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You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?!: The Classic Self-Help Book for Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder [Kindle Edition]

Kate Kelly , Peggy Ramundo , Edward M. M.D. Hallowell
4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (252 customer reviews)

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Book Description

With over a quarter million copies in print, You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?! is one of the bestselling books on attention deficit disorder (ADD) ever written. There is a great deal of literature about children with ADD. But what do you do if you have ADD and aren't a child anymore? This indispensable reference -- the first of its kind written for adults with ADD by adults with ADD -- focuses on the experiences of adults, offering updated information, practical how-tos and moral support to help readers deal with ADD. It also explains the diagnostic process that distinguishes ADD symptoms from normal lapses in memory, lack of concentration or impulsive behavior. Here's what's new:

  • The new medications and their effectiveness

  • The effects of ADD on human sexuality

  • The differences between male and female ADD -- including falling estrogen levels and its impact on cognitive function

  • The power of meditation

  • How to move forward with coaching

And the book still includes advice about:

  • Achieving balance by analyzing one's strengths and weaknesses

  • Getting along in groups, at work and in intimate and family relationships -- including how to decrease discord and chaos

  • Learning the mechanics and methods for getting organized and improving memory

  • Seeking professional help, including therapy and medication

Editorial Reviews


John Ratey, M.D. coauthor of Driven to Distraction A much needed addition to the ADD bookshelf.

About the Author

Kate Kelly, diagnosed in 1989, is a clinical specialist in psychiatric nursing who currently gives presentations and leads therapy groups for ADD adults.

Product Details

  • File Size: 2356 KB
  • Print Length: 482 pages
  • Page Numbers Source ISBN: 0743264487
  • Publisher: Scribner; Updated edition (April 25, 2006)
  • Sold by: Simon and Schuster Digital Sales Inc
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B003719FSW
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #34,118 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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Most Helpful Customer Reviews
486 of 494 people found the following review helpful
By A Customer
I first bought this book strictly because of it's title. Having spent 45 years feeling crazy & stupid and being accused of laziness most of my life, I decided this book was for me.
I didn't realize how very right I was! When I started to read I realized I was reading about myself. I identified with many of the descriptions of ADD from childhood through to adulthood.
It was incredible to learn I was not alone in my daily frustration. This wonderful, informative book started me on a road of self-discovery. I was subsequently tested and diagnosed with Attention Deficit Disorder.
The authors describe this "disability" as an "ADD-ed dimension" and they are so right! I now have self-esteem and self pride. My intelligence has been tested and verified .. I'm not lazy, crazy or stupid and I thank
the authors of this book for that discovery. This book has changed my life. I can now read a page without losing my place. I don't forget what I'm saying or lose things as often. I have learned that I am one of many who
use an additional area of my brain & must therefore learn to "process things differently". I no longer feel timid, ashamed, afraid or just plain different. I can now accept and like myself for the first time in my life.

This book is written in a very "easy-reading" style. There is a wonderful blending of research facts and referenced stories and quips. As an adult diagnosed with ADD at the age of 45, I can attest to the value of this book.
I highly recommend "You mean I'm not lazy, stupid or crazy" to anyone who has ever felt they were!
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360 of 381 people found the following review helpful
3.0 out of 5 stars Needs updating March 10, 2006
Format:Paperback|Verified Purchase
While reading some of the previous reviews, I saw one that mentioned "contemporary science" - written in 1999. The first customer review for this book is from 1997. If I'd read it then, I would have rated it higher. But a book that deals with anything medical needs to be updated long before it's a decade old, which this one now is. The chapter on medication is completely outdated; it shouldn't be referred to by anyone who wants to know what options are available now. And while all the scientific/medical questions about ADD/ADHD haven't been answered, more is known now than when this book was written.

The fact that this book has helped many people understand themselves better is great, and I'm not one who equates wanting to understand yourself with looking for excuses. This book has been recommended not only doctor to patient but friend to friend for a long time, and what it has can be helpful - the reason I gave it three stars. But I hope a second edition isn't being held back by the fact that the first one is still being recommended and purchased; it could be so much better if the information were updated.

