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If You Really Loved Me: 100 Questions on Dating, Relationships and Sexual Purity Paperback – October 17, 2002

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In a question and answer format, Catholic Answers apologist and author Jason Evert, discusses every aspect of chastity. He emphasizes that saying no to premarital sex is saying yes to authentic love. Using anecdotes drawn from stories he has heard in his speaking to youth and his own experience, Evert writes clearly and persuasively on the questions about dating, relationships, sexuality, and chastity that young people have asked him wherever he speaks.

About the Author

Jason Evert holds a masters degree in theology and serves as an apologist with Catholic Answers, the nation’s largest lay-run apostolate for apologetics. He speaks at seminars, debates, and schools throughout the nation and the world, addressing 15,000 young people every month. He lives in southern California.

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Product Details

  • Paperback: 200 pages
  • Publisher: Catholic Answers (October 17, 2002)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1569553696
  • ISBN-13: 978-1569553695
  • Product Dimensions: 0.8 x 5 x 7.8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 7.2 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (22 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,522,304 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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98 of 102 people found the following review helpful By Paul on January 12, 2004
Format: Paperback
I don't write reviews (this being my first) but I MUST make an exception for this book. I agree with the last reviewer's title, "Don't listen to Moral Realtivists." This book is replete with Scriptural references and Catholic Theology but it is applicable to all theists of every denomination and religion. Mind you, the book is speaking of morality from the Christian perspective so if you don't like Christianity or believe in moral absolutes then I don't recommend that you put pointless reviews on the site.
I am mass-purchasing a copy of this book for everyone I know in relationships because it's been of great benefit for me. If you have teenage/young adult children or are a teenager/young adult yourself, this books is primarily directed to you regardless of denomination or religion. Evert has taken 100 of the most commonly asked questions/objections and answered them with keen insight using logic, Scripture, papal encyclicals and exhortations, theologians (such as C.S. Lewis and G.K. Chesterton), and many modern day resources (including internet links).
I can not recommend this book highly enough. It is also very effectual against America's modern-day morality (or lack thereof). The chapters are divided as such:
1. Chastity and the Meaning of Sex
2. Dating and Courtship
3. Preparing for Marriage
4. How Far is Too Far?
5. Pornography and Masturbation
6. Homosexuality
7. Contraception
8. Sexually Transmitted Diseases
9. Purity Renewed
10. How to Stay Pure
11. Vocations
The Bibliography is integrated with the footnotes and is listed at the back of the book. It's a great one!
Evert answers such questions as:
1. Why is premarital sex bad?
2. Can't we accept that people have different values when it comes to sex?
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46 of 46 people found the following review helpful By Jen on August 23, 2004
Format: Paperback
When I first started reading the book, I must admit that I was skeptical and mocking (mostly because my dad insisted on me reading it and i am a rebel; i listen to no parent) but as I read on i started to be emotionally touched by Jason Evert's words. Not only did he answer many of my questions, he also brought up some good points that I could not help but pay attention to and that I had never even thought of (being 19 of course I thought I knew everything there was to know about sex). He explains everything concisely and to the point and does not beat around the bush about anything. His explanations truly touched my heart. And to the reviewer that thinks Jason Evert is a big liar trying to win everybody to his side, I suggest that he FIRST read the book and then tell me if "his side" isn't worth being on to be truly happy and fulfilled.
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57 of 61 people found the following review helpful By Magdaline on June 2, 2003
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Finally! This is a wonderful book explaining and defending the proper way of looking at human sexuality and what the Catholic church teaches about sex and why.
I only wish this book had been printed and circulated 30-40 years ago! Maybe we wouldn't be have so many failed marriages, fatherless families, and mixed up notions about what God intended when he created us as sexual beings.
Sex isn't bad or dirty, it's sacred and holy in the context of a marriage between a husband and wife.
This should be required reading for all teenagers!
Thanks, Jason!
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28 of 29 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on December 20, 2003
Format: Paperback
This book helps to explain all the nuances of sexuality, and how a person should be treated, and treat others, based on his or her intrinsic personhood -Catholic or non-Catholic. This means to not treat people as objects for our own personal pleasure.
Jason Evert discusses such subjects of sexuality from the Catholic Church's persepective, which, under scrutiny, live up to all guidelines for a moral and logical human sexuality. This shows the peerless rationality of Catholicism.
Evert is not just giving his point of view, which would make it invalid foolery, but that of a Church always modern and applicable to humanity, something truthful throughout all ages and thought.
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10 of 10 people found the following review helpful By N. Hellerstedt on December 12, 2006
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As a "cradle catholic" I always heard "no..." but I never got the "why". As you get older (esp. with hormones in the mix) it gets harder to follow rules when you don't know "why". Deep down we know right from wrong but his book puts into words what we all know to be true in our hearts. The author has a great way of directly answering questions that you have always wondered about but didn't know who to ask. He clearly answers the questions and backs it up with several sources. I gave a copy to all the young people in my life, including my brothers who are 17 and 21 years old. This book would be great for parents trying to find the words to explain all the "no's". I think that his book is also a "must read" for anyone who would like to date or have a happy marriage. (Everyone!) Get two or more'll want everyone to read it.
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8 of 8 people found the following review helpful By A.I., BSN, RN on October 2, 2008
Format: Paperback
I adore this book. I am a female in my 20's and was introduced to this book several years ago by the mother of a boy I had a crush on (a little awkward, but whatever). It changed my life.

I have tried reading other Christian books before, but they always made me feel bad about myself (I was a wild child, who hates to read). This book was different. Not only did I get through the book without feeling like a sinner, but I finally understood why I've made questionable decisions throughout my young-adult life. It also showed me how and why to make the right decisions in the future. I finally believed that I'm not a bad person, and that if I love someone, and they love me back, we'll want nothing but the best for each other.

Since my first read, I've given it to my friends, parents, sisters, boyfriends, co-workers, and have referred back to it any time I need an lift. No matter what your age, gender, marital status, religion, or sexual history, this book will help you learn to love in a totally different way.

Thanks Jason!
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