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If You Really Loved Me: 100 Questions on Dating, Relationships and Sexual Purity [Paperback]

Jason Evert (Author)
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April 2003
Have you ever asked yourself. . .

- Why should I wait for marriage to have sex?

- How far is too far?

- How do I say "no"?

- What if we really love each other?

- How do I find the right spouse?

- How do I start over?

- What about safe sex?

- How do I know if this is love?

These days, virgins may be embarrassed by their lack of "experience" while non-virgins may feel that it's too late for them. Men and women of all ages feel compelled to "take their relationships to the next level" - meaning they think it's time to have sex, not to try on wedding rings. Chastity author and speaker Jason Evert addresses these issues, and dozens more, in "If You Really Loved Me: 100 Questions on Dating, Relationships, and Sexual Purity."

The questions in this landmark work are the most common ones Evert is asked when speaking about the virtue of chastity in hundreds of Catholic, Evangelical Christian, and public schools. His humorous, friendly, and blunt approach opens hearts and minds to a topic often either rejected out of hand or misunderstood.

Teens will find this book a useful guide to starting a relationship, deciding one's vocation, one day finding a potential spouse, and maintaining purity - without forsaking love. This book will give parents and educators new insights to help teens know the difference between love and lust. They may even look at their own lives differently, because as Evert explains, chastity is not only for singles; married couples must practice this virtue as well.

"If You Really Loved Me" gives readers straight answers to tough questions. Addressing the relationship issues that today's young people face, Evert explains the often-misconstrued virtue of chastity - not as a rejection of human sexuality, but as an affirmation of authentic love.

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In a question and answer format, Catholic Answers apologist and author Jason Evert, discusses every aspect of chastity. He emphasizes that saying no to premarital sex is saying yes to authentic love. Using anecdotes drawn from stories he has heard in his speaking to youth and his own experience, Evert writes clearly and persuasively on the questions about dating, relationships, sexuality, and chastity that young people have asked him wherever he speaks.

About the Author

Jason Evert holds a masters degree in theology and serves as an apologist with Catholic Answers, the nation’s largest lay-run apostolate for apologetics. He speaks at seminars, debates, and schools throughout the nation and the world, addressing 15,000 young people every month. He lives in southern California.

Product Details

  • Paperback: 200 pages
  • Publisher: Catholic Answers (April 2003)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1569553696
  • ISBN-13: 978-1569553695
  • Product Dimensions: 7.9 x 5.2 x 0.8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 7.2 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (18 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #279,557 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

 

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88 of 91 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars Incredible Book!!!, January 12, 2004
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Paul (Los Angeles, CA United States) - See all my reviews
This review is from: If You Really Loved Me: 100 Questions on Dating, Relationships and Sexual Purity (Paperback)
I don't write reviews (this being my first) but I MUST make an exception for this book. I agree with the last reviewer's title, "Don't listen to Moral Realtivists." This book is replete with Scriptural references and Catholic Theology but it is applicable to all theists of every denomination and religion. Mind you, the book is speaking of morality from the Christian perspective so if you don't like Christianity or believe in moral absolutes then I don't recommend that you put pointless reviews on the site.

I am mass-purchasing a copy of this book for everyone I know in relationships because it's been of great benefit for me. If you have teenage/young adult children or are a teenager/young adult yourself, this books is primarily directed to you regardless of denomination or religion. Evert has taken 100 of the most commonly asked questions/objections and answered them with keen insight using logic, Scripture, papal encyclicals and exhortations, theologians (such as C.S. Lewis and G.K. Chesterton), and many modern day resources (including internet links).

I can not recommend this book highly enough. It is also very effectual against America's modern-day morality (or lack thereof). The chapters are divided as such:

1. Chastity and the Meaning of Sex
2. Dating and Courtship
3. Preparing for Marriage
4. How Far is Too Far?
5. Pornography and Masturbation
6. Homosexuality
7. Contraception
8. Sexually Transmitted Diseases
9. Purity Renewed
10. How to Stay Pure
11. Vocations

The Bibliography is integrated with the footnotes and is listed at the back of the book. It's a great one!

