For Young Men Only: A Guy's Guide to the Alien Gender (Hardcover)

by Jeff Feldhahn (Author), Eric Rice (Author), Shaunti Feldhahn (Contributor)

Editorial Reviews

Review
“Guys, in your hands you hold a treasure–a book where young women honestly tell you what they want, need, and desire. I learned a lot, even after nearly fifty years of trying to figure women out. If you listen to what they’re telling you, you’ll avoid a mountain of confusion, anger, and heartache. If you don’t…you might be a fool.”
–Jeff Foxworthy

“Turn off your iPod and cell phone, grab this book, and delve into the secret thoughts of hundreds of young women boiled down into eight simple, fresh chapters. Trust me, you won’t be disappointed.”
–Colin Creel, author of Crossroads: Navigating your Calling and Career and Perspectives: A Spiritual Life Guide for Twentysomethings

“For Young Men Only is for any guy who has thought Is it just me? when it comes to relating to girls. Jeff and Eric slice through the beautiful and elaborate female mind and lay down a path that is clear and direct.”
–Dr. Joe White, president of Kanakuk Kamps

“When you buy something electronic, it always includes a user’s guide. Sometimes you read it, sometimes you don’t. This book is a user’s guide for teen guys as they learn how to relate to girls. Jeff and Eric have covered almost everything you need to know. And they’ve done it in a way that’s really easy to follow. I think you ought to read it.”
–Dr. Robert Wolgemuth, best-selling author of The Most Important Year in a Man’s Life and Dad’s Bible

“Two thumbs up for FYMO! It’s a great read for every young man–including the ones who are certain they already know everything about women. Maybe it should be required reading. Good job, Jeff and Eric.”
–Kendra Smiley, conference speaker and author of Do Your Kids a Favor…Love Your Spouse

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Review
“Guys, in your hands you hold a treasure–a book where young women honestly tell you what they want, need, and desire. I learned a lot, even after nearly fifty years of trying to figure women out. If you listen to what they’re telling you, you’ll avoid a mountain of confusion, anger, and heartache. If you don’t…you might be a fool.”
–Jeff Foxworthy

“Turn off your iPod and cell phone, grab this book, and delve into the secret thoughts of hundreds of young women boiled down into eight simple, fresh chapters. Trust me, you won’t be disappointed.”
–Colin Creel, author of Crossroads: Navigating your Calling and Career and Perspectives: A Spiritual Life Guide for Twentysomethings

“For Young Men Only is for any guy who has thought Is it just me? when it comes to relating to girls. Jeff and Eric slice through the beautiful and elaborate female mind and lay down a path that is clear and direct.”
–Dr. Joe White, president of Kanakuk Kamps

“When you buy something electronic, it always includes a user’s guide. Sometimes you read it, sometimes you don’t. This book is a user’s guide for teen guys as they learn how to relate to girls. Jeff and Eric have covered almost everything you need to know. And they’ve done it in a way that’s really easy to follow. I think you ought to read it.”
–Dr. Robert Wolgemuth, best-selling author of The Most Important Year in a Man’s Life and Dad’s Bible

“Two thumbs up for FYMO! It’s a great read for every young man–including the ones who are certain they already know everything about women. Maybe it should be required reading. Good job, Jeff and Eric.”
–Kendra Smiley, conference speaker and author of Do Your Kids a Favor…Love Your Spouse

“Funny, helpful, simple–just the way guys like it.”
–Chad Eastham, author of The Truth About Guys

“Finally a book for guys about all things girl! Jeff and Eric have revealed the truth about what those ‘aliens’ really want and need from us guys. And they do so by giving young men a unique glimpse into the minds and hearts of girls. Get ready, guys. On the following pages you’ll learn more than you could imagine about what girls really think–and why.”
–Jeffrey Dean, founder of Jeffrey Dean Ministries and author of Watch This and This is Me

“Jeff and Eric’s hilarious sense of humor makes this book a fast and entertaining read. Even though FYMO is based on a huge survey, it’s not just facts and percentages. The authors get to the real heartbeat of who we are as girls and what makes us tick.”
–Liz, high-school girl

“I am so glad you’re telling guys this stuff. That means maybe I won’t have to! Could you give a copy to every guy at my high school?”
–Cami, high-school girl

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Product Details

• Reading level: Young Adult
  
• Hardcover: 192 pages
• Publisher: Multnomah Books (September 16, 2008)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 160142020X
• ISBN-13: 978-1601420206
• Product Dimensions: 7.4 x 5 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars See all reviews (9 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #64,132 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Must read for guys and must have for youth workers, October 9, 2008

By	Ben Boles (Ormond Beach, FL United States) - See all my reviews

I just finished reading For Young Men Only (FYMO from now on) by Jeff Feldhahn and Eric Rice yesterday. The forth book in a the series that started with For Women Only, then For Men Only, For Parents Only, For Young Girls Only and finishing up now with FYMO.

Where was this book when I was younger? I mean come on this book would have been so helpful as a 15, 16, 17 year old guy. As I read the book and looked back on my years of chasing girls and remembering situations when I could have used information like: be myself, actually listen and hear, stand up for her, have a sense of humor, be thoughtful, be self-confident, and fun and adventurous. I have to admit I was not quite the ladies man, which is probably a good thing, and God blessed that as I married way above myself.

I was really impressed with the writers ability to use the data collected through a national survey, focus group and frequent trips to the mall to talk with more teenage girls and then communicate it in a way that a high school guy is going to want to read and will understand. Their use of real quotes from real girls, stories that they were told while talking with said teenage girls and real life experiences make this book very easy to relate to and pull practical advise that you can use tomorrow on the girl you've always wanted to talk to but never had the courage to do it.

I can see lots of ways to use this (and the For Young Girls Only) book in the youth ministry setting. From teaching series material, separate sex large group talks, 3 to 4 member small groups, one-on-one mentoring, and having a few of each book on hand to pass out to those struggling with these issues.

Overall I think this is one of the best books I read for guys with tons of great practical advice and stories to learn from. I highly recommend For Young Men Only to youth workers as a great quality tool we are always on the look out for.

3 of 3 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars A window for young men into the dark mystery that is women, October 8, 2008

By	Chris Meirose "Big Chris" (Waseca, MN United States) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

On the front cover is a quote from Jeff Foxworthy - you know, the "You might be a red neck..." guy. So I was a bit curious what direction this was going to take, and thankfully it went in a good direction. The book was an enjoyable light read, with a lot of good information. It isn't a religious book though it appears to have a solid Christian worldview, and is solid in most of what it says. It is written clearly, but in a language that today's teen guys will totally get. It connects well.

Instead of being a religious book looking at dating, this book sets out to be more informal, and more informational, providing a good look at what young women are looking for in young men. I couldn't' help but think that this book would have been useful to me when I was in its target market teenage range. It is wise without being condescending, educational without being preachy. It serves as a light for young men into the dark mystery that is women. While women will continue to confound young men after reading this book, it is a good first step to better understanding.

The areas the book covers are:
1. Why do girls pick the fancy boys over the average ones?
2. Why are good girls attracted to bad guys?
3. Why do girls seem so crazy sometimes?
4. Why do girls like you one day, and then want to break up the next?
5. What can guys do to better listen to girls?
6. What go girls really think about sex?

I found sections three and four to be the most interesting to me, but all were well thought out, well researched, well documented and clearly presented.

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent Mentoring Tool, October 31, 2008

By	J. Coskrey (Dothan, AL USA) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

This book is an excellent source for mentoring young men as they work their way through the relationship hurdle. Fun to read and easy to understand. Wish I had it when I began the journey!