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Product Details

  • Paperback: 352 pages
  • Publisher: Harmony; Revised edition (March 26, 2002)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0609809091
  • ISBN-13: 978-0609809099
  • Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 5.5 x 1 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 12.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.1 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (92 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #42,600 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

Former director of women's programs at UC Berkeley, Page now conducts singles workshops for both sexes. Men and women who want permanent partners will benefit from her "10 strategies that will change your love life forever," as set forth in this engaging guide. The advice is illustrated by case histories of Page's clients, whose progress toward emotional fulfillment is described in their own words. Also detailed are stories of failed relationships and their causes. Each chapter contains an experiment designed to teach readers why they may be losing at love by clinging to partners who won't commit themselves; rejecting or showing ambivalence to promising mates, etc. The primary lesson to be gleaned here is that choosing a mate for life means knowing yourself first and recognizing a person with similar standards; not settling for less. An appendix gives tips on running a singles support group. 50,000 first printing; $50,000 ad/promo; first serial to Cosmopolitan, Self and Glamour; Literary Guild and Doubleday Book Club alternates.
Copyright 1988 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

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Susan Page?s bestselling relationship book has been translated into 18 languages, is being read in more than 25 countries, and its mass-market edition has sold more than 158,000 copies. At the heart of this book are Page?s famed 10 strategies for readers to better self-understanding and ultimately a fulfilling relationship. Filled with revealing anecdotes, case studies, and quizzes, the book?s down-to- earth guidance will appeal to everyone who devoured books like Mars and Venus on a Date and Getting the Love You Want, and anyone who wants a fulfilling intimate relationship.

"Behold a wonder?a romantic self-help book that is intelligent, upbeat, practical, useful, winning, and even wise." ?Kirkus Reviews

From the Trade Paperback edition. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

More About the Author

Repeat Oprah guest Susan Page has been conducting workshops for both singles and couples, nationally and internationally since 1980. She has keynoted dozens of relationship conventions and was invited to share the platform with John Gray at his Masonic Auditorium event in San Francisco. Her international speaking and media career has taken her to twenty-six states, Canada, Korea, Australia, Singapore, and Mexico. She is a past chapter president of the National Speakers Association.
Page was a consultant to writer/director Gary Goldberg on the movie Must Love Dogs, released by Warner Pictures in August of 2005.

A veteran of national television and radio, Susan Page has appeared on the Oprah Winfrey Show, Good Morning America, CNN, NPR, Donahue, Geraldo, Leeza, Montel Williams, Sonya Live, The Diane Rehm Show plus dozens of other radio and TV shows across the country.
Excerpts of Susan's works have appeared or been reviewed in People Magazine, USA Today, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, Glamour, Self, New Woman, McCall's, Woman, Marriage and scores of other publications.
Susan Page is the author of four books about relationships plus a publishing guide for writers.

Her first book, If I'm So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single? has been translated into twenty foreign languages. It was the number one bestseller in Russia in 1994 and is currently celebrating its 25th year in print. Page's books have sold more than a million copies in the U.S. and worldwide.

Susan Page is a graduate of Oberlin College and holds a Master of Divinity degree from San Francisco Theological Seminary. She began her career as campus minister at Washington University in St. Louis and at Columbia University in New York. Later, she served as Director of Women's Programs at the University of California, Berkeley, where she helped found the nation's first university-based human sexuality program.

When she is not conducting workshops in the United States, Susan Page lives in San Miguel de Allende, Mexico, with her husband of thirty-two years. She founded and is the Director of the legendary San Miguel Writers' Conference and Literary Festival.

To learn more please visit www.susanpage.com

Customer Reviews

I highly recommend this book to any single person out there finding love.
Self Discovery
I bought this book in 1990 and still have my copy with multi-layers of highlighting.
Cinnamon Girl
I feel so much better inside, so I know I will attract the right man for me.

