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Your Three-Year-Old: Friend or Enemy Paperback – August 15, 1980
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About the Author
Frances L. Ilg wrote numerous books, including The Child from Five to Ten, Youth: The Years from Ten to Sixteen, and Child Behavior, before her death in 1981. She was also a co-founder of the Gesell Institute of Child Development at Yale.
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Top Customer Reviews
The reason these books are still in print is that the BEHAVIOURAL information is GENERALLY on target.
I have found them to be the clearest and most concise behavioral information out there. They are meant to help parents discern when their child's behavior is "within normal limits/range" and when alarm bells should start to ring.
But any parent and many books with tell you the golden rule is: TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS! You know your child. Don't ignore the little voice that says something isn't right. This is a HELP book not an ANSWER book.
One person went so far as to say the books have no relation to the behavior she has seen in her 3 year olds, or anyone else's. All I know is that the authors did their best to go about their research scientifically, and I am sure their data was not extracted soley from abused, maladjusted children.
I am not a behavioral scientist, but I've found their results to be GENERALLY accurate. And I too teach children and have a few of my own.
I use many resources and I have not found Geselle Institute's books to be useless.
In spite of much dated material, the heart of it, the BEHAVIORAL information has been VERY useful. That is why I purchased these books.
For child "rearing" I go to my other sources (Playful Parenting, How to Talk so Your Children Will Listen, Siblings Without Rivalry, Parent Effectiveness Training, etc.)
Someone mentioned that children having violent fantasies is abnormal and Giselle says that it is normal. I don't think Geselle meant continual, obsessive, gratuitously violent fantasy's. At least I did not take it this way.Read more ›
This book series ("Friend or Enemy" in particular) is the one that most adequately described our son and the changes he was going thru. We didn't find the theories or material "dated" at all. In fact, their references to the body types ("somatotypes") developed by William Sheldon (in the 1940's, I believe) helped us successfully alter our approach towards dealing with our son's mood swings.
We are so glad we found this book series! We recommend this book series (most often "3-Friend or Enemy" and "4-Wild and Wonderful") to anyone who asks.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
This is my favourite of the "Your x-year-old.." books, perhaps because I found 3 the most difficult age (I have also read 1- and 4-year old versions). Read morePublished 2 months ago by A. Reader
I haven't read this one yet (I bought years 1-5) but they came highly recommended from a friend who's advice I completely trust, so I have high hopes! Read morePublished 3 months ago by Elizabeth Fine
I bought the previous Book about the 2's and thought it was very helpful to learn about my two years old Twins. Read morePublished 7 months ago by Adriana Pagliano
I should have looked to see when this book was written - in the 80s. The methodology is out of date. Read morePublished 9 months ago by Rob S.
Book content is fine. I was familiar with the author as have Two-Year-Old. What I didn't like is the entire section on Books for Three Year Old was torn out! :(Published 10 months ago by Mack