Win Your Child Custody War: Child Custody Help Source Book--A How-To System for People Serious About the Welfare of Their Child
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10 star value for usable information. This is by far the most complete and well-written book on custody issues and the copy I have will be given to the local library as a reference book, because I think it is a must read for anyone going through a custody fight. Thankfully I am still married thirty-five plus years and have never had to deal with the issue, but have helped a number of men gain custody of their children. If there is one thing I do not like about the book, it would be the cover photograph where the little boy appears to be dressed as a small U S marine. Having family in the military and in a real life and death war, I think a photograph of a variety of children from different ethnic backgrounds would have made a better cover. 04/0 8/ 03 Top 50 Reviewer motherlodebeth, from Sierras of California. >>><<< I was doing ok (not great) during the day. Facing the [stuff] they threw at me was easier when mixed in with seeing my kids, my job and other responsibilities. Nights were long, painful and left me exhausted. If I was finally able get to sleep, I would wake in a few hours in a panic or with their latest assault eating at my guts. It would be different if I could see my kids sleeping safe in their beds. I never felt so helpless in my life. I am a good, no, a great dad. I love my kids. I shouldn't have to be a part-time dad. They need a full-time dad. I think this book is going to help me show the judge who I am and how much I can contribute to their lives. Found this book on Amazon at 4a.m. and felt better just having ordered it. It has helped so much that I can get to sleep. On the rare occasion that I do wake up worried, Win Your Child Custody War is my Midnight Companion and I can always find something to calm me by giving me a plan of action for the next day. Examples of what other guys faced and how they handled themselves are valuable. Seeing the results (good and bad) of the actions I would have taken has given me a real heads-up. I don't feel helpless any more. I think this is the next best thing to having a great lawyer in your pocket 24/7. Borrow, steal or buy a copy. --Patrick Devine, Carmillo, CA
Choosing to give my ex-husband custody of our very young children was the most difficult decisions I have ever made. Later battles for visitation rights and custody have been the most painful events of my life. I have endured restraining orders based on lies, long distance visitation, and the psychological devastation of being separated from my children. My case went to the worst of extremes when my lawyer resigned, in order to testify on my behalf. Because of the injustice of the handling of the restraining order, my case was used as the example that changed a school's non-custodial parent pickup policy. Along the way, I made many of the mistakes common to parents in my situation and learned many lessons the hard way. I wish I had Win Your Child Custody War when I began those battles; the information, advice and warnings would have made the battle far easier. Win Your Child Custody War provides the legal details and information a parent needs before and after hiring a lawyer, detective, or even a psychologist. Win Your Child Custody War sets realistic expectations, includes straight talk with no mollycoddling, and lots of sound advice. Logs, affidavits, and home studies are covered with meticulous detail and with sound examples. As the author cautions, however, readers also need to follow the advice of their lawyer over the book. For example, in the extreme case of a parent who does not want to visit the child and would stop harassment if not required to pay child support, the author suggests: You could get counseling, legal assistance or return the money to the other parent, when you get it from the court each month. I know from personal experience that you may --Anne P. Mitchell, Esq., Founder/Director, Fathers Rights & Equality Exchange (F.R.E.E.), Mother
Choosing to give my ex-husband custody of our very young children was the most difficult decisions I have ever made. Later battles for visitation rights and custody have been the most painful events of my life. I have endured restraining orders based on lies, long distance visitation, and the psychological devastation of being separated from my children. My case went to the worst of extremes when my lawyer resigned, in order to testify on my behalf. Because of the injustice of the handling of the restraining order, my case was used as the example that changed a school's non-custodial parent pickup policy. Along the way, I made many of the mistakes common to parents in my situation and learned many lessons the hard way. I wish I had Win Your Child Custody War when I began those battles; the information, advice and warnings would have made the battle far easier. Win Your Child Custody War provides the legal details and information a parent needs before and after hiring a lawyer, detective, or even a psychologist. Win Your Child Custody War sets realistic expectations, includes straight talk with no mollycoddling, and lots of sound advice. Logs, affidavits, and home studies are covered with meticulous detail and with sound examples. As the author cautions, however, readers also need to follow the advice of their lawyer over the book. For example, in the extreme case of a parent who does not want to visit the child and would stop harassment if not required to pay child support, the author suggests: You could get counseling, legal assistance or return the money to the other parent, when you get it from the court each month. I know from personal experience that you may return the money in Arkansas. But, in Georgia, the money isn't yours, belonging to your children, you are required to accept the money, just as the non-custodial parent is required by law to pay. No exceptions. Encouragement and common sense are also included in the Win Your Child Custody War. Some battles are better walked away from, especially when the battle becomes a matter of winning and