A non-technical, true-to-life book that shatters the myths about homosexuality, its causes and cures. Not based on simple pat answers, you Don’t Have To Be Gay gives clear instruction, well-documented argumentation, heartening encouragement, honest self-analysis and practical suggestions. Perfect for all who desire to understand homosexuality and its root causes.
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Non-clinical though it may be, there's more therapeutic value in this book than in twenty of its analytic predecessors. -- Joe Dallas author of Desires in Conflict
Straight-forward insights into homosexuality that will be life-changing to any reader who is willing to put them into practice. -- Bob Davies, co-author of Coming Out of Homosexuality
Unspeakably enriching and power filled! -- Dr. John White Associate professor of psychiatry at the University of Manitoba
Straight-forward insights into homosexuality that will be life-changing to any reader who is willing to put them into practice. -- Bob Davies, co-author of Coming Out of Homosexuality
Unspeakably enriching and power filled! -- Dr. John White Associate professor of psychiatry at the University of Manitoba
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
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I found this book to ring true in everything he said except that I happen to see the Gospel a little differently than he, but that is nothing compared to what he found that set him free from something that had become oppression for him, and I celebrate his freedom with him.
You can't fault a person for what he has experienced and found to be true in his own life. If you cannot accept his findings, then live with your own and see where they lead. If you are content, then be content.
The presentation is excellent for a non-threatening approach to unraveling the twisted perspective that had become his through his upbringing, and exposes and explains the lies that many with inordinate same-sex attraction fall prey to.
This is a book I would like to have many copies of to share, but alas, it is no longer available.
You can't fault a person for what he has experienced and found to be true in his own life. If you cannot accept his findings, then live with your own and see where they lead. If you are content, then be content.
The presentation is excellent for a non-threatening approach to unraveling the twisted perspective that had become his through his upbringing, and exposes and explains the lies that many with inordinate same-sex attraction fall prey to.
This is a book I would like to have many copies of to share, but alas, it is no longer available.
1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
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The recipient of these letters was introduced to homosexuality by a pedophile at age 11, and this relationship continued well into his teens. He then graduated into regular homosexuality, if only because he didn't know any better. Compare this with the Steven Stayner trajectory: kidnapped at age 7, had sex every night with his kidnapper for 7 years, then left, went back home, married, became a father, and died in a traffic accident. Seven years of this stuff didn't turn Stayner into a homosexual, but it turned Mike into one. Interesting. In any case, I am a 68-year-old gay man who was a virgin until the age of 25. Nothing happened to me to turn me into something I wasn't. I remember a incident when I was 9, where I was rebuffed by another boy when I embraced him while we were both shirtless. At that time I also knew a weird boy of 9 called Paul. He had already developed the body language and mannerisms of an effeminate homosexual. I'm sure that no pedophile had done this to him, for he was remarkably ugly. I am willing to give Mike the benefit of the doubt, and assume that he was headed for heterosexuality until the pedophile came along. But pedophilia is not the cause of homosexuality. Maybe a failure of his father to relate to him may have pushed him into the pedophile's arms, but Stayner didn't turn gay even after 3,000 nights with Kenneth Parnell. So my guess is that Mike wasn't really gay, and therefore he simply returned to his original heterosexuality after a 12-year detour. This is not the same thing as transforming a homosexual into a heterosexual. It doesn't prove anything about other men.
83 of 131 people found the following review helpful
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I realize that this book was originally written in 1987 and at that time, the studies cited by this amateur author weren't so grossly out of date as they are now. However, this book is in its 4th printing (2000) and a good scholar, rather than someone with a moral agenda to push, would have updated their research.
Even in 1987, the studies cited were outdated, clearly biased and/or lacking any scientific validity whatsoever (psychoanalytic "studies" from the 1960's), or blatantly misrepresented (John Money's "success" of gender socialization? Read "As Nature Made Him" by John Colapinto for the real story).
Gender orientation and sexual orientation are NOT the same thing; homosexuality is not a "symptom" of a "damaged" gender identity. Neither gender nor sexual orientation is 100% socialization, as Konrad tries to claim; there IS an inborn component, which he would have learned had he done some current research - but of course, that would only happen if he had actually wanted to give a fair and balanced study of the topic, which is clearly not his purpose.
Konrad's use of "science" is a joke at best and dangerous at worst as he tries to push the idea that homosexuality is a disorder, a symptom, and not only a "choice" but the WRONG choice. This book should've died in the 80's where it belongs.
Even in 1987, the studies cited were outdated, clearly biased and/or lacking any scientific validity whatsoever (psychoanalytic "studies" from the 1960's), or blatantly misrepresented (John Money's "success" of gender socialization? Read "As Nature Made Him" by John Colapinto for the real story).
Gender orientation and sexual orientation are NOT the same thing; homosexuality is not a "symptom" of a "damaged" gender identity. Neither gender nor sexual orientation is 100% socialization, as Konrad tries to claim; there IS an inborn component, which he would have learned had he done some current research - but of course, that would only happen if he had actually wanted to give a fair and balanced study of the topic, which is clearly not his purpose.
Konrad's use of "science" is a joke at best and dangerous at worst as he tries to push the idea that homosexuality is a disorder, a symptom, and not only a "choice" but the WRONG choice. This book should've died in the 80's where it belongs.
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Why Are Gay People (with an Agenda) So Afraid of This Book?
Notice how people have tried to sabotage this listing with a picture under the cover picture that is obviously pro-gay, and reviews that are anything but reviews. Read more
Published 2 months ago by Waitsel Smith
You don't have to seem gay
You can be born left handed but learn to write right handed. Just because you continue to write with your right hand does not make you right-handed. Read more
Published 6 months ago by rhinoryan
Is this serious?
This is disgusting. I am absolutely mortified this book is still condoned in this day and age. If you're gay, accept it and be gay. Read more
Published 6 months ago by Colin
Excellent Book
This author is amazing. Great testimony that YOU DONT HAVE TO BE GAY IF YOU DON'T WANT TO BE! Great read for anyone, not just gays and people who know gays. Read more
Published 10 months ago by JR
Thank you for opening my eyes Mr. Konrad
Thank you Mr. Konrad, for opening eyes, to knowing that I am bisexual, and that my ways are ungodly... Read more
Published on January 4, 2010 by Jeremy Angelslaughter
Even the American Psychiatric Society thinks this book is dangerous.
HERE ARE THE FACTS:
NEW YORK -- The American Psychological Association declared Wednesday that mental health professionals should not tell gay clients they can become straight... Read more
NEW YORK -- The American Psychological Association declared Wednesday that mental health professionals should not tell gay clients they can become straight... Read more
Published on August 6, 2009 by a reader
This book speaks the truth in love
Two caveats before I begin: 1. I have not completed this book. 2. This may not address the problems that every man with same-sex attractions is dealing with. Read more
Published on March 25, 2009 by William Farkas
For the new struggler
Pastor Konrad's book, "You Don't Have To Be Gay" is one is read initially back in 1989 at Outpost Ministries. Read more
Published on June 26, 2007 by Michael Brewer
Awesome book!
This book gave me hope when I'd been told for years to just accept myself as gay. It angers me that my counselor had never heard about his information. I had to find it myself.
Published on February 23, 2007 by F. Godfrey
For the person who does not want to stay gay or is tired of living the...
This book is a great resource. It is written, not for the person who is happy being gay, but for the person that is looking for a way out. Read more
Published on January 4, 2007 by William P. Abuzaid
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