Children become the messages they get the most. And as a parent, your words, attitudes, and actions are constantly sending your children messages, creating their earliest ideas about themselves, others, and the world around them. Now, parenting expert Dr. Jim Taylor describes the vital opportunity you have to shape your children (even when they may not appear to be listening) and guides you to answer this crucial question: “How can I be sure I’m sending the healthiest messages?” If you consciously send your children the right messages, the benefits for them will be profound. Your Children Are Listening offers:
Nine essential messages all children need to hear—on love, competence, security, compassion, gratitude, nature, respect, responsibility, and emotion
Why these messages are so important
The different “conduits” through which children receive your messages
“Message blockers” that can prevent them from getting through
And fun catchphrases and activities you can use to send these messages every day!
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“Dr. Jim Taylor’s strengths are his compassionate voice, his insights into parents’ and children’s psyches, and his ‘boots on the ground’ approach to helping parents send healthy messages to their children. In a world filled with harmful messages, Your Children are Listening will resonate with all parents.” —Michele Borba, EdD, author of Parents Do Make a Difference and The Big Book of Parenting Solutions
“In a world where children are surrounded by negative messages, Dr. Jim Taylor gives parents the tools they need to effectively communicate healthy, positive messages that will infuse their childrens’ hearts, minds and souls.” —Michelle LaRowe, author of A Mom’s Ultimate Book of Lists, Working Mom’s 411 and the Nanny to the Rescue! Parenting Series
About the Author
Jim Taylor, PHD, has worked with young people, parents, and educators for more than 24 years. He has spoken at over 700 venues globally. His previous books include Positive Pushing:How to Raise a Successful and Happy Child (Hyperion, 2002). His dozens of past national and local TV appearances include NBC's Today and ABC's World News This Weekend, and he is regularly quoted by major print media. He lives with his family in Marin County, California.
Dr. Jim Taylor is internationally recognized for his work in the psychology of performance in business, sport, and parenting.
Dr. Taylor has been a consultant to and has provided individual and group training to executives and businesses throughout the North and South America, Europe, the Middle East, and Asia. He is a frequent speaker at Young Presidents' Organization events internationally and a featured speaker for Natixis Global Associates, the 14th largest asset management company in the world.
Dr. Taylor has been a consultant for the United States and Japanese Ski Teams, the United States Tennis Association, and USA Triathlon, and has worked with professional and world-class athletes in tennis, skiing, cycling, triathlon, track and field, swimming, football, golf, baseball, and many other sports. He has been invited to lecture by the Olympic Committees of Spain, France, Poland, and the U.S., and has consulted with the Athletic Departments at Stanford University and the University of California, Berkeley.
Dr. Taylor speaks regularly to elementary and secondary schools, parent and education associations, youth-sports programs, and performing-arts organizations around the country.
Dr. Taylor has consulted with health and medical facilities around the U.S. including the Mayo Clinic, the Stone Clinic in San Francisco, The Aspen Fitness and Sports Medicine Institute, the San Francisco Bay Club, Bay Club Marin, and the J.P. Parisien Human Performance Laboratory.
He has worked with the Miami City Ballet, the Hartford Ballet Company, and the DanceAspen Summer School, and performing artists in many disciplines.
Dr. Taylor received his Bachelor's degree from Middlebury College and earned his Master's degree and Ph.D. in Psychology from the University of Colorado. He is a former Associate Professor in the School of Psychology at Nova University in Ft. Lauderdale and a former clinical associate professor in the Sport & Performance Psychology graduate program at the University of Denver. He is currently an adjunct faculty at the University of San Francisco and the Wright Institute in Berkeley.
Dr. Taylor's professional areas of interest include corporate performance, child development and parenting, sport psychology, coaches education, injury rehabilitation, popular culture, public education reform, and the psychology of technology.
A former alpine ski racer who competed internationally, Dr. Taylor is also a 2nd degree black belt and certified instructor in karate, a marathon runner, and an Ironman triathlete.
He has published more than 700 articles in scholarly and popular publications, and has given more than 800 workshops and presentations throughout North and South America, Europe, and the Middle East.
