If You Could Hear What I See [Abridged, Audiobook] [Audio Cassette]

Kathy Buckley (Author), Buckley Kathy (Reader)

Book Description

Publication Date: August 1, 2001

America's acclaimed hearing-impaired comedienne tells her extraordinary story -- an inspirational account of hope, transformation, and bucking the odds.

Born with a hearing loss that went undetected until she was eight, Kathy Buckley grew up in a quiet world, her family and teachers assuming she was slow. After overcoming this obstacle she went on to face other challenges -- abuse, poverty, being run over by a jeep, and cancer. Rather than be consumed by grief, Kathy sought the light of laughter, going on to become a successful female comic, an awardwinning writer of a one-woman show, and a beloved motivational speaker in demand throughout the country.

Here, Kathy offers hilarious and soulful vignettes of the people and places that have transformed her life, revealing the gift that gave her power over her future -- a gift available to every one of us. If You Could Hear What I See is about a woman who made a choice: to overcome all the obstacles life threw her way, and to meet those challenges with dignity, courage, and laughter.

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From Publishers Weekly

Buckley, the country's first hearing-impaired comedian and now also a motivational speaker, certainly has the story to back up her words. Buckley grew up in a smalltown Ohio family of noncommunicators who somehow neglected to explain to her the fact of her hearing loss (at age eight, "I still assumed everyone heard the same way I did"). Besides one good friend and one good teacher, her youth was replete with misunderstanding and misery. She halfheartedly attempted self-destructive behavior, was run over by a Jeep, found her first real lover and left him after she was diagnosed, at age 27, with cervical cancer. She rejected a second operation "I decided to take that incredible gift called choice" and changed her diet and her life, most notably confronting the man who'd molested her as a child. She describes affectingly the experience of finding her first effective hearing aid. Then, two-thirds of the way through her tale, she somewhat surprisingly as the memoir up to here is more sober than funny explains that since she'd always used laughter to win people over, she went into comedy and soon added motivational speaking to her performance repertoire. Her message: "get over it and get on with... life." Buckley rebuilds her own relationship with her mother and finds a surrogate family. She urges communication (to break down walls), decries ignorance (which lets people accept unfair labels) and credits God's guidance for putting extraordinary people in her path. Buckley's spirituality might not convince skeptics, but her hard-won victories surely have given her the capacity to see and point others to the bright side. (July) Forecast: Buckley's PBS special will air in August. Audiences know her she is a five-time Comedy Award nominee and the subject of an Emmy-winning documentary and her inspirational story should sell well.
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About the Author

Kathy Buckley's remarkable life story was the basis of her one-woman show, Don't Buck With Me, which was critically acclaimed and earned her the L.A. Ovation Award for best writing. A five-time American Comedy Award nominee, she has appeared on The Tonight Show with Jay Leno, Good Morning America, and Entertainment Tonight. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

Product Details

• Audio Cassette
• Publisher: HarperAudio; Abridged edition (August 1, 2001)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0694525782
• ISBN-13: 978-0694525782
• Product Dimensions: 7.1 x 4.4 x 1.3 inches
• Shipping Weight: 5 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (12 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #3,510,363 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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18 of 18 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Smile and Make the Best of It!, August 1, 2001

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This review is from: If You Could Hear What I See: Lessons About Life, Luck, and the Choices We Make (Hardcover)

"Learn to use what you have instead of worrying about what you don't." That advice pretty well sums up this book, which delivers the message with a wry, self-effacing joke and a smile.

Several years ago, my wife and I attended a Tony Robbins seminar in which Ms. Buckley was one of the fellow participants who was "working on herself" just like the rest of us. She was doing this, although she had often been a motivational speaker at similar sessions for Mr. Robbins. I was intensely touched by her then, and am even more moved now by reading about her story in detail.

As she says, Ms. Buckley was a victim of ignorance . . . that of others and her own. Probably due to one or the other of severe childhood problems, she has very little hearing. Neither her parents or the school realized this until she was 8. The remediation helped a little, but not enough. She was a poor lip reader, no one tried to make it easier for her, she didn't have hearing aids that did her any good, and schools generally did not give her the special support she needed. As a result, she was more often treated as a mentally retarded person or as a trouble-maker than as a hearing-impaired person. It's hard to know what you don't know in that situation. In many cases, she describes the shock of hearing simple things for the first time (like the laughter of a baby, paper rustling, and the warning bell in a car).

Her second challenge was that having so many things to learn, she was often shunned by others. This made developing her emotional connections slow and difficult. Her parents were not very communicative (even for those who could hear them), and friends and mentors were the exception rather than the rule.

As a result, Ms. Buckley reached a sense of self-awareness and emotional connection that most adults have at 22 only after age 40. The story of how she got there is fascinating. You'll feel like it's happening to you. In addition to the hearing problems, she also had to overcome challenges related to having cervical cancer before she was 30, almost dying in a car accident (while lying peacefully on a beach), and being molested as a girl.

From her trials emerged a smart, caring, wonderful woman whom anyone would want to know and have as a friend. As to those who ignored her when she needed help, you come away thinking that they were the ones who lost out rather than Ms. Buckley.

Some of the many poignant moments in the book include going to her first confession and not knowing what was going on in the confessional, having her first menstrual period without any advance education or explanation after it occurred, forgiving her molester, and learning to be a mentor to others.

Anyone who thinks they have it rough and have the right to feel sorry for themselves rather than taking action can learn a lot from this book. As powerful as the book is, I strongly urge you to meet her in person . . . through her motivational speeches, her comedy routines, or her one-woman shows. That will really bring the message home to you!

What do you need to accept before you can move on? How can you make the best of what you have?

May you find the joy of self-acceptance . . . always!

9 of 9 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A Must Read for Everybody, July 29, 2001

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This review is from: If You Could Hear What I See: Lessons About Life, Luck, and the Choices We Make (Hardcover)

Kathy Buckley has led an extraordinary life that enables anybody who reads "If You Could See What I Hear" to gain a new perspective. This book is about overcoming odds to lead a productive life. Kathy describes her hard-knocks in a very real way without taking on a "feel sorry for me" tone. She describes in detail how she went from "I can't" to "I can" in a manner that the reader will be forced to start looking at their own lives to see they have choice to say "I can". This book gives Kathy the ability to go into greater precious detail, then in her stage act, on many of her life's experiences and how she overcame the setbacks. If you've seen her act and was left with questions like "who, what, where or when did you get run over by a Jeep?", the answers are here.

This book is recommended for teenagers, people with disabilities, people who feel like they have been `cornered' into a life they do not desire, and those whose lives are significantly good but just need a reality check on the perspective of those who don't have it as great.

Thank you Kathy for giving us this opportunity to look a little deeper look into your life.

4 of 4 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A "must read" for all ages, November 19, 2001

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Fern Field Brooks (Venice, Ca. United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: If You Could Hear What I See: Lessons About Life, Luck, and the Choices We Make (Hardcover)

Incredibly moving and inspirational. It made me laugh and made me cry. But most of all it made me celebrate the wonderful human being Kathy is - and the lessons we can all learn from her experiences. Should be required reading - especially for young people setting out to find their lives.

Fern Field Brooks