not necessarily in the child's best interest. Win Your Child Custody War forces readers to carefully examine their own motives, behaviors and attitudes. It also warns of the pitfalls, and provides tips for how to avoid them. As I turned the pages, revisiting my own battles, challenges and mistakes, I couldn't help thinking of the emotional pain this book could have saved me. Simple things like plan an activity for when you return the children to their custodial parent would have been useful advice from the beginning of my battle. In addition, Win Your Child Custody War is very sensitive to the issues non-custodial mothers face, especially considering the harsh judgment society places on women without custody. This is the most personal review I have ever written, but given the nature of the book, I feel compelled to offer personal confirmation of the value of Win Your Child Custody War. Surprisingly, I also found a lot of self-forgiveness as I read this book. As I revisited old wounds and previously second-guessed decisions, I found confirmation of my own good decision-making, giving the book a remarkably positive spin for this battle weary, but successful warrior. 5 stars Incredible resource Very highly recommended. --Top 50 Amazon Reviewer, editor@wordweaving.com, Greenville, SC
10 star value for usable information. This is by far the most complete and well-written book on custody issues and the copy I have will be given to the local library as a reference book, because I think it is a must read for anyone going through a custody fight. Thankfully I am still married thirty-five plus years and have never had to deal with the issue, but have helped a number of men gain custody of their children. If there is one thing I do not like about the book, it would be the cover photograph where the little boy appears to be dressed as a small U S marine. Having family in the military and in a real life and death war, I think a photograph of a variety of children from different ethnic backgrounds would have made a better cover. 04/0 8/ 03 Top 50 Reviewer motherlodebeth, from Sierras of California. >>><<< I was doing ok (not great) during the day. Facing the [stuff] they threw at me was easier when mixed in with seeing my kids, my job and other responsibilities. Nights were long, painful and left me exhausted. If I was finally able get to sleep, I would wake in a few hours in a panic or with their latest assault eating at my guts. It would be different if I could see my kids sleeping safe in their beds. I never felt so helpless in my life. I am a good, no, a great dad. I love my kids. I shouldn't have to be a part-time dad. They need a full-time dad. I think this book is going to help me show the judge who I am and how much I can contribute to their lives. Found this book on Amazon at 4a.m. and felt better just having ordered it. It has helped so much that I can get to sleep. On the rare occasion that I do wake up worried, Win Your Child Custody War is my Midnight Companion and I can always find something to calm me by giving me a plan of action for the next day. Examples of what other guys faced and how they handled themselves are valuable. Seeing the results (good and bad) of the actions I would have taken has given me a real heads-up. I don't feel helpless any more. I think this is the next best thing to having a great lawyer in your pocket 24/7. Borrow, steal or buy a copy. --Patrick Devine, Carmillo, CA
Choosing to give my ex-husband custody of our very young children was the most difficult decisions I have ever made. Later battles for visitation rights and custody have been the most painful events of my life. I have endured restraining orders based on lies, long distance visitation, and the psychological devastation of being separated from my children. My case went to the worst of extremes when my lawyer resigned, in order to testify on my behalf. Because of the injustice of the handling of the restraining order, my case was used as the example that changed a school's non-custodial parent pickup policy. Along the way, I made many of the mistakes common to parents in my situation and learned many lessons the hard way. I wish I had Win Your Child Custody War when I began those battles; the information, advice and warnings would have made the battle far easier. Win Your Child Custody War provides the legal details and information a parent needs before and after hiring a lawyer, detective, or even a psychologist. Win Your Child Custody War sets realistic expectations, includes straight talk with no mollycoddling, and lots of sound advice. Logs, affidavits, and home studies are covered with meticulous detail and with sound examples. As the author cautions, however, readers also need to follow the advice of their lawyer over the book. For example, in the extreme case of a parent who does not want to visit the child and would stop harassment if not required to pay child support, the author suggests: You could get counseling, legal assistance or return the money to the other parent, when you get it from the court each month. I know from personal experience that you may --Anne P. Mitchell, Esq., Founder/Director, Fathers Rights & Equality Exchange (F.R.E.E.), Mother
Choosing to give my ex-husband custody of our very young children was the most difficult decisions I have ever made. Later battles for visitation rights and custody have been the most painful events of my life. I have endured restraining orders based on lies, long distance visitation, and the psychological devastation of being separated from my children. My case went to the worst of extremes when my lawyer resigned, in order to testify on my behalf. Because of the injustice of the handling of the restraining order, my case was used as the example that changed a school's non-custodial parent pickup policy. Along the way, I made many of the mistakes common to parents in my situation and learned many lessons the hard way. I wish I had Win Your Child Custody War when I began those battles; the information, advice and warnings would have made the battle far easier. Win Your Child Custody War provides the legal details and information a parent needs before and