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Writing as a Way of Healing: How Telling Our Stories Transforms Our Lives

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This is the only book I know of that teaches a disciplined form of writing for the purposes of therapeutic healing. This is very different from writing in a journal, which many books have covered. The author describes a process which she has used herself and taught to many students. The first part of the book goes into the concept of how writing can be healing. She has one simple principle, which is that the writing must include both events and feelings about the events. Either one by itself will not have the same effect. She uses examples from her own writing and authors such as Virginia Woolf and Isabel Allende to show how this combination of events and feelings works.

The second part is all about the process and she guides the reader through the steps, with caring and encouragement, just as if you were in one of her classes. The process begins with preparing, planning, and germinating, which are basically about choosing one story to tell, letting ideas come to you, taking notes. The next steps are working, deepening, shaping, ordering, and completing. This is where you dive in and give structure to your story. This stage contains at its center one piece of modest and practical advice, which is to write five complete pages per week. If you do that, and by the time you finish the book you will believe that you can, within just a couple months you'll have completed a 40 page memoir.

Louise DeSalvo, Ph.D. says, "writing has helped me heal. Writing has changed my life. Writing has saved my life." In her newest book, Writing as a Way of Healing: How Telling Our Stories Transforms Our Lives, DeSalvo provides readers with detailed instructions on how they, too, can heal themselves.

Unlike most authors, DeSalvo doesn't advise writers to free-associate, or write whatever comes to mind in whatever order it comes, as a way of healing. She recommends, instead, choosing a traumatic event and fully exploring it. She says "to improve health, we must write detailed accounts, linking feelings with events."

She cites numerous studies showing that people who wrote about traumatic events, and included the details of their emotions, initially had negative feelings to overcome, but then experienced many long-term positive benefits. Those benefits were both mental and physical, including improvements to the immune system. She says "when we deal with unassimilated events, when we tell our stories and describe our feelings and integrate them into our sense of self, we no longer must actively work at inhibition. This alleviates the stress of holding back our stories and repressing or hiding our emotions, and so our health improves."

A researcher into the therapeutic benefits of writing for more than twenty years, DeSalvo has filled her book with examples, including the effect of her mother's severe depression on her life, excerpts from diaries and journals of people like Virginia Woolf and Isabel Allende, and numerous essays from her writing students.

"This book is an invitation to engage with your writing process over time in a way that allows you to discover strength, power, wisdom, depth, energy, creativity, soulfulness, and wholesomeness. . ." DeSalvo says. She recognizes that people are busy and asks only that they commit fifteen minutes a day, four days a week, to writing the story of their lives. We can use the "tiny pockets of time throughout our day," like time spent waiting in traffic jams or at supermarket checkouts, if that's all that we have.

Writing as a Way of Healing is meant for anyone who has survived childhood. You don't have to be an experienced writer to benefit from DeSalvo's advice and techniques--the only requirement is a desire to heal your emotional wounds and find the joy in life that is rightfully yours.

No book can teach you to write, unless it is a formulaic recipe, cookbook sort of guide. Writing as a Way as Healing is exceptional because it has a particular point of view regarding the value of writing--specifically, exploring dis-ease through the written word. DeSalvo focuses on PROCESS, which is the simple idea that through writing one discovers how to write, and what particular story one is destined to write. This alone is invaluable advice since much writing is pre-packaged and pre-determined so that it is predictable. Both experienced and inexperienced writers can take this advice to heart since it encourages one not to feel as though writer's block is not having anything to write about, but rather not finding what one needs to write about. The book is supplemented by both references and quotes from well-known writers who have written about pain and illness, and includes empirical data about the healing power of writing. This is a good book. Period.

My daughter Debbi gave me this book for my birthday. I read Ms. DeSalvo's book when I was in the final stages of confronting the tragic suicide of my father that happened two days before my high school Senior Prom. For nearly fifty years after the day my entrepreneur father put a gun to his head and pulled the trigger his death gnawed at me. By facing what happened to me on that dreary spring day in Boston and trying to make sense of my Pop's state of mind on the day he died I was able to dig down deep into my soul and describe how I felt. I opened up my heart and was able to face a time only years had kept at bay. By writing about my heretofore-suppressed feelings I began to sob over the keyboard and took my first steps to understand why my father died. Desalvo's book validated my earlier conclusion that writing is truly a way of healing.

DeSalvo writes from personal experience, from understanding the prison of secrets/pain/abuse/emotional trauma, and she does so in a simple format that encourages us all to come to grips with our demons. Having written poems while in Vietnam while a Battalion Surgeon for the USMC as means of codifing pain to make it tolerable, I have been in DeSalvo's "trenches". But in reading this warm little book I am returning to that personal prison and this time, with DeSalvo's help I think I might stand a better chance to get it right! Even if you are not interested in writing, this book is so nurturing in its approach to dealing with buried or hidden trauma that it is almost guaranteed to help all sensitive readers read...and live...better.

