Your Defiant Teen: 10 Steps to Resolve Conflict and Rebuild Your Relationship [Paperback]

Russell A. Barkley PhD ABPP ABCN (Author), Arthur L. Robin PhD (Author)

Book Description

Age Level: 11 and up | Grade Level: 6 and up

When your teen’s rebellious behavior “crosses the line,” how can you reestablish your authority without getting caught in a power struggle? Bestselling authors and distinguished psychologists Russell Barkley and Arthur Robin have each spent decades helping parents and kids resolve standoffs and repair their relationships. Now they’ve distilled their approach into a clinically proven self-help program that can help you break through to your teen and rebuild trust. Centered around 10 simple steps that lead to better behavior, Your Defiant Teen provides practical guidelines for putting an end to the hostilities. You’ll learn realistic ways to foster mutual respect, introduce cooperative problem solving, and strengthen family relationships--while giving your teen vital skills for becoming a mature, independent adult.

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

Barkley, research professor of psychiatry at SUNY–Syracuse Medical University and author (with Benton) of Your Defiant Child, and Robin (director of psychology training at Children's Hospital of Michigan) share between them 60 years of clinical and research experience studying the defiant behavior of children and adolescents. The first part of their comprehensive defiance-busting system helps parents define and assess the problem. The authors provide a chart to help readers gauge their child's behavior, then outline four factors that contribute to defiance: the teen's and parents' characteristics (which are unchanging), stress (which can be alleviated somewhat) and parenting style (which can be substantially modified). Part Two delves into the principles for reversing or preventing defiance, with sections on one-on-one time (including how to accomplish this with an uninterested teen), managing behavior and choosing appropriate punishments and rewards, to name a few. Without placing blame, the authors reveal that parents often unwittingly make a bad situation worse; the text gives solid tips on how to work toward a positive outcome and offers a variety of scenarios, demonstrating precisely how a parent's words and actions can be the source of a teen's compliant or defiant response. In the end, the authors offer a useful and detailed approach that respects the rights and expectations of parents and teens. (Feb.)
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"The very best book of its kind for parents dealing with behaviorally difficult teens. Valuable real-life examples illuminate not just what defiance looks like, but why it happens, and how to bring about change while strengthening family relationships. This will be the first book I recommend to the families I work with."--Sam Goldstein, PhD, Department of Psychology, George Mason University

"Drs. Barkley and Robin have hit gold--this book is a real treasure! The book provides very practical strategies for managing teenagers' behavior and enhancing family relationships. It is written specifically for parents, but professionals and students also will find it a 'must read.' The authors should be congratulated for this brilliant work that will be of value to so many families in the years to come."--Ronald T. Brown, PhD, Dean, Temple University College of Health Professions; Editor, Journal of Pediatric Psychology

 

"Drs. Barkley and Robin have blended their talents and years of clinical experience in putting together this 'must-read' book for all parents struggling with a teenager's vexing, challenging, and frustrating behavior. The book delivers tried-and-true techniques for resolving conflict in parent-teen relationships, together with wonderful practical tips and FAQs."--Gerald J. August, PhD, Department of Psychiatry, University of Minnesota Medical School

 

"This practical book shows how real change starts with you, the parent, and provides empowering tools and step-by-step guidance for making a positive difference in teen behavior. It is an excellent resource that will help you become a stronger positive influence in your teen's life."--Sharon K. Weiss, MEd, coauthor of From Chaos to Calm and Angry Children, Worried Parents

"As my son enters his adolescent years, I am thrilled to have this book! It is an easy read with many practical, commonsense ideas to try. The checklists and step-by-step approaches are very inviting. With all the pages to personalize our specific problem areas, it felt as though this book were truly written for my family. I am thrilled to be able to implement positive practices instead of always dwelling on the negative. I have already told many fellow parents and teachers about this book."--Lisa Boyadjian, elementary school teacher and parent of a 12-year-old

"Another essential work from Drs. Barkley and Robin. With most books in this area focused on children, there is a great need for practical, evidence-based information related to adolescents and their conflicts with family members. A 'must read' for parents, clinicians, and all those interested in the often-trying area of teen/n-/family interactions."--Stephen P. Hinshaw, PhD, Department of Psychology, University of California, Berkeley

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Product Details

• Reading level: Ages 11 and up
  
• Paperback: 326 pages
• Publisher: The Guilford Press; 1 edition (February 2, 2008)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1593855834
• ISBN-13: 978-1593855833
• Product Dimensions: 9 x 6.4 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 13.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.1 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (9 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #76,673 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
  • #65 in Books > Health, Fitness & Dieting > Relationships > Conflict Management

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13 of 13 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars lessen the stress, February 15, 2009

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Teenagers can be so tough to deal with. This great book gives some background about what is happening developmentally as well as a step by step program to restoring some of the positive in your relationship with your teenager. Written for parents, but as a teacher, I also found this book to be a lifesaver. I love my teenagers now that I understand them better. We still have our rough spots, but I don't get as freaked out about handling them as before. Read this book!!!

11 of 11 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Good tool., March 25, 2009

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We have found this book to be very useful in dealing with our 13 yr old son. We are currently in counseling but this book has been very useful in getting to specifics and examples of defiant behavior.

14 of 15 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A guide for parents to help them establish their authority, May 5, 2008

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Teenage rebellion seems to be a natural part of growing up - but there's a point where it goes too far and raises concern. "Your Defiant Teen: 10 Steps To Resolve Conflict and Rebuild Your Relationship" is a guide for parents to help them establish their authority without the need for a messy and hurtful power struggle. 10 steps to encourage better behavior and a mutual respect between yourself and your teen. Authors Dr. Russell A. Barkley & Dr. Arthur L. Robin are skilled in this department and pass on their expertise to you. Soundly recommended to any parent who has a teenager or community library parenting shelves in general.