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Your Seven-Year-Old: Life in a Minor Key [Kindle Edition]

Louise Bates Ames , Carol Chase Haber , Betty David
4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (32 customer reviews)

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Book Description

Your Seven-Year-Old is devoted to the delightful but often anxious and withdrawn child of Seven. Although any seven-year-old will have moments of exuberance, security, and happiness, in general this is an age of introspection. As it begins, parents and teachers may welcome the quiet after the tussles and tangles of Six. But once the child of Seven starts to withdraw it’s almost as though he doesn't know where or when to stop. Seven-year-olds feel picked on by family, friends, and teachers alike; they worry that no one likes them; they expect every little task to prove too difficult to handle; tears come easily at this age.
With wit and wisdom, Dr. Ames of the highly respected Gesell Institute and Carol Chase Haber offer insights into what children this age are feeling and thinking, and how parents can best deal with these moody, serious Sevens.
Included in this book:
• New body awareness
• Sulking
• Concerns about fairness
• Stories from real life
• Fascination with horror, gore
• Threats of running away from home
• Life in the second grade
• Books for Sevens and the parents of Sevens
“Louise Bates Ames and her colleagues synthesize a lifetime of observation of children, consultation, and discussion with parents. These books will help parents to better understand their children and will guide them through the fascinating and sometimes trying experiences of modern parenthood.”—Donald J. Cohen, M.D., Director, Yale Child Study Center, Irving B. Harris Professor of Child Psychiatry, Pediatrics, and Psychology, Yale School of Medicine

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About the Author

Louise Bates Ames is a lecturer at the Yale Child Study Center and assistant professor emeritus at Yale University. She is co-founder of the Gesell Institute of Child Development and collaborator or co-author of three dozen or so books, including The First Five Years of Life, Infant and Child in the Culture of Today, Child Rorschach Responses, and the series Your One-Year-Old through Your Ten- to Fourteen-Year-Old. She has one child, three grandchildren, and four great-grandchildren.
Carol Chase Haber is a school psychologist in the Hamilton County, Ohio, school system and is a trained and qualified Gesell Examiner. She is the co-author of several books, including He Hit Me First, Your Seven-Year-Old, Your Eight-Year-Old, and Your Nine-Year-Old.

Product Details

  • File Size: 1208 KB
  • Print Length: 165 pages
  • Publisher: Dell (January 18, 2012)
  • Sold by: Random House LLC
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B006RKWPI2
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #197,599 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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43 of 44 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Practical, helpful information. January 24, 1999
When you know what behaviors are "normal" for your child's age you can relax, stop the worry, and focus on appropriate solutions. This whole series of books accurately defines the ages and stages of children. These books keep your expectations realistic and allow you to avoid anger caused by a lack of understanding of your child's developmental stages.
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21 of 21 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars Is it a crisis or just a stage? February 26, 2009
My happy friendly confident son, 7, has been moody, emotional and depressed for the last few months. Was it a stage or was there something serious going on at school? Everyone was against him, he has no friends, people laugh at him....Thank god for this book. I started laughing as soon as I read the first fit my son's new behavior perfectly. These books are not parenting books telling you how to be a good parent. Rather, they are describing the child and how they develop and what is going on in their minds. This helps you, as parent, to decide how to handle things, to know if there is a serious problem or just a stage to get through and outgrow. I have already bought the 8 year old book, so that I am ready for the next stage, and I am going to buy the 5 year old book, so that I make sure I am not missing anything with my younger son. This book is just what I needed!
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30 of 34 people found the following review helpful
When my then 5 1/2 year old was behaving much differently than he had at age 5, my mother pulled out an old hardcover version of the Gesell Institute Books and - oh my! - much of the changes seemed to be quite common among 5 1/2 year olds!
These are 'old' books (I'm one of the earliest of the baby boomers, though my child is now nearly 9), but they are still useful.
This book and all in the series are little paperbacks, quick to read. Our society has changed since they were written, so a bit of the book may seem dated if you don't like 'traditional roles. However, there is much good information and wisdom in here, unencumbered by the modern day concerns about ADD and such. In expensive, a good investment to ease a parent's mind. A nice gift from grandparents to their own children, and for young parents, just nice to have on the shelf for those days when we forget that kids behaviors and interests change as they grow up.
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8 of 8 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Eye Opening November 10, 2006
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"Life in a Minor Key" provides a sneak preview to the parental challenges and pleasures which lie ahead for the coming year. As I watch my child's dramatic transition from young child to schoolboy, it is comforting and helpful to refer to this reassuring guide.
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32 of 41 people found the following review helpful
3.0 out of 5 stars Problem solving outdated September 22, 1999
By A Customer
These books have helped me understand what my children have been going through at various stages/ages of their development. This book was on target with my daughter's behavior/temperment. However, I found the problem solving answers to be extrememely outdated. The authors suggested that a particular seven yr old who disliked school could either change to a private school, stay back in first grade or shorten the school day. What were they thinking? No suggestions were given as to how to talk to the child or work with the teachers,school or family doctor. I thought I would get some advice for a similar problem, not this time. In general I found this book helpful but think it needs to be updated, possibly each decade.
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11 of 13 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A Must Have October 9, 2010
By Marcos
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This is absolutely a must have for any parent.
I had read most of the books in the series, but unfortunately skipped the last two. Silly me ! When my 7 year-old started to behave like a drama queen, moody and withdrawn, I thought he was suffering some crisis. After reading 10 pages, I was relieved to see this was completely normal behavior for his age. It seemed the book was describing my own son.
The main benefit of the book is not to give you a perfect formula on how to be a parent, but to ease your anxieties about your kid's behavior. Of course, after understanding the profile of the kid at this age, with some sensitivity, one can adapt its strategy to deal with the child better. For example, with an over sensitive, easily insulted 7 year-old, one should be careful not to joke or tease him too often, like you could do when he was 6.
I don't agree that the book is outdated. It is extremely easy to adapt the information to our days. If a child is too sensitive, don't let him watch a scary movie, for example. Don't talk to him about global warming. Come on, it is simple.

