Based on the author's experience as a family therapist and stepmother, and on interviews with more than fifty families, this book explores the ramifications for all concerned--remarried parents, his children, her children, and their baby--of having a mutual child.
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Bernstein ( The Flight of the Stork ) here provides a needed book on mixed-family households. The author is a family therapist in Berkeley, Calif., also a stepmother of two and mother of "ours," the child born to her and her husband. In a well-organized and admirably clear text, she combines material on her own home life with interviews with parents, steps and half-siblings. Humanizing bald statistics, Bernstein creates awareness of how divorce affects today's children and those responsible for their care. Sustaining harmony in households made up of offspring of previous and current marriages can be a trial, notes Bernstein, whose empathetic counsel should prove helpful. Her graceful revelations of "fragile and interchangeable families" will have wide appeal.
Copyright 1988 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
Copyright 1988 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
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Scribner. Feb. 1989. c.480p. bibliog. index. ISBN 0-684-18700-0. $19.95. psych Bernstein, a psychologist who writes for Parents Magazine , links her own experience as a stepparent and biological mother with research and with interviews she conducted among 55 remarried households in which a mutual child was born. Among the topics she discusses are the decision to have a "new" child, varying attachments, parenting the second time around, age differences between half-siblings, help or hindrance from grandparents, and the difficulties small children encounter understanding complex relationships. The text is well documented but repetitious and littered with needless metaphors; quotes soften the somewhat long-winded style. Recommended to most libraries with moderate to large parenting collections.
- Janice Arenofsky, formerly with Arizona State Lib., Phoenix
Copyright 1989 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
- Janice Arenofsky, formerly with Arizona State Lib., Phoenix
Copyright 1989 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
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My title may sound harsh but this book was so over simplified and seemed to raise issues that most "blended" families do not encounter. My husband and I each have one child from our respective marriages and four together. I brought this book for hope that it would help me integrate his daughter into our home but even with the drastic issues of that case, the book was not at all helpful.
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Bernstein, the author, makes it very clear how she chose the families she uses in the book. Unlike some books in this field, she was very methodical in her selection, making sure she had a family from the multitude of family types.
I find that I refer to the book quite often...not only to see how other families deal with a situation but also to remind myself that my family is not alone in these decisions. What I like about it is that the examples are specific enough (the author changed the names in order to make this happen) so that all the issues are talked about. The author illustrates the decisions that appear to have worked over the short- and long-term and the ones that didn't quite work out as the family intended.
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first mutual child, mutual children, adult stepchild, remarrying parents, older half siblings, one stepmother, visiting stepchildren, half sibling relationships, remarried household, binuclear family, stepfamily household, mutual parent, many stepparents, remarried family, stepmother families, early remarriage, remarried couples, remarried parent, veteran parent, much younger child, remarried families New!
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- Relative Strangers by William R. Beer on 4 pages
- Surviving The Breakup: How Children And Parents Cope With Divorce by Judith S. Wallerstein on 4 pages
- Sisters and Brothers (Developing Child) by Judy Dunn in Back Matter (1), Back Matter (2), and Back Matter (3)
- Recycling the Family: Remarriage After Divorce by Frank F. Furstenberg in Back Matter (1), Back Matter (2), and Back Matter (3)
- The Divorce Revolution: The Unexpected Social and Economic Consequences for Women and Children in America by Lenore J. Weitzman in Back Matter (1), Back Matter (2), and Back Matter (3)
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- Don't Be Afraid To Discipline by Ruth Peters in Back Matter
- How To Win As A Stepfamily by Emily B. Visher in Back Matter
- Families Apart:Ten Keys to Successfual Co-Parenting by Melinda Blau in Back Matter
- Stepfamilies: History, Research, and Policy (Marriage & Family Review Series) by Marvin B Sussman on page 174
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