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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 240 pages
  • Publisher: Palgrave Macmillan Trade; 1 edition (April 26, 2011)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0230103626
  • ISBN-13: 978-0230103627
  • Product Dimensions: 6.5 x 1 x 9.5 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 14.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (9 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #266,501 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Offers insight and honesty in a discussion of the healthy ways mothers can help their daughters grow comfortable and knowledgeable about their sexuality…An empowering resource for mothers and daughters everywhere. (Kirkus)

A fascinating and empowering text for women of all ages. (Publishers Weekly)

What an amazing and insightful guide for mothers facing the huge challenge of supporting their daughters amidst the many "hate your body" media messages that assault all of us daily. (Judy Norsigian, co-author of Our Bodies, Ourselves)

Your Daughter's Bedroom is loaded with the kind of insight, wisdom, and practical advice that all mothers need to know to raise healthy daughters who are comfortable with their own sexuality. I highly recommend it! (Christiane Northrup, M.D., ob/gyn physician and author of the New York Times bestsellers: Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom and The Wisdom of Menopause)

Using thousands of intimate interviews with women Joyce McFadden argues that --despite ourselves and inadvertently--sexism comes, in part, from the unhealthy messages we send our daughters about sex and behavior. A groundbreaking look at sexuality, mothers, daughters, and the myriad subtle ways one generation of women shapes the next. (Jennifer Baumgardner, author of Manifesta, Look Both Ways, and Abortion & Life)

Endless talk about women as mothers has focused almost exclusively on the question of how, and whether it is possible, to raise children and still fulfill adult aspirations to work. But an equally important part of adult womanhood that has to be integrated with the competing demands of mothering is adult sexual desire. While mothers often hide their sexuality from their children, the literature seldom asks whether this helps or hurts children, and what kind of sexual honesty might actually help children to develop their own sexuality. In this important book Joyce McFadden shows how mothers affect their daughters' sense of self through the sort of sexuality they model as well as their explicit communications and exhortations. It's an honest, surprising and compelling look at this crucial contemporary dilemma. (Jessica Benjamin, Psychoanalyst, author of The Bonds of Love)

An important book that gets at the heart of the mother and daughter bond and finally explodes the myth that women have to turn themselves into sexless Stepford wives to be good mothers. Expansive, honest, informed, and real. (Deborah Siegel, author of Sisterhood, Interrupted)

About the Author

Joyce McFadden is a psychoanalyst in private practice in New York and East Hampton. Author of the ongoing anonymous web-based Women's Realities Study, she is a faculty member, clinical supervisor and training analyst at the Training and Research Institute for Self Psychology, as well as a faculty member at the Woodhull Institute and the NYC Open Center. She is a featured writer on intent.com and a columnist on Huffington Post.

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Well researched and written.
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I haven't been able to put Joyce McFadden's book down--she is insightful, caring and brilliant in her writing.
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Having a tween daughter, I thought it would be helpful to read.
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14 of 14 people found the following review helpful By jkl on May 18, 2011
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I cannot say enough about the importance of this book. I am finished reading it, but don't feel like I am finished. I want to read it again- and what I have read informs me every day. This is the only book that makes the connection between the overall confidence of girls and their sexuality. It is the only parenting book I have read which talks openly about sexuality beginning at birth. We live in such a puritanical society. The fact that the anatomically correct words for girls are taboo- and treated like curse words is a tragedy. Joyce McFadden helps us as moms to feel more confident to face this ugly reality and work to change it with our own daughters. I am amazed by how insidious sexism is and how we all feed right into it- without even knowing it. Joyce McFadden offers great tips on how to comfortably change our own ways in order to support our kids- without shaming us. She makes it seem easy. The book is also really important in pointing out how our relationships with our own mothers informs how we parent. Again, without shaming or judging- she simply brings about an awareness so that we can move forward in a healthy way. She also brings up the very taboo topic of masturbation and normalizes it for women. It is a treasure to read the realities of womens stories on this topic.

I want to add that even though this is written about mothers and daughters, I have used the author's wisdom in mothering my son and my husband is currently reading it.

