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Women Who Try Too Hard: Breaking the Pleaser Habits

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Dr. Leman, in his typical witty way, gets right to the heart of the problem- and talks right to me! I was confronted in my patterns of being a Pleaser, which only allowed me to feel comfortable with controllers. I am at a point in my life where I want to get off the merry-go-round of bad relationships. Dr. Leman discusses very practical ways to change my habits, which will in turn help me choose healthier relationships. I have already recommended this book to many of my girlfriends who are ready for change in their relationships- friendships, marriages, dating relationships, family relationships, etc. (Interesting how it all starts with changes in our own perceptions, etc.)

I think the title is a bit misleading. We, as women, have so many different hats we wear and roles we play (well, so do men for that matter). But, as busy as I am as a female and everyone demanding a piece of me and not having much time left for myself, I thought that's what the book was about. It's more about women in abusive relationships, which I'm not. So, I guess it's good for what it's worth, but not what I had in mind.

This book was originally titled THE PLEASERS. As a licensed mental health counselor, I have recommended this book to many of my clients. Dr. Leman helps any woman break free from the demeaning and self-debilitating habit of trying to please everyone but herself. Women have long been taught by society that they take a back-seat to everyone else and been discouraged from being their own person. This book was an instrument of healing in my own life many years ago and it still stands up as a leader among books on this subject. By-the-way, the principles can work for men caught in the "pleaser" trap, too. I hope it never goes out of print! I am using a pen name only due to personal reasons related to safety.

A life-changing book - I would recommend it for anyone who feels they try too hard to please and do not receive the positive feedback they feel they deserve. I bought it for my daughter and she loaned it to a friend and they both agreed with my assessment. I felt like Kevin Leman was writing about me.

This is a great book, but unfortunately it wasn't exactly what I thought it was. I love any book by Dr. Leman, and as a woman who is a pleaser, I find myself overwhelmed with life, not able to say "no" and therefore getting in over my head many times. I was hoping for a book that would help me learn to weed out what to say yes to and what to say no to, as well as how to learn to do that. This is a terrific book for a woman who is in an unhealthy relationship with a spouse. It has some fantastic advice in such a situation, but that is pretty much the focus of the book. I have a great husband who doesn't take advantage of the pleaser in me; so this didn't really fit for me, but it is a terrific book with great advice if you are a woman who finds herself in this type of relationship. I would highly recommend this book, but just not for my type of situation.

My wife says it is a good book. I like the author and watch him on his tv show, so I figured I'd order it for her and then read it afterwards. So far she says its great.