Dr. Taylor is the author or lead editor of 14 books including Your Children are Listening: Nine Messages They Need to Hear From You (The Experiment Publishing, 2011), Positive Pushing: How to Raise a Successful and Happy Child (Hyperion, 2003),Your Children are Under Attack: How Popular Culture is Destroying Your Kids' Values, and How You Can Protect Them (SourceBooks, 2005), The Triathlete's Guide to Mental Training (VeloPress, 2005), Prime Sport: Triumph of the Athlete's Mind (iUniverse, 2002), andApplying Sport Psychology: Four Perspectives (lead editor, Human Kinetics, 2005). Dr. Taylor's next parenting book, Raising Generation Tech:  Prepare Your Children for a Media-fueled World (Sourcebooks), will be published in the Spring of 2012. Another book, Prime Dance: The Psychology of Artistry and Excellence (Human Kinetics) will be published in the Spring of 2013.
Dr. Taylor blogs on business, sports, parenting, technology, education, politics, and popular culture on this web site, as well as on psychologytoday.com, sfgate.com (San Francisco Chronicle's web site), huffingtonpost.com, seattlepi.com, and the Hearst Interactive Media Connecticut Group web sites. His posts are aggregated by dozens of web sites worldwide and have been read by millions of people.
Dr. Taylor has appeared on NBC's Today Show, Fox News Channel's Fox & Friends, UPN's Life & Style, ABC's World News This Weekend, and the major television network affiliates around the U.S.. He has participated in many radio shows. His research and writings have as been the subject of syndicated columns that have appeared in dozens of newspapers across the country. Jim has been a columnist for The Denver Post , and has been interviewed for articles that have appeared in The New York Daily News, The Los Angeles Times, The London Times, The Chicago Tribune, U.S. News & World Report, The Christian Science Monitor, The London Telegraph, The Miami Herald, The Ft. Lauderdale Sun-Sentinel, The Baltimore Sun, The Denver Post, Skiing, Outside, and many other newspapers and magazines.
Dr. Taylor is a former member of the Board of Directors of the San Francisco Education Fund, a non-profit organization whose mission it is to help underprivileged students achieve academic success.
Dr. Taylor lives north of San Francisco with his wife, Sarah, and daughters, Catie and Gracie.
As a person and parent who is generally skeptical of self help and parenting books, I went into this with some reservations. However, this book is enjoyable, and presents a common sense approach to raising your children in a safe, compassionate environment that respects and embraces the world around them. Not only is each "message" well presented and thought out, but I liked what I thought of as the "bullet points" (catchphrases, rituals and activities) which reinforce the message of each chapter. In the end, while dealing with a complex subject and task, Dr. Taylor kept it relatively simple and fun. A good book for the parenting bookshelf!
I loved this book! As a parent of 2 young kids (3 and 6), I found every page full of great ideas for how to interact with them in ways that will send all the wholesome messages and values that I want them to absorb. Totally practical, easy to read, and inspiring! Having read this, I feel confident that I can help my children become adults I'll be proud of - responsible, independent, kind, loving, respectful to our planet, and confident. This book also helped me become more mindful of what I am communicating to my kids in every day interactions. It helps well-intentioned parents distinguish between the subtleties of what seems like good parenting on the surface, and what actually is good parenting, by teaching the reader how to recognize the ways in which our parenting messages are ACTUALLY being received by our kids, and empowering us to be in the driver seat. Brilliant!
Dr. Taylor takes many of the important messages that as parents we are trying to instill in front of his readers in an easy to understand way that all will appreciate. Too often the messages that we are trying to convey gets lost. Whether this is due to our own miscommunications, or if there is outside interference, we have continual issues in trying to convey these messages so that they both listen and hear the message itself.
This book helps parents to relate to their children and hopefully our children to better relate to us in the end.Not only does the book share personal examples of people, but it brings in strong research to support his claims as well.
The author takes a compassionate tone that makes the book easy to read and it is easy to see that he is on a mission to help parents and children to grow mutually together.
Overall this book was great, and if you are looking for a book that will make you re-evaluate your own techniques and how you are coming across to your own kids, this book is an amazing one to have in your collection!