Joyce writes so clearly and beautifully- as if she is having a supportive conversation with each of us. She is humble and backs up her findings with stories from her clients and women in her study. It is fascinating and I couldn't put it down.
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11 of 11 people found the following review helpful By Keri Burick on November 4, 2011
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I first picked up this book thinking it would help me in my quest to help my daughters in this highly stimulating world we live in today. Like other reviews I was looking for something to explain when I should discuss certain aspects of sexuality to my daughters, but what I received was so much more. Joyce McFadden has delivered a book every woman should read. I found myself understanding things about my own sexuality, and how I developed, which I really did not expect. I see things clearly, and I can't say this about most books on this subject. A lot of them are riddled with religious aspects, and sexuality affects everyone, no matter religion, we are all human beings. I feel comfortable about approaching topics with my girls, and knowing they will forge their own path, and I will be a guide, and with this book I know I can guide them with an open mind, and a true understanding of the value of sexuality. This book is a gem amongst all the other fluff!
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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful By Onatookah on May 6, 2011
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this book answers so many questions regarding communication with a daughter. I was always so concerned about timing and answers to my daughter's questions about sexuality. It is written with compassion and understanding and is very insightful. I have gained so much information with this book and feel so much more confident in discussing these issues with my daughter.
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful By Bookaholic on April 8, 2013
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I learned about this book after it was referenced in another book I was reading. Having a tween daughter, I thought it would be helpful to read. I wasn't expecting to feel some of the emotions I felt! It brought back a lot of memories I had as a teenager and going through alot of those changes and remembering how alone I felt not really having someone to talk with. The surveys that McFadden was interesting and comforting and in a way brought some peace & understanding of some things. But most importantly, it made me think about the kind of relationship I want to have with my own daughters and how I can make that happen. This book isn't for the shy, the author holds no topics back! When I first started reading the book, I wanted to remove the cover when I was out in public reading in waiting rooms! However, by the end, I was shy no more, proud to be a woman and wanted to tell everyone with a daughter about this book.
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful By Jodi Glickman on May 9, 2011
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I haven't been able to put Joyce McFadden's book down--she is insightful, caring and brilliant in her writing. As a mother to two young daughters, Joyce has raised so many eye-opening issues and given me powerful new tools and language to address questions I hadn't even considered before. As my four year old asked why daddies can't have babies but mommies can I found myself explaining the wonders of the female body in a way I never would have known to discuss beforehand. I have been enlightened and empowered by her book. This is a discussion all mothers and daughters need to be having. And dare I say it, even though my mom and I have a magical relationship and she did it (mostly) right, I realized I myself still have so much to learn. Joyce, thank you for bringing this important body of work into our cultural dialogue, it is a gem!
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More About the Author

Joyce McFadden is a psychoanalyst and author of the groundbreaking book Your Daughter's Bedroom: Insights for Raising Confident Women. Based on her unprecedented study of 450 women, in which women could talk about whatever was important to them, it was the women of her study who determined the book's topic: how girls learn about sexuality from their mothers. Currently being taught in university women's studies programs, Your Daughter's Bedroom is considered "an empowering resource for mothers and daughters everywhere" by Publishers Weekly, and "a fascinating and empowering text for women of all ages" by Kirkus Review. In 2014 she spoke at the United Nations as the U.S. expert on girls' sexual development and its relation to their overall confidence, participating with co-panelists from WHO, UNESCO, UNICEF and Columbia University's Mailman School of Public Health in announcing the United Nation's first-ever policy on puberty education and menstrual hygiene management. McFadden has an MSW from Columbia University and five years of postgraduate training in psychoanalysis, is a faculty member, training analyst and clinical supervisor at the Training and Research Institute for Self Psychology, board member of the National Council on Women's Health, and member of the Women's Mental Health Consortium. She's a featured writer for the Huffington Post, and her research has appeared in The New York Times, O The Oprah Magazine, NPR, The Detroit Free Press, Ms.Magazine.com, CNN.com, Alternet.com, Feminist.com, and the Women's Media Center.



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