after hiring a lawyer, detective, or even a psychologist. Win Your Child Custody War sets realistic expectations, includes straight talk with no mollycoddling, and lots of sound advice. Logs, affidavits, and home studies are covered with meticulous detail and with sound examples. As the author cautions, however, readers also need to follow the advice of their lawyer over the book. For example, in the extreme case of a parent who does not want to visit the child and would stop harassment if not required to pay child support, the author suggests: You could get counseling, legal assistance or return the money to the other parent, when you get it from the court each month. I know from personal experience that you may return the money in Arkansas. But, in Georgia, the money isn't yours, belonging to your children, you are required to accept the money, just as the non-custodial parent is required by law to pay. No exceptions. Encouragement and common sense are also included in the Win Your Child Custody War. Some battles are better walked away from, especially when the battle becomes a matter of winning and not necessarily in the child's best interest. Win Your Child Custody War forces readers to carefully examine their own motives, behaviors and attitudes. It also warns of the pitfalls, and provides tips for how to avoid them. As I turned the pages, revisiting my own battles, challenges and mistakes, I couldn't help thinking of the emotional pain this book could have saved me. Simple things like plan an activity for when you return the children to their custodial parent would have been useful advice from the beginning of my battle. In addition, Win Your Child Custody War is very sensitive to the issues non-custodial mothers face, especially considering the harsh judgment society places on women without custody. This is the most personal review I have ever written, but given the nature of the book, I feel compelled to offer personal confirmation of the value of Win Your Child Custody War. Surprisingly, I also found a lot of self-forgiveness as I read this book. As I revisited old wounds and previously second-guessed decisions, I found confirmation of my own good decision-making, giving the book a remarkably positive spin for this battle weary, but successful warrior. 5 stars Incredible resource Very highly recommended. --Top 50 Amazon Reviewer, editor@wordweaving.com, Greenville, SC
10 star value for usable information. This is by far the most complete and well-written book on custody issues and the copy I have will be given to the local library as a reference book, because I think it is a must read for anyone going through a custody fight. Thankfully I am still married thirty-five plus years and have never had to deal with the issue, but have helped a number of men gain custody of their children. If there is one thing I do not like about the book, it would be the cover photograph where the little boy appears to be dressed as a small U S marine. Having family in the military and in a real life and death war, I think a photograph of a variety of children from different ethnic backgrounds would have made a better cover. 04/0 8/ 03 Top 50 Reviewer motherlodebeth, from Sierras of California. >>><<< I was doing ok (not great) during the day. Facing the [stuff] they threw at me was easier when mixed in with seeing my kids, my job and other responsibilities. Nights were long, painful and left me exhausted. If I was finally able get to sleep, I would wake in a few hours in a panic or with their latest assault eating at my guts. It would be different if I could see my kids sleeping safe in their beds. I never felt so helpless in my life. I am a good, no, a great dad. I love my kids. I shouldn't have to be a part-time dad. They need a full-time dad. I think this book is going to help me show the judge who I am and how much I can contribute to their lives. Found this book on Amazon at 4a.m. and felt better just having ordered it. It has helped so much that I can get to sleep. On the rare occasion that I do wake up worried, Win Your Child Custody War is my Midnight Companion and I can always find something to calm me by giving me a plan of action for the next day. Examples of what other guys faced and how they handled themselves are valuable. Seeing the results (good and bad) of the actions I would have taken has given me a real heads-up. I don't feel helpless any more. I think this is the next best thing to having a great lawyer in your pocket 24/7. Borrow, steal or buy a copy. --Patrick Devine, Carmillo, CA
About the Author
Charlotte Hardwick has written 6 child custody books to date. Hardwick initially shared her personal experience and built on it with the accumulated knowledge from hundreds of cases and thousands of other parent s experiences. Every conceivable aspect of the child custody wars are explored and explained while guiding the reader toward a powerful strategy. If you don't have her books and this book in particular, you are likely to be overmatched; indeed if your attorney doesn't have this book, your attorney is likely to be outmatched. In fact, I would say that the first thing you should do after reading the book yourself, is buy a copy for your attorney and somehow persuade him or her to open the pages and to start reading--anywhere in the book. I promise you your attorney will learn facts, ideas, and strategies new to him or her. The expanse and depth of the material presented here quite frankly amazed me. This extensive tome constitutes an entire course not only in child custody disputes but in human psychology, parenting, and the law itself. The mass of information and the sharp, sound guidance contained herein really amount to a post graduate course in child custody disputes. You will be much impressed with Hardwick's assertive, no-nonsense writing style and organization that managed to painlessly inform while emphasizing a positive approach. Titles include: Win Your Child Custody War, Child Custody Case Management Forms, Witness Guide for Deposition and Court, Killers & Boosters for Child Custody Cases, Dear Judge, (Children's Letters to the Judge), Help and Where to Find it (out of print).