I personally had a more general problem with the book, which may also be related to its age. I'm primarily inattentive type ADD, and felt like I was a real outsider while reading this book. Some things applied to me, but a lot didn't. And anytime there was a statement like, "We all remember from our childhood..." I'd think, "Nope. Not me." Not that there's anything wrong with a book aimed at people with combined or primarily hyperactive ADD, and I didn't take away a star because of it, but "nowadays" that would probably be stated more clearly in the information about the book, or even on the cover. But back in 1996, that might have been less likely.
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89 of 92 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars The most useful book I've found April 4, 2005
By C.
I was diagnosed with ADD at the age of 9. In the seven-plus years since then, I've read a great deal of books about ADD. Almost all of them rely on the same "You're a unique and special snowflake!" attitude, and the same generalizations about people with ADD.

After I was given this book as a gift, I put off reading this book for a while, sure thatit would be more of the same. Instead, it was incredable in its honesty. Instead of playing up the benefits of ADD, making it sound like a wonderful blessing, Kelly understands that, sometimes, it's also a curse. Those recently diagnosed need may reassurance, of course. However, when that's ALL a book is, it loses its value as a resource. That's why this book was so great- it stated that there's nothing wrong with ADD in the first couple chapters, then moved right along (giving it a more believable tone than most books, whose constant "There's nothing wrong at all!" statments make me suspect that maybe the author is trying to hide something) to talking about theories involving ADD (which was pretty cool).

My favorite thing about this book is that it talks about the problems ADD can cause in various aspects of your life, and how ADD can manifest itself in different people. Rather than make general assumptions about people with ADD, the authors recognize that ADD is a complex, varied condition. Before this, I'd no idea that my sluggish periods might be part of my ADD, that it manifests itself verbally, and that my tactile defensivness (an occasional aversion to physical contact) wasn't because I was aggressive or weird- I was just overstimulated! No other book had even MENTIONED this kind of thing.

Keeping with the diversity of problems, the authors offer a diversity of possible ways to deal with problems arising from ADD. Each idea can easily be altered to fit your needs- another big plus.

Honestly, if you or your teenage child have ADD or ADHD, you should not be without this book.
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
3.0 out of 5 stars Not helpful
Really just fair, not easily kept in place.
Published 9 days ago by Rebecca
5.0 out of 5 stars Thank you so much for writing this book
My Dad always said I was lazy - now we all know I wasn't. I was an ADD student - I'm still to this day. Thank you for writing this book. Read more
Published 10 days ago by Natalie G. Joplin
4.0 out of 5 stars Easy to understand and apply the lessons
Just found out I have a touch of adhd. Explained much. Puzzle pieces fell right into place. I understand myself and situation better post reading. The book.
Published 19 days ago by Z. Ellis
3.0 out of 5 stars Three Stars
Needs to be updated but it helped me.
Published 25 days ago by lane1550
3.0 out of 5 stars ... missing and some entered twice but the book is good.
Some of the words are are missing and some entered twice but the book is good.
Published 1 month ago by Cindy Acton
5.0 out of 5 stars Wonderful!
This book makes me finally feel good about myself!!. It's too bad I didn't discover it when I was younger!!!
Published 1 month ago by Carol P.
5.0 out of 5 stars Helped me so much...
This book really helped me, I knew there was something wrong me and now I know what it is, as it explained to me why I have been doing some of my disfunctional issues. Read more
Published 1 month ago by Deanna
4.0 out of 5 stars Four Stars
Published 1 month ago by melissa nutter
2.0 out of 5 stars I wanted to like it, but...
As one of the most popular books on Adult ADHD, I had high hopes for the work. However, I sometimes found the explanations too easy and/or repetitive for readers who are well... Read more
Published 1 month ago by Alden Coffin
5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars

All I can say is Thank you Kate!
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