In summary, this is an excellent investment for your peace of mind. For one cent, this book is worth hundreds of dollars in therapist fees.
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11 of 13 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Great for age level connecting with your child. June 23, 1999
By A Customer
Seeing into the mind of a seven-year old is an amazing journey. From sullen independence to exhuberant joy at new horizons. Louise Bates Ames guides readers around the pitfalls and gives a new understanding to this inwardly viewed age. It's as wonderful as the rest of her age-related books.
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Most helpful books for parents! March 27, 2013
A specialist in the Newborn Intensive Care Unit introduced me to this series of parenting books when my son was born premature, and it helped me to know what to anticipate and relax about each year. I had the Birth to 10 Years book as a gift from the specialist, and after that I got each year a couple of months before my son's birthday (from a public library) and prepared myself.

As my son's 7th birthday approached and I invited his friends to a party, a mom confided in me that she was worried about her son and thinking of taking him to a psychiatrist. I asked why and she described what I had read in this book - Your Seven-Year-Old. He was going through a phase of feeling frustrated and anxious because of the perfectionism that kicks in at this stage of development. I told her it sounded normal. She read this book and relaxed, and he's fine! That was years ago. Our sons are 21 now and in college.
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
5.0 out of 5 stars 100% correct and timeless.since kids always same as x age. Makes you...
We have purchased these books every single year from 3 years to 7 years. We typically read them 3 mo before my son turns the next age. Read more
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4.0 out of 5 stars just like my mom always said they were for me
My mom read these books for me 30 years ago, and now I'm reading them for my children. So far they are spot on, just like my mom always said they were for me. Read more
Published 5 months ago by Army mommy
4.0 out of 5 stars Helpful
This book has been helpful for me as a parent. I appreciate much of the developmental knowledge that explains clearly why certain emotions, actions etc. are occurring at this age. Read more
Published 9 months ago by Lucy
5.0 out of 5 stars Fast, Informative Read
Great overview of what to expect at this age. Love the whole series.
Published 9 months ago by Paine Whitney
5.0 out of 5 stars Love these books!
These are truly a great read. As an educator, I think these are amazing. Development of children is so important! We need to have more child development in the schools!!
Published 10 months ago by Sheana Rossetti
5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent reading for parents
This books and the series are excellent reading for all parents.

They describe what to expect on every year of development, they are not a recipe, but an overview of how... Read more
Published 11 months ago by Nahuatl
5.0 out of 5 stars Invaluable insights
My wife and I became legal guardians of our now 6-year-old grandson almost 3 years ago. It had been a long time since either of us had raised a kid and then it was mostly a... Read more
Published 11 months ago by W. Bonkosky
4.0 out of 5 stars good read to know if your child is "normal"
I liked this book. It is slow at times, but adequately describes a child of this age and many of the factors that may effect behavior. Read more
Published 15 months ago by Brenna
5.0 out of 5 stars Great reassurance for worried parents
Very comprehensive summary of the normal developmental milestones and behaviors of seven year olds written in a clear and succinct way.
Published 15 months ago by Alysia Carboni
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