You Don't Have to Be Gay: Hope and Freedom for Males Struggling With Homosexuality or for Those Who Know of Someone Who Is [Paperback]

Jeff Konrad (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: November 1, 1987

A non-technical, true-to-life book that shatters the myths about homosexuality, its causes and cures. Not based on simple pat answers, you Don’t Have To Be Gay gives clear instruction, well-documented argumentation, heartening encouragement, honest self-analysis and practical suggestions. Perfect for all who desire to understand homosexuality and its root causes.

Editorial Reviews

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Non-clinical though it may be, there's more therapeutic value in this book than in twenty of its analytic predecessors. -- Joe Dallas author of Desires in Conflict

Straight-forward insights into homosexuality that will be life-changing to any reader who is willing to put them into practice. -- Bob Davies, co-author of Coming Out of Homosexuality

Unspeakably enriching and power filled! -- Dr. John White Associate professor of psychiatry at the University of Manitoba

Product Details

• Paperback: 288 pages
• Publisher: Pacific Pub House; 1987 edition (November 1, 1987)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0942817087
• ISBN-13: 978-0942817089
• Product Dimensions: 8.3 x 5.4 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 12.8 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 3.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (29 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #142,744 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A man is what he is, December 23, 2011

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Jean "Jean" (Ontario Canada) - See all my reviews

This review is from: You Don't Have to Be Gay: Hope and Freedom for Males Struggling With Homosexuality or for Those Who Know of Someone Who Is (Paperback)

I found this book to ring true in everything he said except that I happen to see the Gospel a little differently than he, but that is nothing compared to what he found that set him free from something that had become oppression for him, and I celebrate his freedom with him.

You can't fault a person for what he has experienced and found to be true in his own life. If you cannot accept his findings, then live with your own and see where they lead. If you are content, then be content.

The presentation is excellent for a non-threatening approach to unraveling the twisted perspective that had become his through his upbringing, and exposes and explains the lies that many with inordinate same-sex attraction fall prey to.

This is a book I would like to have many copies of to share, but alas, it is no longer available.

83 of 130 people found the following review helpful:

1.0 out of 5 stars Faulty "research" = invalid conclusions, September 10, 2007

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Bad Penny "Often imitated. Never duplicated." - See all my reviews

This review is from: You Don't Have to Be Gay: Hope and Freedom for Males Struggling With Homosexuality or for Those Who Know of Someone Who Is (Paperback)

I realize that this book was originally written in 1987 and at that time, the studies cited by this amateur author weren't so grossly out of date as they are now. However, this book is in its 4th printing (2000) and a good scholar, rather than someone with a moral agenda to push, would have updated their research.

Even in 1987, the studies cited were outdated, clearly biased and/or lacking any scientific validity whatsoever (psychoanalytic "studies" from the 1960's), or blatantly misrepresented (John Money's "success" of gender socialization? Read "As Nature Made Him" by John Colapinto for the real story).

Gender orientation and sexual orientation are NOT the same thing; homosexuality is not a "symptom" of a "damaged" gender identity. Neither gender nor sexual orientation is 100% socialization, as Konrad tries to claim; there IS an inborn component, which he would have learned had he done some current research - but of course, that would only happen if he had actually wanted to give a fair and balanced study of the topic, which is clearly not his purpose.

Konrad's use of "science" is a joke at best and dangerous at worst as he tries to push the idea that homosexuality is a disorder, a symptom, and not only a "choice" but the WRONG choice. This book should've died in the 80's where it belongs.

6 of 10 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent Book, July 4, 2011

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This review is from: You Don't Have to Be Gay: Hope and Freedom for Males Struggling With Homosexuality or for Those Who Know of Someone Who Is (Paperback)

This author is amazing. Great testimony that YOU DONT HAVE TO BE GAY IF YOU DON'T WANT TO BE! Great read for anyone, not just gays and people who know gays. Youll get a real good understanding of that community and who they are and know they are people too looking for the same thing that we all are.