Louise DeSalvo has offered an incredibly valuable resource to anyone interested in writing from the heart, whether for publication or just for themselves. What struck me most, besides her own personal courage and breadth of knowledge about literature and other writers, was how incredibly accessible she makes the writing process. So often we think of books as springing fully formed from the head of Zeus when in actuality a lot of murkiness and revision takes place before the work truly reveals itself to the author. This isn't just for the creative writer either; I found it very helpful for my academic writing and her suggestions for reflecting on each person's own writing process and studying it to determine what your optimal writing conditions are has been crucial in making me a happier and more productive writier.

I have read a great many books on writing, and written a few myself. But Writing as a Way of Healing has gone straight to the top of my list of favorites, and I suspect that it will stay there for a very long time--perhaps for all time. But in the process of reading this book, I discovered I had to read the book that went before it, and now I want to tell you about both.

Louise DeSalvo has been teaching English and creative writing for nearly twenty years. The first in her working-class Italian family to graduate from college, she escaped a soul-deadening home life--a depressed mother, an angry father--by reading, going to the movies, and dating, dating, dating. It wasn't until the late 1980's, when she wrote a scholarly book about the impact of childhood sexual abuse on the life and work of Virginia Woolf that she began to come to terms with her own childhood traumas and the lingering shadows of her mother's death and her sister's suicide. She dealt with her pain, anxiety, and depression in a memoir called Vertigo (now available in paperback, published by Plume), in which she explored her own story. Vertigo isn't a pleasant book, or easy--it's about hidden pain and the depression and despair into which a woman can fall when she attempts to avoid self-knowledge. But it is a necessary book, for through it, DeSalvo learns that the process of life-writing is also the process of healing. What she discovered in Vertigo, and what she subsequently put to use in her own teaching, is the subject and object of Writing As a Way of Healing.

DeSalvo's section and chapter titles, by themselves, are helpful clues to the book's significance. The first section is called "Writing as a Way of Healing," and contains four chapters: Why Write, How Writing Can Help Us Heal, Writing as a Therapeutic Process, and Writing Pain, Writing Loss. Section Two is called "The Process/The Program," and has four chapters: The Healing Power of the Writing Process, Caring for Ourselves as We Write; and Stages of Growth I and II. The third section, "From Woundedness to Wholeness Through Writing" contains two chapters: Writing the Wounded Psyche and Writing the Wounded Body. The Epilogue is called "From Silence to Testimony." Each of the chapters contains suggestions for writing, examples (from such writers as Audre Lorde, Alice Walker, Jamaica Kincaid, Isabel Allende, Djuna Barnes), discussion, and ideas--lots of ideas, so many ideas that you'll find yourself wanting to stop reading and start writing (something that DeSalvo herself, no doubt, would applaud).

DeSalvo refers extensively to a favorite researcher of mine--Dr. James Pennebaker--whose book Opening Up has been an important influence on my own understanding of the healing power of the writing process. When we use writing to explore traumatic or anxiety-provoking events in detail, together with the feelings that arise from those events, the writing process can help us to understand more clearly, cope in a more balanced way, and even feel better physically. Seen from this point of view, life-writing becomes a lifetime project, as we unravel the meanings of events and explore our responses to them. When we commit ourselves to this very important lifelong project--recognizing that we don't write our story once and for all and forget it!--we commit ourselves to a lifetime of learning, growing and healing.

by Susan Wittig Albert
for Story Circle Book Reviews
www.storycirclebookreviewsorg
reviewing books by, for, and about women

This book was an absolute God send! Thank you to the reviewers for your honest and open assessment of this book. Without your valuable feedback, I would not have picked it up! And thank you to Ms. DeSalvo for sharing your research and experience with us! If, like me, you have always felt an incredible ache to write but have been too afraid to sit down and face the page, this book may help you to recognize that inner voice and the benefits of following it's guidance in an exploration of your own story - whether it be in the form of fiction, poetry, journaling or memoir. You are not alone in this, there is a very real reason you feel great discomfort every time you run away from your writing and such relief when you finally admit to yourself what you must do and just allow yourself to do it. The world is waiting to hear your story and this book can help you see the rewards of telling it, both personally and globally.

Although the book was not quite what I was expecting, i.e. a book that teaches you how to journal, I found it exceptional nonetheless. It was inspirational as it shared stories of other writers who write to save their sanity and souls. It also offered useful techniques to get you thinking about your memories and how to record them.

I highly recommend this very readable book.

Thank you, Louise, for Writing As A Way of Healing. To others this may be just another helpful book on writing, but to me it has been pages of self-discoveries. After the first few chapters I cried to my family, "I am not alone and I am not insane!" Ever since the death of my four-year-old son, Daniel, I questioned my obsession to write. Why did I have such a high need to pen thoughts and poems on paper? Louise shows in this book how many with tragedies wrote in order to survive. As Alice Walker said about writing, "The lives we save are our own." I recommend this therapeutic book to others who have rocky paths to walk and find peace through their muse.