at times, but also a wonderful challenge.

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars mentioned in Emotion: The On Off Swtich For Learning, October 24, 2010

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This review is from: Women and Their Fathers: The Sexual and Romantic Impact of the First Man in Your Life (Paperback)

Mentioned in the excellent book Emotion: The On Off Switch For Learning, by Priscilla L. Vail (see pages 128-129). Discusses the distant father, the good enough father, the demanding father, the seductive father, the absent father, and the doting father. Discusses how the "emotional stances" of adult women may be traced back to what their relationship with their father was like. Very true for me.

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Validating and Life Altering, January 8, 2009

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This review is from: Women and Their Fathers: The Sexual and Romantic Impact of the First Man in Your Life (Paperback)

This book should be a read for every woman who has ever struggled in her love relationships. Learning how the relationship with one's father, or lack of it, has affected your life is powerfully validating and freeing. This book is a huge key to unlocking the past, offering you a brighter understanding for your future!