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For Young Men Only: A Guy's Guide to the Alien Gender

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On the front cover is a quote from Jeff Foxworthy - you know, the "You might be a red neck..." guy. So I was a bit curious what direction this was going to take, and thankfully it went in a good direction. The book was an enjoyable light read, with a lot of good information. It isn't a religious book though it appears to have a solid Christian worldview, and is solid in most of what it says. It is written clearly, but in a language that today's teen guys will totally get. It connects well.

Instead of being a religious book looking at dating, this book sets out to be more informal, and more informational, providing a good look at what young women are looking for in young men. I couldn't' help but think that this book would have been useful to me when I was in its target market teenage range. It is wise without being condescending, educational without being preachy. It serves as a light for young men into the dark mystery that is women. While women will continue to confound young men after reading this book, it is a good first step to better understanding.

The areas the book covers are:
1. Why do girls pick the fancy boys over the average ones?
2. Why are good girls attracted to bad guys?
3. Why do girls seem so crazy sometimes?
4. Why do girls like you one day, and then want to break up the next?
5. What can guys do to better listen to girls?
6. What go girls really think about sex?

I found sections three and four to be the most interesting to me, but all were well thought out, well researched, well documented and clearly presented.

For Young Men Only - this is a great little book for guys, but I have one question: why wasn't this book written in 1987? Boy, I could have used this valuable information back then!

Lucky for young men today, a resource is available to help you understand the "alien gender." FYMO is packed with humor, statistics, real-life stories, examples and good advice. I recommend this book for any young man who wonders why girls can't be as predictable and easy to understand as iPods are. In fact, I know a couple of guys that I will be giving this book to.

If you are a young, single guy - I recommend you get and read FYMO. If you know and care about a young, single guy - I recommend you get the book and give it to him!

This book is basically a book meant to teach older boys, teens, and young men how to interact with girls and women. It discusses what young women want, how to talk to them, how to interact with them, what they say, what they mean, how they feel.

Jeff, Eric and their wives have collaborated in whole or part to write For Women Only, For Men Only, For Parents Only and For Young Women Only. The writers admit they wrote For Young Men Only last because they were trying to avoid it altogether. They didn't think young men would ever pick up a book and read it to learn how to relate to young women. But, after receiving hundreds of requests, they relented. They did scientific studies of what young women think about various topics and published the most surprising the results. The best part of the study from my perspective was that the women sampled came from all backgrounds: different religions (or none at all), different racial, ethnic and cultural groups, different social classes, intellects, etc.

This was an excellent book and a real eye opener for me. I'm 37 years old and when I was young(er), I assumed no one else felt the way I did about what's attractive in a young man, communication styles, s*x, love, dating. What I learned from this book is not only was I not alone then, but the majority of young women NOW still feel the way I did. I thought differently (worse) of "the next generation".

This book is a great read for young men (ages 10-30, in my opinion), youth pastors, teachers, parents, basically anyone who interacts with young men. While I don't personally fit into that category, I am going to get For Women Only and might read For Men Only and point out relevant passages to my husband. To be honest, there were even a few items in the For Young Men Only book that I thought my husband would benefit from knowing!

I just finished reading For Young Men Only (FYMO from now on) by Jeff Feldhahn and Eric Rice yesterday. The forth book in a the series that started with For Women Only, then For Men Only, For Parents Only, For Young Girls Only and finishing up now with FYMO.

Where was this book when I was younger? I mean come on this book would have been so helpful as a 15, 16, 17 year old guy. As I read the book and looked back on my years of chasing girls and remembering situations when I could have used information like: be myself, actually listen and hear, stand up for her, have a sense of humor, be thoughtful, be self-confident, and fun and adventurous. I have to admit I was not quite the ladies man, which is probably a good thing, and God blessed that as I married way above myself.

I was really impressed with the writers ability to use the data collected through a national survey, focus group and frequent trips to the mall to talk with more teenage girls and then communicate it in a way that a high school guy is going to want to read and will understand. Their use of real quotes from real girls, stories that they were told while talking with said teenage girls and real life experiences make this book very easy to relate to and pull practical advise that you can use tomorrow on the girl you've always wanted to talk to but never had the courage to do it.

I can see lots of ways to use this (and the For Young Girls Only) book in the youth ministry setting. From teaching series material, separate sex large group talks, 3 to 4 member small groups, one-on-one mentoring, and having a few of each book on hand to pass out to those struggling with these issues.

