On Your Own Again [Paperback]

Keith Anderson (Author), Roy Macskimming (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: October 1, 1992

Every year, more than two million North Americans experience the trauma of separation and divorce. Now, at last, On Your Own Again provides down-to-earth help for readers seeking to survive a shattered relationship and build a new life.Written in Dr. Anderson's own personable, reassuring voice, this guide explains the four emotional stages undergone during and after separation and gives every reader the feeling, "He's talking about me."

Dr. Anderson offers compassionate, practical, step-by-step advice. In no-nonsense language, often leavened with humour,he provides tools that can be used by readers male or female, young or middle-aged, straight or gay, in or recently out of a troubled relationship, to help cope with the loss and to speed recovery – so that they may lead rich, rewarding lives on their own again.

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Every year, more than two million North Americans experience the trauma of separation and divorce. Now, at last, On Your Own Again provides down-to-earth help for readers seeking to survive a shattered relationship and build a new life.Written in Dr. Anderson's own personable, reassuring voice, this guide explains the four emotional stages undergone during and after separation and gives every reader the feeling, "He's talking about me."

Dr. Anderson offers compassionate, practical, step-by-step advice. In no-nonsense language, often leavened with humour,he provides tools that can be used by readers male or female, young or middle-aged, straight or gay, in or recently out of a troubled relationship, to help cope with the loss and to speed recovery ? so that they may lead rich, rewarding lives on their own again.

About the Author

Dr. Keith Anderson has been a practising psychiatrist for 16 years. He is in private practice in Ottawa where he is also affiliated with the Ottawa Civic Hospital. Author of articles published in the American Journal of Psychiatry, Dr. Anderson has been president of the Ottawa Academy of Medicine, Psychiatry Section, for the past three years. He has two teenaged children from his first marriage, who live half time with Dr. Anderson and his second wife, Judith.

Roy MacSkimming is a professional writer and a published novelist. He has been literary editor of The Toronto Star and is now director of the Association of Canadian Publishers. Roy MacSkimming and his wife, Suzette, have lived in Europe and raised two sons.

Product Details

• Paperback: 192 pages
• Publisher: McClelland & Stewart (October 1, 1992)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0771007507
• ISBN-13: 978-0771007507
• Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.5 x 8.2 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (8 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,514,578 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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36 of 37 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars An excellent tool to enhance understanding, October 18, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: On Your Own Again (Paperback)

I read this book when it was recommended by my therapist, after I had realized I was permanently seperated from my wife. I found I read this book in two stages. The first stage, when I fully understood that I truly was on my own again, I was able to read and appreciate roughly the first half. I found interesting insights into the day to day process of adjusting to the reality of having my marriage end, and now dealing with the crush of details demanding attention. After a few months break, I found myself diving in to read the rest of the book, and finding how closely my own life was following the path described in the book. This book is not a how-to guide to divorce or seperation. It IS a tool to help understand the emotions you are experiencing, the panic, the feeling that you are where no one else has ever been. And, it has helped me to understand that there are things that I miss and desire, but whose time has yet to come. I hope others will find similar benefits in this book. My only complaint is that at a time of such great stress, including the major financial uncertainty involved in seperation and divorce, it seemed a bit expensive for less content than I had hoped. This only served to make me think twice when this book should be a no-brainer.

12 of 12 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars On Your Own Again.....words of comfort and patience, November 9, 2002

By A Customer

This review is from: On Your Own Again (Paperback)

This is a wonderful book with words of comfort and patience that are as up-to-date as any thing else out there. This author writes from the point of view of a therapist AND a person who has been there himself. He does not seek to explain the why of a breakup...but rather how to move on. I found the section on the most common mistakes people get into in the acute stage of breakup wonderfully "right on time." While this book focuses heavily on marriage and heterosexual relationships, I think anyone just out of a committed relationship will find it helpful.

7 of 7 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars An Insightful View, March 8, 2006

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This review is from: On Your Own Again (Paperback)

Interestingly, most books on the subject of dealing with the aftermath of separation and divorce are aimed towards a female audience. Of all the titles I browsed, this was one that struck me as non gender specific. In purchasing the book and reading it, I found that the book was wonderfully applicable to both men and women.

Personally, I gained a great deal of insight into the things I have been experiencing since my wife announced that she wanted to separate. I started to read the book feeling that I was the only one in the world in a similar situation that was feeling the things that I was feeling. Very early into the book, I found that not only was it true that others were feeling these very same things but that these feelings were actually normal.

I took great comfort in being able to place myself in the process that the book describes. I also derived certain comfort in the knowledge of what is to come as I continue through the process. After all, if the author has defined the parts of the process I have experienced in such a correct manner, is it not logical to assume that the remainder of the process will be much as he has described in the book?

Without reservation I can say that this book has helped. It is informative, insightful and full of very true observations. If you need to come to grips with the things that are associated with being suddenly on your own as the result of divorce and separation, this book will most assuredly assist you.