Evert answers such questions as:

1. Why is premarital sex bad?
2. Can't we accept that people have different values when it comes to sex? We need to be realistic--times have changes since the Bible was written.
3. How do you know if you really love a girl/guy?
4. How do you know if a girl/guy really loves you?
5. What's the difference between dating and courtship?
6. Where can I find a good guy/girl?
7. Hidden and secret relationships.
8. I've decided to save sex for marriage but I am unsure about being completely chaste with my boyfriend. Any advice?
9. My boyfriend has a lot of problems...my friends say he is bad news. We've been pretty physical but I want to stay in the relationship. What should I do?
10. How do you know if you should break up with a guy you are dating?
11. My girlfriend of 2 years just broke up with me. I thought that she was the one, and I feel crushed. I am not sleeping well, I have lost my appetite, and I can not understand why God would let this happen.
12. How do you know if you should marry the person you are dating?
13. What role does physical attraction play in a decision to date someone?
14. I really like the dating scene and the freedom to see different women without having to settle down and get married. Is that okay?
15. Should I move in with my boyfriend before we get married? It seems like a smart move, because you want to really know a person before you commit to life together.
16. If an unmarried couple gets pregnant, should they get married?
17. I am in college and met a great woman, but she is already married and divorced. Is it wrong to date her?
18. Is oral sex okay?
19. What can my girlfriend and I do on dates so that we do not end up going too far?
20. If you are on a date and things are going too far, how do you stop suddenly and tell him "no"?
21. What if another pregnancy could put the wife's life at risk? Does the Church say that the couple can not use contraception even for her sake?
22. I have formed a real habit of masturbation and do not know how to stop. What would you say is the best way to overcome this?
23. If two people of the same sex really love each other and are willing to stay faithful for life, why can't they get married?
24. Why doesn't the Church allow married couples to use contraception?
25. What is wrong with looking at pornography? It's not like you are getting a girl pregnant or spreading STDs.

And 75 more! If you have any questions about the Chapter titles above or wonder the answer to any of the above questions then I recommend this for you.

Also, I'm trying to recommend another book in addition to this one but I can't find the button for it so I'll mention it here. It's primarily for mature relationships, marriages, and those considering such. It gives very understandable and clear reasons for the Catholic Church's teachings on Marriage, the Family, the Covenant and how it relates to the Trinity. I highly recommend Kimberly Hahn's "Life-Giving Love".

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38 of 38 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars a confused youngin, August 23, 2004
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Jen (Mullica Hill, NJ) - See all my reviews
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When I first started reading the book, I must admit that I was skeptical and mocking (mostly because my dad insisted on me reading it and i am a rebel; i listen to no parent) but as I read on i started to be emotionally touched by Jason Evert's words. Not only did he answer many of my questions, he also brought up some good points that I could not help but pay attention to and that I had never even thought of (being 19 of course I thought I knew everything there was to know about sex). He explains everything concisely and to the point and does not beat around the bush about anything. His explanations truly touched my heart. And to the reviewer that thinks Jason Evert is a big liar trying to win everybody to his side, I suggest that he FIRST read the book and then tell me if "his side" isn't worth being on to be truly happy and fulfilled.
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54 of 58 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars Should be titled 101 Answers, June 2, 2003
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Finally! This is a wonderful book explaining and defending the proper way of looking at human sexuality and what the Catholic church teaches about sex and why.
I only wish this book had been printed and circulated 30-40 years ago! Maybe we wouldn't be have so many failed marriages, fatherless families, and mixed up notions about what God intended when he created us as sexual beings.
Sex isn't bad or dirty, it's sacred and holy in the context of a marriage between a husband and wife.
This should be required reading for all teenagers!
Thanks, Jason!
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