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For Young Women Only: What You Need to Know About How Guys Think

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I decided it would be entertaining at best if not a little eductaional to see what this book had to say about us guys. To my surprise, ALL OF IT WAS TRUE! As I read it I just kept nodding my head and thinking "Yup, right, I agree there..." I even looked for things to disagree about. It was written as the result of a national survey of over four-hundred young men. It had percentile statistics, and though I may have been in the lower percent on some issues, both sides were presented. No, this is not a stereotype of modern young men, it is simply an accurate portayal of us. I can't say the book would be of any use to guys, (unless you are looking for entertainment) But I would recomend it to any young women who want to figure us out.

That Said...I have one very major problem with this book. It explains the nature of such things as
-the way guys think
-respond to criticism
-are visually stimualted etc...
But in the area of sexual purity, the authors seem to be giving guys a free ticket to sexual sin. They explain how guys are sexually driven, but do not do a very good job of saying they need to fight these urges. They chalk it up to "Guys can't help it, that's how they are, and there's no stopping it", which is nearly what is said! Reading Every young man's battle is much more useful in challenging men to be pure. Of course, it was written for girls, but that factor cannot be ignored.

The authors of FOR YOUNG WOMEN ONLY, Shaunti Feldhahn and Lisa A. Rice, have done an amazing job!

They took surveys of guys ages fifteen to twenty, with questions about dating, relationships, and sex -- and the book is what the guys had to say. All of the survey answers are in it, as well as quotes from the boys when they met in groups to talk.

If you are a teen girl wondering what guys are thinking about then this is the book for you. (I think every woman in America wants to understand the complicated minds of guys.) There are many subjects covered, including how men hide their feelings under a tough exterior and how a guy wants to find a diamond in the rough, not someone who comes off as perfect.

I really enjoyed this book because not only is it insightful but it's also kind of funny. There are things that I will now do differently around guys because of reading this book. I only wish that guys could just tell girls what they were thinking -- but of course things have to be difficult!

Reviewed by: Taylor Rector

Teen girls need to see themselves through the eyes of the young men they think they're impressing. The reality you present in this book will be a shock to many! It's a quick, easy read, well worth the time, and should be a powerful tool in returning dating to a God-honoring relationship. Thank you, Shaunti!

As the mother of a teen girl and two teen boys, this book helped me relate to all three of them because of the insights into how teen guys approach life. Then I gave it to my daughter, and that has helped her understand both her brothers and other guys she knows. I've heard her enthusiastically recommend it to her peers, and she has lent it already to two friends.

I first heard about this author when my wife was reading, "For Women Only." My wife kept asking me if what she was reading was true. At first I was intimidated by how candid and frank the author was, but I could not disagree that she described the inner landscape of men (at least of me!) with surgical precision.

Since then I have bought the man's version (about women), and bought this particular book for my two adolescent daughters. In our home we try to teach Christian faith, integrity and morality to our kids. This book fits with our goals and present information in a non-threatening and frank way to our girls. They were both startled and embarrassed by finding out the way boys think about girls, but the author speaks the truth!

As a male, son, brother and Dad I want my own daughters to have a correct idea about how males see girls and think about them. I believe this helps girls/women have the tools to behave morally and constructively in their relationships to men.

For example, men are very visually stimulated. To girls this at first seems academic: since bare female bodies (or parts thereof) are in many visual formats (movies, advertisements, magazine covers, posters), girls assume it is passe and "no big deal" to show lots of breast or other parts of their bodies. However, this book helps girls understand what a boys response to seeing female nakedness is like inside a boys mind; something a girl is unlikely to understand on her own.

Boys do not only think of sex, and emotional landscape of boys is neatly addressed in her as well as other issues too.

This book enables girls to understand boys better and relate to them in healthy and constructive ways. My 14 year old devoured it and before it hit the bookshelf my 12 year old read it and is sharing the contents with her friends. How can the mind and experience of the opposite sex not be interesting to adolescents? :)

Have your girls read this book and get the appropriate version for yourself to improve the health and morality of your relationships! The author is respectful but honest; she does a very good job.

This book was wonderful. I love how it gave so many personal quotes from real guys and what they had to say was amazing. I already knew most of the things that they talked about before I read the book but the book really added a depth of understanding that I hadn't had before. I realized alot of things that I could do and say to even my younger brothers. It made me feel almost sorry for the guy and what he goes through and how we as girls so many of us just ignore or disregard the guys feelings cause we think they are weak when sometimes we are the actual cause of it. I felt alot more self-concious about the way I dress and acted around guys. I was at soccer camp just yesterday when I a girl there had her belly and most of her chest showing in a tight tank top and this guy came up to her and asked her if she had a shirt she could put on, she told him yes and he said good and walked away. Just that made me realized how much temptation we are to guys. That guy was trying to keep his mind out of the gutter. This book also had a great Christian perspective into it which I loved being a christian myself.
I highly recommend this to ALL teenage girls.

As a youthspeaker, author to teens, and mentor to teens, I highly recommend this book for young women. Shaunti Feldhahn and Lisa Rice weren't afraid to delve into relevant topics and give an eye-opening look at what guys are thinking.

To most teenage girls, guys are a mystery, and confusion haunts most inter-gender relationships. Shaunti Feldhahn and Lisa A. Rice do their best to eliminate this confusion with For Young Women Only: What You Need to Know About How Guys Think. The essence of the male mind becomes much clearer to the reader, enabling her to be the kind of friend and sister in Christ that the young men around her need, and preparing her to be a loving, supportive wife. The age-old topic of modesty is covered with new insight, revealing to girls WHY modesty is so important if we care about the men around us. The chapter "Seeing the Inner and Outer Beauty" was perhaps the most important chapter to me, as a teenage reader, because it covers a matter of great sensitivity to young women in a manner that provides comfort and encouragement. I would recommend For Young Women Only to all girls ages 13 and older, as the book does contain some sensitive content. For more on sexual purity and modesty, check out Wait For Me: Rediscovering the Joy of Purity in Romance, a book targeted toward a similar audience with a message equally as important and necessary as that of For Young Women Only.

This book is so valuable for young women, and even some that aren't so young. The principles taught in this book can really help a woman throughout her dating life. It even has some great tips for women who may be married or already in a committed relationship. I highly suggest picking this one up for yourself, or maybe for the young woman in your life.

I haven't had a chance to completely go through this book, but from what I have read, it is a very good source for young girls to know what young men are thinking. This is a good book for helping young women know how to handle the pressures of their peers and boys.