Wounded Boys Heroic Men: A Man's Guide to Recovering from Child Abuse [Paperback]

Daniel Jay Sonkin (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: June 1998

Wounded Boys Heroic Men is a workbook for transformation. Specifically written for and about men. This is the first book to address their issues of physical, sexual, and psychological abuse. Dr. Daniel Sonkin carefully prepares a road map for the recovery process, including insightful stories of real survivors, as well as direction and reassurance.

More important, this unique book provides hope, relief, and comfort for millions of victims too proud to explore their suffering. Carefully analyzing the feelings, attitudes, and behaviors of abused men. Dr. Sonkin teaches methods that break the vicious cycle of violence, make peace with the abuser, and in return find peace within.

Comprehensive and enlightening, Wounded Boys Heroic Men is also a guide to help partners, friends, and family members better understand the struggles these men face, so that they can support the healing journey. Dr. Sonkin's message is simple: With help, healing is possible.

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About the Author

Daniel Jay Sonkin, Ph.D. is a Licensed Marriage, Family and Child Counselor in a group practice in Sausalito, California. Considered one of the world's foremost experts on treatment of male batterers, Dr. Sonkin was one of the early investigators and specialists in the field of family violence. He is the co-author of the first book written for batterers, Learning to Live Without Violence.

Product Details

• Paperback: 240 pages
• Publisher: Adams Media; 1 edition (June 1998)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1580620108
• ISBN-13: 978-1580620109
• Product Dimensions: 9.2 x 7.3 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 14.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (9 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #321,546 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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39 of 41 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A must read for men dealing with childhood abuse issue, April 4, 2001

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Jerry H Meadows (Toledo, Ohio United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Wounded Boys Heroic Men: A Man's Guide to Recovering from Child Abuse (Paperback)

I have found this book to be a valuable resource for men dealing with childhood abuse issues. As a survivor, I found most of the literature on abuse to be directed toward women. Sonkin directs this towards men and speaks to the issues men go through. Though not an easy read, I have had many of the issues described thoughtfully and caringly in a way that speaks to me. Many of the thoughts and feelings that I've experienced were laid out in the book, but solutions also offered. If you are just beginning your journey to healing or well along the process, this book can be helpful along the way.

17 of 17 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Clarification to comments by "Ken", July 28, 2006

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Daniel J. Sonkin "Daniel J Sonkin, Ph.D." (Sausalito, CA USA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Wounded Boys Heroic Men: A Man's Guide to Recovering from Child Abuse (Paperback)

The section of the book that the reviewer is referring to is a quote from a member of my men's group, and not about myself. However, it is important that readers understand that for many different reasons, people are unable to face the realities of their abuse and as a result may inadvertently put loved ones at risk. This is unfortunately an all-to-common consequence of all forms of child maltreatment. It is not constructive to judge their actions in the past, but to help them change for the present and future. What was important for this particular man, was that he did ultimately face his problems and heal not only his own wounds, but his relationship with his son. He struggled for many years and his hard work ultimately paid off. Today, he has a wonderful relationship with his son and his new grandchildren.

31 of 35 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars best self help book ever, September 5, 2001

By A Customer

This review is from: Wounded Boys Heroic Men: A Man's Guide to Recovering from Child Abuse (Paperback)

This is a great book. I have found most self help books, and most psychologists, lacking empathy for victims of abuse. I have made many unsuccessful attempts in the past to work through my problems but never made any real progress. Dr. Sonkin breaks the process down into four steps- experiences, feelings, attitudes, and behaviors- which have made it possible for me to understand how to work through it all. And the great empathy he expresses was what allowed me to get beyond the usual andger and alienation I feel toward therapists, who tend to be judgemental and condescending. I went through and did all the exercises and wrote everything down- in particular writing down all the feelings lifted a great burden from me.

If you are suffering from the effects of abuse, find a good therapist and get this book. Life will look a lot better.