Overall I think this is one of the best books I read for guys with tons of great practical advice and stories to learn from. I highly recommend For Young Men Only to youth workers as a great quality tool we are always on the look out for.

I did a quick look over this book just to see what they are telling guys about us girls. I have to admit that all of this is true about us females, at least what I can see. In fact, I can't believe guys don't already know this stuff about girls! I'm like, "Really boys? You don't know this already? Thank god they have a book for your gender otherwise you would forever be in the dark about us." Girls are actually intelligent. Well, depends on the girl.

Also, just a tip for you guys out there, which is probably already in this book, is to actually pursue the girl! Most girls aren't confident enough to actually chase a guy, for a lot of guys can be quite heartless and then never let them live it down. Let me tell you one thing though, most girls are suckers for a sweet, mature, and funny guy that actually shows a little interest. Why do you think Twilight sells so many books?!? I know that I can't have one day without having one of my friends blab about some guy, especially the ones that are really great and show a small gesture. I know that I always appreciate a guy who shows an interest in me instead of me having to spend like three years to get him to break out of his shell. Also, it is so true how most girls really hope their guy doesn't push sex or does little hurtful jokes their way. It hurts their feelings at times, especially if they sort of like you.

I'd like to look it over more just to get some good laughs, but I'm not about to buy it because I'm a girl and I already know about me, lol. On the other hand, I'm probably going to read the version of this book for my own gender, and I recommend this book for guys!

Reviewed by Zach Koehn, 16
"For Young Men Only" is a good book. It gave me a much greater understanding of the opposite sex and insight into the way girls think. I feel that reading this book has helped me in my friendships with girls, as I now more understand of how they are feeling, and how to treat them. It's also shown me how certain things I used to say without thinking, could affect them in negative ways.

On the downside, "For Young Men Only" can get a bit corny at times. Also, a few of the charts are difficult to understand, and being an admittedly lazy teenager--I passed right over them. But all in all, I would recommend this book. The authors share valuable information and much needed insight for clueless teen guys.

Good book with good material. Bad part is that most of it (not all of it) I'd already learn another way, but I'm 21. If I was 13 or 15, this would have help me infinitely. Good book, and a very good way to explain things.

do you have an up and coming teenage boy in your life, who has no idea what women his age want and even his father is at a blank and you are in desperate need of guidance?! There is help and the answer lies in this book.

When I began to read FYMO, I could only nod my head at the wonderful insight these writers had. From everything to what a girl sees in a guy to the dreaded whether a girl wants to 'do it' is in this book and handled beautifully. Now, for even you older men, it can be an eye opener as well. My husband read it, mostly because I asked him, and even he couldn't believe some of the things her read. Even casting an eye to me and saying 'Is that Really how you all think?" and then"Wish this was out when I was younger."

I have a young boy who is all of two, but believe me, this will be waiting for him when he gets older. It will be a mandatory read before he begins dating and a reference when there are things he needs help understanding. If you are a young man and are in the dating scene or a mom with a son heading there, you NEED to read this book. And for all you others out there, the series has For Women Only, For Young women Only, and For Men Only. I am buying all of them to add to my shelf

So, I spent a good part of the afternoon reading For Young Men Only by Jeff Feldhahan and Eric Rice (with Shaunti Feldhahn). I laughed as I realized how accurately it portrayed the "inner workings" of the teen girl's mind. With answers to questions from a survey of 600 teen girls, I found the surprising statistics both accurate and surprising at times. And I am absolutely terrified knowing that my oldest, Elijah, is at an age where he's going to start having questions about girls. I'm so glad to have this book to share with him! And even more glad that it's his dad's domain to answer most of those questions!

But if you're looking for a great book to open the discussion with the teenage or even older tween boy in your life, I'd highly recommend For Young Men Only. It will *not* disappoint! (You can view even more information and the complete survey results on the website - www.foryoungmenonly.com.

For Young Men Only by Jeff Feldhahn & Eric Rice is a indispensable tool for guys who want to know how girls think. The authors did several surveys and studies of teenage girls to understand why they act the way they do. Why do they go from everything's hunky dory one day to don't let the door kick you on your way out the next? Why do they fall for bad boys? How do they really feel about sex? There are some surprising answers that are bound to help teenage guys in their relationships with girls. The book is never preachy, just funny as even the authors learn things about women that they didn't know. It's a short book, so getting guys to read it shouldn't be hard, and it speaks in down-to-earth language without being condescending. An excellent book in a stellar series.