Be Your Own Dating Service: A Step-By-Step Guide to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Relationships [Paperback]

Nina Atwood (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: January 15, 1996

Where are all the good people to date? Why do I always end up with the wrong person? Why is love so hard to find?

This upbeat and on-target book answers these questions and many more, providing today's singles with a blueprint for creating rewarding dating experiences.

Editorial Reviews

Review

"Ms. Atwood's book empowers singles in their journey toward healthy romantic love. "-John Gray, author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

"A must-read for singles. "-Pat Love, author of Hot Monogamy

About the Author

Nina Atwood, M.ED., L.P.C., is a therapist in private practice in Dallas, Texas, where she also teaches dating and relationship seminars.

Product Details

• Paperback: 304 pages
• Publisher: Holt Paperbacks; 1st edition (January 15, 1996)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0805040978
• ISBN-13: 978-0805040975
• Product Dimensions: 8.5 x 5.3 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (20 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #183,562 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Nina Atwood, M.Ed., LPC, is a licensed therapist with twenty years in private practice. Nina launched the world's first educational resource on the internet for singles, Singlescoach' (www.singlescoach.com), in 1996, simultaneous with the publication of her first book, Be Your Own Dating Service. Since then, she's established herself as one of the foremost authorities on the intricacies of dating and love relationships. She's been featured in innumerable national magazines and newspapers, on radio hundreds of times, and on national and regional television. Nina's newest book, Temptations of the Single Girl: The Ten Dating Traps You Must Avoid (Wheatmark, 2008), was just released to rave reviews. Nina lives in Dallas, Texas, with her Soul Partner and husband, Mark.

Customer Reviews

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

37 of 37 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars It changed my life!, September 2, 1999

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Jim Turner (Tucson, AZ USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Be Your Own Dating Service: A Step-By-Step Guide to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Relationships (Paperback)

The only thing I didn't like was the title. This book is so much more than how to date. I followed the suggestions to the last detail. I began by looking at previous relationships, what was good and bad about them and what happened. Then I looked at what I wanted in a relationship. I followed suggestions about increasing my network of friends and acquaintances. I paid attention to where I was in the stages of life and where the other people were. There were so many excellent insights into the psychology of relationships and how to match the physical, emotional, intellectual and not settle -- and also why I settled before and how not to. I can't say enough, and after three months I found someone so incredibly right for me I can't believe it, and she feels the same! Thank you so much, Nina Atwood, I'm telling all my single friends about your book!

34 of 34 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Insightful, useful insights into dating with a purpose, January 12, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: Be Your Own Dating Service: A Step-By-Step Guide to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Relationships (Paperback)

Want to pick up women? This isn't your book.

Want to manipulate men into asking you out? This isn't your book.

Want to date with a purpose -- to eventually find and develop a relationship that might become a committed, lifetime relationship nourishing two people? This is it!

Nina Atwood combines her professional training, personal experiences and the experiences of those she has counseled, coached and corresponded with to offer insight into the problems, reassurances that you aren't the only one having them, and concrete, achievable solutions.

While slightly slanted toward the female experience (like duh), it is only slightly slanted. The male experience, problems and point of view are clearly represented. Males can benefit not only from the direct information, but also from the subtext about what women want and expect (or at least should want and expect).

In addition, it isn't just about snaring someone. It is about living a full life, discovering who you truly are, being open and honest both to yourself and the world, and attracting someone who is like you.

I can't say enough good about this book.

If you have never had problems dating, if you've never wondered why you broke up, if you and your partner always seem to be on the same page, if your relationship is going where you want, if you truly understand what the other is feeling, if you never quarrel about "nothing", you don't need this book.

Otherwise, you cannot afford NOT to buy it.

26 of 26 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars The best, January 10, 2002

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bradley v williams (USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Be Your Own Dating Service: A Step-By-Step Guide to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Relationships (Paperback)

The best book about dating relationships I have found... and it's about much more than just getting dates. As a male psychiatrist at a major university student health service where inability to make good choices in finding a healthy relationship is a common presenting complaint I recommend this book when I feel the patient could benefit from some study concerning the matter. Ordinarily I'm not really a fan of what I consider pop psychology but this book is very insightful and gives a good framework for understanding a process that we are taught very little about but somehow we are supposed to know. The reality for most us is learning in a trial and error fashion, often blindly, without much understanding about why things are going so badly and accumulating baggage along the way. There should be a course on this in high school if education is about preparing people for life, and if so, this book would be on my required reading list.