Women's Infidelity: Living In Limbo: What Women Really Mean When They Say "I'm Not Happy" (Paperback)

by Michelle Langley (Author) "Hey, I need to talk to you..." (more)
Key Phrases: numerous sexual partners, affair partners, affair sex, Are Women Naturally Monogamous, The Commitment Game (more...)

Editorial Reviews

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I am no longer a clueless male after reading this book. It should be required reading for men! -- Chris DeAngelo

I am no longer a clueless male after reading this book. It should be required reading for men! --Chris DeAngelo

I felt exposed but also relieved after reading Women's Infidelity - it's nice to know I'm not alone. -- Joann (last name withheld)

I felt exposed but also relieved after reading Women's Infidelity - it's nice to know I'm not alone. --Joann (last name withheld)

Women's Infidelity is one of the most insightful books I have ever read. No stone has been left unturned. -- Scott M.

Women's Infidelity is one of the most insightful books I have ever read. No stone has been left unturned. --Scott M.

Product Description
Is infidelity women’s best kept secret? Given that women initiate 70 to 75% of all divorces, is this secret the catalyst that prompts them to pursue separations and divorces, many under the guise of “searching for self?” How many of these women were happily married prior to their affairs? Are men being divorced by their wives without ever knowing about their wives' extramarital sexual relationships? Women’s Infidelity discusses these and other wide-ranging, but interrelated, topics that help explain the difficulty women have with marriage and long-term fidelity.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 200 pages
• Publisher: McCarlan Publishing (June 1, 2005)
• ISBN-10: 0976772604
• ISBN-13: 978-0976772606
• Product Dimensions: 7.8 x 5.6 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 3.6 out of 5 stars See all reviews (14 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #398,526 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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23 of 27 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars The instruction manual everyone's been asking for..., August 21, 2005

By	Mrs. Sandra J. Loizzo (Geneva, IL USA) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

I cannot believe how wonderfully insightful this book is. As a woman, I can say there isn't a word of this book that I can't agree with. It helped me understand so much about myself and my feelings...about who I am, how I am, and why I am that way.

I am asking my husband to read this to answer many of the questions he has posed to me that I never had answers for, because I really didn't understand myself. Things like, "Why don't women just tell men what they want?"

It's a shame that the title intimidates and fends off some men. I think this book has great potential to help bridge the gap between the sexes and serve as a jumping off point for a lot of open dialogue.

Regardless of whether either partner has ever experienced infidelity - either on the receiving or giving end - this book's conversational style (while sometimes a bit contrived) makes it an easy read and allows the reader to self-examine and identify with a myriad of topics and situations which are discussed.

I am so grateful that Michelle has taken her curiousity about a topic and turned it into what has been for me, and will ultimately prove to be for so many readers, a life-changing event.

30 of 37 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Finally - Let's Get Real About Females!, February 13, 2006

By	J. Cox - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

This is a must read for anyone wanting to better understand the male/female dichotomy. Michelle addresses many issues about female sexuality directly and accurately. Its important to realize that there isn't such a huge chasm between male and female behaviour when you take into consideration that we are ALL humans with human traits. This means we all basically want the same things - we just go after them in different ways based on available resources, culture, and individual personalities.

Personally, I have always found it interesting that there are women that will not be honest about sexuality; even when discussing it with a close female friend. This is one of the main reasons why the studies on female sexuality are often seriously flawed. As Michelle points out - when it comes to the topic of sex, women often lie (or fail to disclose) and men often exaggerate. If many females won't be truthful or even discuss sexuality with a close friend, how is she going to react to a survey or an interviewer when it comes to the same topic?

Michelle also challenges the myth of "natural female monogamy." In pure Dawinian terms, propagation of the species is best accomodated when a female has children with varying genetic makeups (i.e. different fathers). When a disease strikes, there is a better chance that more offspring will survive since all have probably not inherited the same genetic weaknesses. If all of the offspring have the same father, there is a higher chance that more children will be wiped out if they come into contact with a disease for which all share the same genetic weakness. This is the counter balance to the traditional societal justification for cheating males in that it is a Darwinian urge to impregnate as many females as possible. Females have to deal with similar drives; therefore, all are not "naturally monogamous." However, as humans we must balance our instincts with our higher thinking. We now live in world where neither one of these instinctual behaviours provides a good backdrop for the rearing of modern children.

Of course, with both men and women, cheating is a choice. This is why its necessary for women to be aware of the natural drives that may be the root cause of their cheating compulsion. Restlessness or "unhappiness" is not always the husband's fault.

11 of 12 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A must read!!!, June 8, 2008

By	Grasshopper (Tennessee) - See all my reviews

These two books are awesome...they have so much insight to the communication breakdowns between men and women. The information is invaluable. As with any persons point of view, there are some issues within the book that I do not agree with (with reguard to chastity and morality), however I could not close my eyes nor could I discount the value of the information given, it was as if the author had been sitting in my house watching my relationship with my wife....some of conversations/arguements given in the book were the EXACT same conversations I have had with my wife...TO THE WORD! I could not believe the accuracy of these books...it is amazing!

I have seen other reviews that were negative and it inspired me to write this one...if you found these books as a waste, you have not had relationship problems, did not read them, or mabee you are in denial about reality.

These books described, with great detail, every relationship I have had over the last 20 years. I am so glad I found these books. They have helped heal my self-esteem that women have slowly destroyed by failed relationships. Finally I have an answer for what happened!!! I should have see it everytime.

The price on amazon is a ripoff....go to the authors link and download both books for $40.00.