My daughter is 9 and simply loves this bot. I'll let her write this review in her own words:
I treat my Femisapien like a real best frend!!! and I LOVE HER.
She has hidden modes. She is a COOL robot, and remember: she is a great
gift for someone special age 8 and up, but not for children under 8
years of age.
My daughter has successfully programmed her Femisapien, so I can't see what would be so difficult about that aspect. As she has noted above, she absolutely adores her, and can't stop telling people about how wonderful she is.
Insofar as durability is concerned, I have seen her fall backwards with no damage, even onto a hard floor. To ward against scratches, some spray wax does wonders. Be prepared for some battery changes, as she will consume quite a bit of power, but even these aren't too terrible.
Overall, I've found this to be a good investment for my "toy" dollars, and would recommend her to anyone with a robot-minded daughter (like mine).