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You Say Tomato, I Say Shut Up: A Love Story Paperback – February 8, 2011
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“This book is a must-read for couples and singles alike. Finally, a married couple that doesn't hide behind such tedious traits as personal loyalty, good taste, and an overall sense of decorum. You Say Tomato, I Say Shut Up tells people what marriage is really like!”—Liz Tucillo, co-author of He’s Just Not That Into You and author of How to Be Single
“So funny because it is so accurate. Kahn and Gurwitch illuminate the insanity of marriage. They make you want to embrace your spouse for the same reason you want to strangle them.”—Ben Stiller
“Although after eleven and a half years of pure, uninterrupted marital bliss I don’t relate at all to the subject matter, I still found Jeff and Annabelle’s book to be hilarious.”—Judd Apatow
“As someone who has never married or ever understood why anyone would,would, I feel I can say with authority that this is the finest, funniest, most insightful book I’ve ever read about a subject I’m completely unqualified to comment about.”—Bill Maher
“The far right believes that marriage should only be one man plus one woman. But they are oh so wrong. Marriage should only be between two funny people, and Jeff and Annabelle are the shining examples of this new marriage movement.”—Carol Leifer
“Damn, marriage isn’t supposed to be this much fun! If anyone is going to save marriage, it won’t be James Dobson—it’ll be Annabelle Gurwitch and Jeff Kahn.”—Barbara Ehrenreich, author of Nickel and Dimed
“Oh, now I get it. This whole sham of a marriage was not just for tax purposes, it was also to write and sell this immediately engaging book! I remember when Jeff first told me about Annabelle and the hazy, humid thermal cloud she wrapped his head in. I thought he was nuts. Turns out I was right (see pages 1–250). After reading this book, I feel sorry for both of them now. And that’s quite an accomplishment.”—David Cross, author of I Drink for a Reason
“He said tomato, she said shut up, and I took a Vicodin to ease the pain from laughing so hard.”
—Sandra Tsing Loh, author of Mother on Fire and A Year in Van Nuys
"We're just not that into us."--Annabelle Gurwitch and Jeff Kahn
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Top Customer Reviews
If this isn't turned into a movie or tv show, Hollywood has no idea what they're doing. I hear that they may turn it into a two-person show. Based on the video they made to promote the book, I'd go see that play in a heatbeat.
The book is set up so each chapter is loosely organized by theme, such as pets, dating, childbirth, in-laws, etc. Either Annabelle or Jeff presents their view first (in short essay format), and then the other one follows. I really enjoyed the "getting both sides to the story" aspect of the book. It is also mostly in chronological order, so it is pretty easy to tell where they are in their relationship when they are discussing each theme. They deal with most things that any married couple would deal with, yet you also receive some interesting insights into the Hollywood/LA/creative profession culture that they both reside in.
Many of the essays are incredibly funny, and there are some that are also very touching when discussing a serious subject, such as the birth defects of their son. The book doesn't pretend that marriage is easy, but at the same time, you can tell that they really care about each other.
Additionally, I found this to be a fast-moving, easy read and perfect for those days when you only have time to read a few pages, because of the divided-eassay format.
The honesty in this book was very refreshing, and I think it will resonate with parents of young children. The humor was uneven but well-worth it for the gems that turned up. And Jeff needs to learn some synonyms for a certain area of a female's anatomy. I'm not offended by the language used but it just got repetitive. In contrast to another reviewer who found his sections unamusing, I thought they were both hilarious. It's easy to see why they've made it as far as they have in their marriage.
I bookmarked several sections of the book for my husband, particularly in regard to Annabelle's apparent difficulties in opening cardboard boxes and other packaging--this is a common complaint in my household as well. The writing about their son Ezra was just completely love-soaked and touching. I have no doubt that this loving couple's innate humor helped them through some very challenging times.
The book isn't perfect, but it's a nice, amusing read.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Like many books I have read, the early chapters are very interesting and draw me into the author's lives. Read morePublished 3 months ago by Johnnygogo
I bought this book because I was somewhat familiar with Annabelle. I found her husband as equally funny and personable as her. Their relationship starts cute and funny. Read morePublished 3 months ago by Jim
Marriage is hard work. Hard, hard work. No matter what anyone tells you, there is no true "happily ever after", as the two authors poignantly show in their humorous memoir... Read morePublished 5 months ago by dSavannah
I love this book. If you have been married a long time ...46 years for me...all the good...bad...and in between is stated with truth and humor. Thanks.Published 9 months ago by Harmony Mullen
Ms. Gurwitch's and Mr. Kahn's memoir is dripping with sarcasm. The chapters are set up in a manner in which each spouse takes a handful of pages to speak their mind about various... Read morePublished 11 months ago by Franklin the Mouse
There are some funny bits in the beginning... but later it gets boring, then weird. I thought it was going to be a humorous persptective on intimate relationship... Read morePublished 12 months ago by Stephen Sheridan