You Deserve Healthy Love, Sis!: The Seven Steps to Getting the Relationship You Want [Hardcover]

Grace Cornish Ph.D. (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: January 14, 2003

In her previous books, the national bestsellers 10 Bad Choices That Ruin Black Women’s Lives and 10 Good Choices That Empower Black Women’s Lives, celebrated television personality, motivational speaker, and author Dr. Grace Cornish showed African-American women how to kick unhealthy habits, make positive decisions, and transform themselves into self-assured sisters. Now, in You Deserve Healthy Love, Sis!, Dr. Grace goes the extra mile and gives Black women a simple, workable plan to help them find their true soul mate and cultivate a healthy love, from dating to mating—and beyond.

Once again, armed with her trademark “tell it like it is” spunk and her inspiring, on-target advice for women of color, Dr. Grace offers a practical yet empowering seven-step prescription for rich, honest love that will withstand life’s challenges and land a woman at the altar next to her ideal spiritual, emotional, mental,
and physical man. From “Check Your Signals Before You Wreck Your Choices” to “Don’t Be Fooled—Read Him Well and Remove the Mask,” Dr. Grace provides her readers with plenty of insightful tips on how to date with the utmost confidence and avoid the nasty pitfalls that can sink even the strongest relationships.

In the tradition of Dr. Grace’s other spirited, smart self-help books, You Deserve Healthy Love, Sis! is also packed with heartfelt letters from Black women across the country who want to stop settling for Mr. Wrong
and inspiring stories from sisters who have followed these steps and made long-lasting commitments to their soul mates. Poignant, honest, and filled to the brim with priceless wisdom, this book is a must-have for women who are looking to cultivate the healthy love they’ve always dreamed of.

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

In her latest frank, lively volume, "spiritual psychologist" and motivational speaker Cornish (10 Good Choices that Empower Black Women's Lives) delivers a pep talk to single African-American women. She reveals her secrets to attaining a "deep, nurturing, healthy type of love" with a soul mate in her signature hyper-friendly style: variations of the "You go girl" refrain abound, and most sections have rhyming maxims (e.g., "It hurts to get the later from the smooth operator" and "True friendship at its best will withstand any lifetime test"). Organized into seven sections, the book covers pre-dating issues, particularly baggage from former affairs, dating advice and relationship maintenance. Cornish's guidance is most concrete in when addressing the tricky early stages of courtship. "Ten Points to Check Out Before You Let Him In," for example, lists things one should know before becoming intimate with someone (it is, however, recycled from her previous book, 10 Bad Choices that That Ruin Black Women's Lives). Cornish's experience as a therapist on Queen Latifah, Montel and Ricki Lake has given her a colorful well of experience from which to draw anecdotes. While tales of drug-dealing scoundrels who impregnate multiple women make for interesting reading, those in less dramatic situations may find less to relate to. Because of the extremity of some of the examples, her subsequent advice often lingers at the most basic level of common sense-i.e., if he's married, don't get involved. But Cornish is a warm counselor and a good listener, as the many reader letters within will attest, and this book concludes a solid trilogy of advice books aimed at African-American women.
Copyright 2003 Reed Business Information, Inc.

From Library Journal

In this follow-up to her 10 Choices books, spiritual psychologist Cornish guides black women in their quest for the men of their dreams. She shows them how to move from self-love to compatible love, how to read men and understand what makes them tick, and how to create long-lasting relationships.
Copyright 2002 Reed Business Information, Inc.

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Product Details

• Hardcover: 224 pages
• Publisher: Crown; 1 edition (January 14, 2003)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0609609955
• ISBN-13: 978-0609609958
• Product Dimensions: 8.6 x 5.7 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 12.5 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (8 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,463,138 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars She did it again!!, January 23, 2003

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thesavvybamalady "swblkdiamond" (Prichard, Alabama USA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: You Deserve Healthy Love, Sis!: The Seven Steps to Getting the Relationship You Want (Hardcover)

Well, I won't say that it's not good. Quite the contrary, Sis Grace has done it again!! If you feel that you are somehow missing the boat on a great relationship, well, Here comes Dr Sis Grace to guide to that ultimate brother. In this book, she has seven steps where you can work on yourself and find out where you have gone wrong and get that brother of your dreams. She also talks about how she met her soulmate and husband, who she recently married. And as far as I'm concerned, this book is as part of the other two that she has written and could be read individually and together. You go Dr Cornish!!

3 of 3 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A Must Have- A Must Read, January 15, 2003

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Readers Paradise "Book Club" (Chicago, IL USA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: You Deserve Healthy Love, Sis!: The Seven Steps to Getting the Relationship You Want (Hardcover)

Dr Grace Cornish has five books under her skirt, which help African Americans make good choices, praise and empower themselves and succeed in getting healthy love. Her most recent threathens to be a National Bestseller.
All five books are like a never-ending conversation with your best friend. Sometimes preachy, sometimes repetitious however those are a few of the ingredients needed to sustain a conversation at times.

The book is categorized in steps, "The Seven Steps to Getting the Relationship You Want." Within the steps there are exercises to help you mentally maintain what you just read, questions to ponder which reiterates thoughts offered and affirmations to bring your journey into being. Many of the ideas are from Dr. Cornish's personal experience with finding her healthy love in her husband, Richard

You Deserve Healthy Love, Sis is not only a vehicle to get the mate you deserves but also it is for anyone seeking a healthy relationship with himself or herself, a friend, sibling or God. The steps are universal and can apply in the same way.
With the alarmingly high statistics of divorce, Dr. Cornish has written this books right on time. If following these seven steps segue us to healthy love, when do you plan to purchase this book?

Missy
APOOO BookClub

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars You deserve to treat yourself to this book, July 11, 2003

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Sherri (New York, NY) - See all my reviews

This review is from: You Deserve Healthy Love, Sis!: The Seven Steps to Getting the Relationship You Want (Hardcover)

Kudos and 5 stars to Dr. Grace for writing another spectacular book. No matter what stage you're at in life, you will be able to relate to a least one of the stories in this book. Buy the book and buy it now if you're ready to find and meet your soul mate. Dr. Grace gives a great prescription in her seven steps to healthy love. This book is amazingly uplifting, inspirational and optimistic. Although she includes Christian principals and addresses some of the issues that Black women and men face specifically, don't think for a moment that this book can't be applicable to your life if you happen not to be a Christian or African American. Her message is universal, easy to understand, and practical. Having met Dr. Grace in person she truly practices what she preaches. If your ready to make some lasting and positive changes in your love life this book is for you, go ahead buy it because you deserve healthy love Sis!