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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful:
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This review is from: Win Your Child Custody War: Child Custody Help Source Book--A How-To System for People Serious About the Welfare of Their Child (12th Edition) (Paperback)
Win Your Child Custdoy War 12th Edition. This is definitely not another hyped up child custody/divorce manual. Win Your Child Custody War, has plenty of content. The kind you go to the book store, library, internet, parent support groups, read boxes of court cases, attend legal factfinding seminars and hire the best attorney you can afford, to get. The Table of Contents and Index, list the topics covered in all the other books on child custody. Additional topics which many other parents have faced and may be useful in your case are identified and explained. The suggestions and information in the book are well thought-out and precise. Use the examples as indicators so you can watch the other parent and their cohorts for patterns of behavior signaling poor decision making that could affect you children negatively.
This book will help you guard against vicious attack whether you are a mom or a dad. A divorce and child custody chronological order relating to how events usually occur are included. Authority and precedence from family courts across the nation are listed. This is no "quick read" at a bookstore. Compare the Table of Contents of Win with any 10 other available books. If you need defense from dirty tricks, protection from your own attorney and solid information, Win Your Child Custody War will level the playing field for you. Highly recommended.
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This review is from: Win Your Child Custody War: Child Custody Help Source Book--A How-To System for People Serious About the Welfare of Their Child (12th Edition) (Paperback)
Don't be overwhelmed by this book when it arrives. It is not arranged to be read from the front cover to the back or to be read completely before you take action. Determine what is causing you the most trouble, worry or pain at this moment, look it up and take action. Then attack the next challenge you face. Knock them down one by one.
Win Your Child Custody War, 12th Edition, explains how a case may proceed. However, since no two child custody cases progress in identical patterns, the book is arranged by topic. Every major topic from PAS to International Child Abduction is covered and case law is identified. Does your case involve: grandparents, stepparents, a parent who smokes, addiction, violence, homeschooling, religious issues, breastfeeding, child abuse, CPS, visitation problems, false accusations, private investigators, kidnapping, lies and perjury, move away, child support or trying to get a level playing field? The chapters are dense with identification of the problems we face, and workable concepts for dealing with them. The organization of this book makes it easy to find what you need and makes it easy to start working in the right direction. I compared the Table of Contents and Index with all the other books offered and saw Win Your Child Custody War, 12th Edition was the most complete. In fact, now that I have this book, I feel that Win Your Child Custody War 12th Edition, contains more examples and options than are offered in all the other books combined. This book doesn't smooth things over or tell you what you want to hear, it tells you the way it is and what you can do about it. I highly recommend this outstanding resource.
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Outstanding resource,
By John Chancellor "Mentor coach" (Spring Hill, TN) - See all my reviews (VINE VOICE) (TOP 500 REVIEWER) (REAL NAME)
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If you are involved in a child custody dispute, then I feel you would certainly benefit from this resouce.
It is rather expensive and long - over 750 pages. However it covers a huge amount of information. But considering the hourly rate of most divorce/custody attorneys, you will probably save the cost of the book a few times over. As the author states, the primary audicence for this book is "the parent who is serious about winning and maintaining custody of a child. ... A child custody war rarely involves only the children and the parents." The child custody war will more than likely be extremely expensive in terms of money and emotional scars. The book is broken down into to 43 chapters and each chapter has an extensive listing of the topics covered in that chapter. There is a glossary of terms, an Appendix covering interesting cases and a very extensive index. In addition to all the resources, there is some good advice in the book. All too often, custody battles are filled with emotion and it is very easy for the emotions of the parents to trump the best interest of the child. The book does a good job of pointing out the dangers of putting the children in the direct battle path between the parents. If you are going through or will be going through a custody battle, I would highly recommend you acquire this book. I also recommend you read the book Dear Judge to fully understand the battle from the child's point of view.
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