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

305 of 328 people found the following review helpful By Duana C. Welch on November 8, 1999
Format: Mass Market Paperback
I almost didn't pick up this book, due to its obnoxious title. What a misfortune that would have been for me. Recently divorced, I was confronted by a sea of tomes claiming that they could help me to find a lasting love. However, at the time, I was finishing a Ph.D. in psychology, and I could see that most of the popular books were actually filled with terrible advice--especially the advice to "settle" and accept that "you can't always have what you want" in love.
Today, I own a business in which I assist clients in finding and using research-based techniques to bring them a lifetime love, one they enthuse about and can't get enough of. Although I base much of my guidance of clients upon scientific research, it's also wonderful when I can locate that rare self-help book whose advice is worthwhile and is supported by the research. Many popular press books lead the reader astray, because they rely solely on the author's opinion...but my reading of the relevant research shows that Susan Page's book is truly on the mark and advises the use of techniques that will, when consistently applied, result in you, yes you, finding the love of your life!
I speak from personal experience, and not only from the dry, academic air of the library. Before beginning my business, I tested Page's ideas and recommendations in my own life. Today, and in no small part due to her book, I am married to the love of my life, a "catch" by anyone's standards, who adores me with all his heart. He, too, refused to "settle," so we were available when we met. Almost every day, one or the other of us remarks that we must truly be the world's luckiest couple.
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117 of 124 people found the following review helpful By Kathryn Lord on September 17, 2004
Format: Paperback
I've always read lots of books about singles and how to find a mate, and that rate has sped up since I'm now a Romance Coach. But somehow I had missed Susan Page's "If I'm So Wonderful, Why am I Still Single?" even though it has been out since 1998, the last year I was single myself. Where have I been, and why hadn't I seen this book?

Susan Page writes for "involuntary singles" -- straight, gay, male or female, each and every one of us who is single and wishes we weren't. Relentlessly positive, she starts off right to the point with "So why are you still single anyway?" And then, just when we've gotten over that shock, she states flatly:"Whatever your reasons are for being single, if you want to be in a relationship, no reason is good enough." Then Page goes about tearing apart every good reason we've ever come up with to keep ourselves single.

Here's what Page takes on and turns around: Ambivalence (my favorite), those "Dreadful Statistics," the myth of "There are no good ways to meet people," and having and keeping high standards. Then she works on developing skills in what she calls "Frog kissing": Learning to say no, how to recognize true intimacy, avoiding "commitmentphobes," handling the intimacy gap, and learning to say "yes." And in the last section, "Keeping It All Together While You Look," Page tells you just how to do all that.

This is easily the best, most thorough, rounded and positive book about relationships and dating I have seen. If you are one of Page's "involuntary singles," this book needs to be in your library. Five chocolate dipped strawberries for Susan Page! This is quite a book.
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90 of 99 people found the following review helpful By Cath46@aol.com on July 20, 1998
Format: Mass Market Paperback
Despite a title that makes you want to cover the book in brown paper, I found this book to be one of the most insightful on the subject. It helped me clarify what I'm looking for in a mate and has helped me avoid "Better-Than-Nothing" relationships. I highly recommend it for the recently divorced, as it will help them understand why they married as they did. The subject of hidden ambivalence was the most insightful. Now that I've resolved my own ambivalence, I can usually identify it in others. I especially found the straightforward and pragmatic approach to dating to be results-producing. If every single person read this book, we'd have more well-suited marriages!
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38 of 39 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on August 18, 2002
Format: Paperback
After being devastatingly dumped by a guy I thought was "the one," I picked up Susan Page's book. It completely changed the way I looked at dating and relationships. I had been "settling" for men that just didn't hit the mark. I read and reread the book, and became more focused on what qualities I was looking for in a man. I got up the courage to join a dating service and I stuck to the principals in Susan Page's book. After dating for a year, I met a wonderful man that I've happily shared my life with now for nine years. Frankly, it wasn't "love at first sight" and because of Ms. Page's book, I didn't write this guy off too quickly - he had all the qualities I was looking for. Aside from the practical relationship advice, I also like the spiritual undercurrent of the book. The life lessons I learned from the book about establishing "gotta-have" qualities and "operating from abundance" have also translated to things like job and house hunting!
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74 of 81 people found the following review helpful By J. Marui on May 3, 2005
Format: Paperback
There are two kinds of self-help books: ones that encourage you to look inside and to change yourself and ones that promise you that by modifying your behavior you can change your life. The first kind inspires you and makes you grow - the latter makes you stagnate. The first kind doesn't make you feel good - it makes you think. The second kind makes you feel good temporarily (because, while you are reading it, you are carried away by its promises of easy solutions), but doesn't change anything - neither inside you nor in your life.
This book is of the first kind. It promotes awareness and honesty to oneself and others instead of using tricks and schemes. It helps you answer the question - why are you alone. It encourages you to look for a partner and advises you how. And doesn't let you settle for less.
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