Your Orgasmic Pregnancy: Little Sex Secrets Every Hot Mama Should Know (Positively Sexual) [Paperback]

Danielle Cavallucci (Author), M.S. Yvonne K Fulbright (Author)

Book Description

Series: Positively Sexual | Publication Date: October 1, 2008

Thankfully, pregnant women no longer have to disguise their condition or confine themselves to the home. They’re free to do other things — like enjoy an active sex life. This no-nonsense guide helps mothers-to-be maintain intimacy through all three trimesters and beyond. Using the real-life experience of one author and the professional expertise of the other, it covers a wide range of issues regarding sex and pregnancy, including the unanswered, difficult, and taboo questions and topics most people are afraid to address. It also helps partners develop new ways of communicating that help pregnant women relish life’s deepest expression of sexual union. With warmth and encouragement, it prepares women for the sexual challenges and joys of pregnancy and motherhood, giving them confidence and the tools they need to enjoy it all with verve, humor, grace, and joy.

Editorial Reviews

Review

"Unique in sex-advice lit and highly recommended...Hardly erotic-minded, the average mama-to-be is assumed to be throwing up, not putting out. Yet authors Cavallucci, a pregnancy coach and fitness trainer as well as a new mama herself, and Fulbright, a sexuality educator (Argosy Univ.; Pleasuring: The Secrets of Sexual Satisfaction), assert that maintaining an erotic connection during pregnancy offers real benefits for self, mate, and child. Their lively and sassy manual—an OB-GYN contributed comments and vetted the medical material—discusses each trimester separately: what to expect physically, positions and techniques, non-penetration options, tuning in with one’s partner, and coping with fatigue and competing priorities. Throughout, safety concerns turn up repeatedly and appropriately, e.g., preggie sex no-nos, when to be concerned, and when to check with your doctor. All advice is grounded in quotes and information from other pregnant women and their partners as well as from the psychomedical literature." —Martha Cornog, Library Journal

"This book was a relief to read after thumbing through so many pregnancy books that quickly skirt over a topic that is central to life during pregnancy. It keeps a light--but not condescending--tone while exploring each trimester, the post-partum days, and the big topics that transcend whatever week of your pregnancy you find yourself in. There's plenty of appropriately explicit "how-tos" along with diagrams that, alas, were left out of the early reviewer edition.

The book is targeted to the pregnant woman, of course, but partners will find it works for them too, especially the sidebars helpfully titled, "For Partners."

The book is a bit hetero-normed, but tries to stay as "sexuality neutral" as possible. There are also plenty of examples of lesbian sex during pregnancy that make this book plenty adequate no matter your partner's parts. -- Zhejw, LibraryThing Early Reviewer

A fantastic book for the recently pregnant, Fulbright and Cavalucci's book guides women (and their partners) through some of the physical and psychological barriers to intimacy during pregnancy. They offer suggestions and guidance and list situations where a doctor's guidance might be recommended." - Jshorr, LibraryThing Early Reviewer

Product Details

• Paperback: 176 pages
• Publisher: Hunter House; 1 edition (October 1, 2008)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0897935012
• ISBN-13: 978-0897935012
• Product Dimensions: 6.3 x 5.2 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (5 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #71,795 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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7 of 9 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Remember how you got pregnant? You can still do that..., November 13, 2007

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Kaeli Vandertulip (Irving, TX USA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Your Orgasmic Pregnancy: Little Sex Secrets Every Hot Mama Should Know (Positively Sexual) (Paperback)

This book is right up there with A Girlfriend's Guide to Pregnancy. Rather than presenting panicked, or patronizing, information, the authors present useful information to the newly pregnant woman. It fills a void that What to Expect and all the other pregnancy books try so hard to gloss over: you don't have to become the Virgin Mary once you're expecting. Those crazy dreams and fantasies don't make you a terrible mother and (if you're healthy) an orgasm isn't the end of the world!

The authors of this book play guides to moms- and dads- to-be, reminding her of her inherent sexuality (she must be or she wouldn't have gotten pregnant). This primarily serves as a way to allow women and men to accept sexual feelings during pregnancy-if you're healthy enough for sex and you're mind is on it, why not. And for those with partners not so willing to oblige, there's plenty of information for a woman going solo. In a world where everything must be monitored during a pregnancy, it's nice to essentially be given permission to have the thoughts, ideas, and fantasies that sometimes spring up in pregnancy (and came as a surprise to me during mine).

I'm assuming that anyone willing to get this book is open-minded to begin with, but it should be pretty obvious that this book isn't for the prudish. Oh, an constantly using words like hot mama, prego, and the like got fairly old, and the authors aren't always as funny as they'd like to be. But given the complete lack of information out there (or at least, the lack I noticed 5 years ago when I was pregnant), this is a great book. And, on the plus side, they don't constantly couch what they're writing with "if you feel up to it," or "if your doctor says it's OK" or "if you're comfortable with it," or constantly saying different forms of spouse, husband, girlfriend, etc. That can get old quickly. They cover that in the first chapter and just have fun the rest of the book.

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Pregnany Lady Gives it a two thumbs up, May 24, 2010

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Kristina Schubert - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Your Orgasmic Pregnancy: Little Sex Secrets Every Hot Mama Should Know (Positively Sexual) (Paperback)

This book is great.

It has some illustrations for the reader to experiment with the different positions.

Easy to read and the author seems to know what she is talking about.

4 of 6 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars Four stars for content, February 12, 2008

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She's A Reader "Hon(to) no mushi" - See all my reviews

This review is from: Your Orgasmic Pregnancy: Little Sex Secrets Every Hot Mama Should Know (Positively Sexual) (Paperback)

Your Orgasmic Pregnancy was written with several goals in mind: first, to dispel the socially constructed notion that pregnancy and sex are mutually exclusive; and second, to explain the various forms such sex can take. The book adopts a light, informal tone that will keep it accessible to the lay reader, but doesn't shirk on providing factual information. The authors deserve kudos for stressing that there is nothing inherently wrong with sexuality during one's pregnancy (assuming the absence of medical complications), that it is important to be receptive to the various ways in which one's changing body can enhance or alter one's sexual tastes and experience of the act itself, that there are many ways to achieve satisfaction aside from vaginal intercourse, and the importance of constant communication with one's partner throughout. They also take pains to make sure that the information they provide is gender-neutral so that both hetero- and homosexual expecting couples can make use of its content. Cavallucci and Fulbright are to be commended for repeatedly stressing the need to take care of one's own wants and desires, not just the health of baby(-to-be), in order to ensure the wellbeing of all involved in the pregnancy.

I found the information accessible and useful (although the authors sometimes went overboard on the buddy-buddy tone, and in one section the suggestions for erotic dialogue were more ridiculous than sexy). The intimacy-positive tone should go a long way toward helping the reader to maintain a positive attitude toward her pregnancy in general and sex life in particular, making this addition to the books-for-expecting-mothers literature well worth any future family's time.

Please note: I have chosen to give this title three stars *only* because I cannot comment on the usefulness of the illustrations, as they were not included in my advanced reader's copy. I may revise my rating once I see the finished product.