Customer Reviews

Your Long Erotic Weekend: Four Days of Passion for a Lifetime of Magnificent Sex

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How wonderful that there is finally a book that goes beyond the "paint by numbers" routing and focuses on GETTING TO KNOW your partner and their needs.
What I love is that it skips over the idea that a strong, working, and lasting relationship is anything like the movies. My husband and I have been married for 15 years and I know that staying together has every bit to do with committing and prioritizing and very little to do with the wind sweeping through my hair. This book really speaks to the commitment side of the relationship and can even help to build a stronger marriage, OUTSIDE of the bedroom. But I liked the bedroom part. I liked it very much ļ.
I am so relieved to have found this book!

I realize that if you are a fundamentalist in your beliefs, this book may not be for you, or if you are seeking a quick 'O' then this book is probably not for you either, but if you are seeking to deepen your relationship and explore the sexual aspects of the relationship through Tantra, this book may provided a wonderful outline. You will probably need to have a minimum of 3 full days to devote to the exercises. I can't and won't speak for anyone else, but my experience was that this book educated me on several wonderful rituals such as soul gazing and reciprocal breathing; opened up discussions with my husband about intimacy, desire, love, the sacred, & the ecstatic; and encouraged healthy sexual exploration in a safe way. I would recommend this book to anyone interested in Tantra, as it seems to follow that road. It is probably only for beginners of Tantra, but if you don't want to spent around $1000.00 for a couples weekend just to find out if you would like Tantra, it is well worth the price.

"...in the course of evolution, the energy of love has been co-opted by sex, yielding romance - the feeling of infatuation that leads to mating. The formation of a lasting emotional bond between a man and a woman confers an extra degree of success on their genes: The stronger the male's attachment to his mate, the more likely he is to zealously provide for and protect her and their offspring...Sex allows love to flow between two bodies in an intense, elemental form." ~pg. 28-29

Your Long Erotic Weekend is a book based on a popular program at the Life In Balance Resort. This book goes beyond meeting a partner and dealing with the initial complications of introduction, casual sex and immediate gratification and enters entire new realms of discovery. This is a program for couples who want a lifetime of exceptional sex with a partner they honor and respect.

Lana Holstein and David Taylor present a pathway from mediocre sex, frustration and resignation to life-changing and enlightening sex. This program will also help couples who are happy with their sex life to reach a deeper level of commitment. The program includes:

Day 1 - Tuning Into Your Sexual Energy: An exploration of masculine and feminine polarity.
Day 2 - Pleasuring Her
Day 3 - Pleasuring Him
Day 4 - Putting It All Together and Making it Last: Ways to reach the realms of sexual ecstasy and enter into a "joyous multidimensional experience."

The authors explain the essentials of human sexuality and present ideas and practical suggestions that lead to a deeper understanding of anatomical, physiological and medical factors that will affect sexuality. Throughout the work, there are conversations and stories of experiences. There are lists of sensual supplies, ideas for mood music (Norah Jones, Sade, Prince...are mentioned) and suggestions for aphrodisiac foods. The authors also suggest buying sexy poetry books like poetry by Rumi or Neruda.

"As we have come to understand it - largely through our study of the Indian discipline of Tantra - sex is not an act of release, but rather an ecstatic ritual of creation, renewal, and perhaps even worship." ~pg. 23

Each day includes a schedule for the experience. The day is divided into Morning, Noon, Afternoon and Evening. Day 1 includes an idea for a picnic in bed by candlelight and ideas for opening the heart and kissing with more passion. Breathing exercises, Soulgazing, The Seven Dimensions of Sex (you get to score your inventories and all have a Y/N answer which gives an X-ray of your current sexual connection), Running a bath for your partner (so comforting), Nonverbal Communication, Interesting and very Sexy Tea Party and Gifts for Your Lover.

This intellectual and sensual journey is a very exciting way to connect with your partner and requires a full four days of undivided attention if you follow the program completely. By submitting to this experience you will not only reconnect emotionally, but you will connect spiritually. I think this book could also be read to gain a greater awareness of sexuality in general and it could be read by both partners and then the ideas could be incorporated into a more spontaneous fusion on a weekend getaway. IOW, you could each read the book and compile ideas (short summaries, highlighting passages/sentences or notes) for a weekend that you plan out as a way to reconnect.

You could also take ideas from this book for shorter weekends and extend the reconnection phases over a period of months. I could see an ideal situation where each partner takes turns planning weekends and lets the other partner relax into the experience. A companion CD may be ordered and it corresponds with the exercises in this book.

Your Long Erotic Weekend is a very exciting way to reconnect with your partner and of all the books I've read on sexuality, this one shows practical ways to reach a new level of spiritual and romantic connection that not only enhance your own awareness of sexuality, they are comforting and emotionally satisfying. I don't see why members of any religion or race cannot enjoy the ideas in this book. You do not have to worship any deities and in fact, you are more likely to be worshipping your partner. What a beautiful gift to the world. 100 Stars.

~The Rebecca Review

This book presents a structured 4-day program that couples can do to re-connect with each other, thereby enriching their emotional, spiritual and sexual lives. The key is to set aside 4 days and use the book as intended. The book steps you through each day's exercises and readings. Just flipping through the book and getting ideas won't do it. It's actually a lot of work, but it's a lot of fun too. On the last day, couples create a plan to continue developing their new closeness in the future.

In today's busy world, when too many of us go from romantic newlyweds to stressed out, double-income, child-chauffering "strangers", who couldn't use a little tune up?

This is a serious and thoughtful book to help couples connect or reconnect on a higher level. Some of us are the lucky ones -- once passionate couple who've simply and slowly drifted apart because of the demands of everyday life. Other couples have never had that higher level of connection, and need to achieve it for the very first time. This book helps all couples from all places along that spectrum.

The authors are well-credentialed in the subject area and hold popular workshops for couples at the prestigious Mirival Resort (http://www.miravalresort.com/) in Tucson, Arizona. I found an audio CD of exercises from the book at Dr. Holstein's own website at http://www.lanaholsteinmd.com -- i can't wait for it to arrive!

Great book for couples-to read together and follow. Very well written and designed. A great way to reconnect with your lover in a fun and rewarding way.

This is such an amazing book! I picked it up for V's Day and then saw the author on Oprah, which was fun. O. had these two couples who'd been through the doctor's workshop at a spa and they were like changed people. (the book's the workshop on paper. Can you do this at home? I have my doubts, but still learned a lot.)

What I really like is that it's about how to make your love life about love. Very friendly and insightful on women's psychological issues with sex.

After 25 years of marriage, this book has rekindled the fireworks in our sex life....A MUST HAVE....dorick

This book is a thoughtful, spiritual journey to help couple rekindle old feelings -- or achieve those feelings for the first time.

Following the authors' advice can help improve your marriage and your everyday life. I highly recommend it.

Most sex books on the market appear to deal mostly with technique and feel a little risque. I really liked this book because it moves through the basics into other levels of really connecting with your partner. They really value a healthy relationship on all levels and tell you what to do to get there! I loved it. My partner loved it. I recommend it.