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You Can Still Wear Cute Shoes: And Other Great Advice from an Unlikely Preacher's Wife

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YOU CAN STILL WEAR CUTE SHOES is a book to help women who's husbands are planning on going into the ministry. Or, perhaps he's already in it, and you just aren't sure what your duties are when you are married to the pastor. Suddenly, you're living in the fishbowl and struggling to survive.

Lisa McKay is a pastor's wife and in honest terms described how she and her husband were close to divorce when he started going to church. He found the Lord and was called into the ministry, and she tried to copy a stern-faced old lady by dressing in old-person clothes, taming her hair and baking casseroles for everyone.

Most of us weren't that extreme when our spouse announced his call to the ministry. But we all were a little lost. Are the churches going to get a "Two for the price of one" couple, or will she be able to stay home and raise her children while supporting her husband?

In a witty manner, you will be able to relate to Lisa McKay as she shares the challenges of a life lived before a congregation. She'll walk you through finding friends to coping with criticism, to saying good-bye to a church family and starting over again.

YOU CAN STILL WEAR CUTE SHOES is a must read for every woman who is doing the ministry wife "thing." If your husband is a pastor, or is in school to become a pastor, then YOU CAN STILL WEAR CUTE SHOES is a book you must read.

We are in ministry and my wife was looking for advice from a preacher's wife. Lisa McKay had a funny yet no-nonsense approach to dealing with all of the complicated facets of day to day life and situations that a preacher's wife can go through. My wife was totally able to relate to everything in the book. She read the book in just a few days. She laughed and nearly cried while reading. I would say that she walked away feeling a little more normal about what she's up against as the preacher's wife. Great book! I think that it may be a must-read for all of those whose husband is "the man" at the church. If you want something real, genuine, and authentic about ministry life as "the wife", then get this book.

Who is a pastor's wife? What does she do? How should she dress? Believe me all of these questions will run through your head once you find out your husband is called to be a pastor. Lisa McKay faced each of these questions. Lisa and her husband were not even saved when they married, but came to find the Lord right before their divorce was final, they were on the brink of divorce and found the Lord. Imagine though if you will a young couple who really were not familar with church and "churchese" finding themselves facing the call into ministry.

Lisa's book will address her journey of learning to live in that calling. A humorous yet serious look at the expectations pastor's wives face and often put on themselves. She will show how to find that happy medium, when to say yes and when to say no to the requests made on a family. A valuable tool for all pastor's wives!What sets this book apart from all other books about being a pastor's wife? For me it is the sections in the back of the book, the section for lay people to understand more about their pastor and his wife. The section for the pastors to understand and minister to their wives. Definitely a tool that all lay members should have in their hands. 206 pages 4 stars

This book was provided for review by B & B Media group for review purposes only, no payment was received for this review.

PLEASURE READING FROM REAL PERSON HEART WARMING DELIGHTFUL JOY LET'S YOU KNOW IT'S FUN TO BE A CHRISTIAN My Hands Came Away Red

Although this book is written primarily for pastor wives I gleaned a lot from it and recommend it to everyone involved in the church. Lisa, who is also the author of a blog and messageboard for pastors' wives gives advice that is ground in reality and in scripture. She tells it like it is through humour, personal experience, and information from the members of her site. She acknowledges something that most church members don't, pastors'wives are all at different points in their lives and need to have different priorities. Sometimes they are young and need to look after their family, sometimes they are working out of the home, and sometimes they have the experience and time to help with different church ministries but, they can't do it all. This book is written in a manner that everyone can understand, there is lots of humour, advice that makes sense, and a look inside the workings of a pastor's family life. Definitely a good read.

Finally! A book written for pastors wives by a pastor's wife that is funny, insightful and REAL!

Lisa McKay wrote this book to share the wisdom and insights that she wishes someone would've been able to give her. I really like the fact that she not only shares her experiences and perspective on ministry, but that she also includes the advice and wisdom of other pastors wives who participated in Lisa's blog surveys.

Unlike other books geared towards ministry wives that can leave the reader feeling condemned and under-equipped, Lisa's book is encouraging! From ministry friendships and parenting PK's (pastor's kids) to how to find your "niche" and serve in the church, this book covers it all. A must read for every pastor's wife - especially those embarking into ministry for the first time.

Lisa McKay is not a woman who grew up dreaming of serving alongside her preacher man. Quite the contrary! She and her husband, Luke, were just a day or two short of finalizing their divorce when God not only rescued their marriage but saved their souls. Now fifteen years later, she shares what she's learned along their journey through days at Bible college, seminary, and serving several churches, all while nurturing their marriage and raising a family.

If you are a woman who is "Married to the Ministry", as Lisa calls it, you will be refreshed and renewed as Lisa discusses a number of issues common to staff wives. What is your role as a pastor's wife? How do you deal with expectations of others? Should your close friends be members of your church or should you be a "Lone Ranger"? Is it possible to raise your PKs (preacher's kids) without feeling like you live in a glass house? How do you survive church conflict and what do you do if you leave a church under less than ideal circumstances? And of course, do you really have to wear frumpy clothes and shoes and learn to play the piano?

Lisa addresses these questions and more in her down-to-earth, witty style. I felt as though I were sitting across the table from her at a coffee shop - or a covered dish fellowship! Her frank style of writing will assure you that her cute shoes have a few miles on them as she's walked alongside Luke in ministry. This is not just an idealistic book for your bookshelf; Lisa provides practical and specific counsel for real-life situations. And while she shares plenty of wisdom from her own experiences, the feet inside her adorable footwear are firmly grounded in Scripture for guidance and perspective. Included at the end of each chapter are comments from preachers' wives and laypersons (gleaned from discussions on Lisa's blog) who provide support and insight which are applicable whether you are a brand-new or experienced PW. Additionally, questions to ponder and practical advice in each chapter enable the reader to move from the page to action.

This book is not just for PWs, though. Church members will learn much about both the joys and aggravations that church staff families experience and will benefit from her suggestions on how best to support your pastor and his family, and the chapter-ending pointers include tips for the layperson as well. There is even an appendix for preachers themselves, providing specific suggestions for loving and encouraging their wives.

Thanks to the publisher for providing a copy of this book for my review.

Lisa McKay's book "You Can Still Wear Cute Shoes" is exactly what I was hoping for. Her down to earth writing style makes it easy to understand and also humorous in other areas. She has expertly captured the misconceptions and expectations of Pastor's wives and (with Scripture) has done a fine job of teaching women to be themselves (to a point). I am thoroughly enjoying this book!

I LOVE this book. I received it for Christmas and could not put it down. Lisa McKay writes in a way that makes you feel like you are sitting down with her for an afternoon chat. Being a youth pastor's wife and trying to find "myself" in the midst of it all, made this book very relatable for me. I recommend it to all young pastor's wives.

My wife is reading it so as a pastor's wife, she says, "I like the humor. The anecdotes are great. The suggestions appeal to all ages and cross denominational lines. And it is well written."