Play or Be Played: What Every Female Should Know About Men, Dating, and Relationships (Paperback)

~ Tariq "K-Flex" Nasheed (Author) "I was appearing as a guest on this one talk show, discussing my philosophies on relationships, and one of the topics was "How a women..." (more)
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Product Description

Got Game?

It's a fact. Every woman needs game. Take Oprah, Jada Pinkett-Smith, and Beyoncé Knowles. All three of these women have the one intangible quality that every mack, male or female, must possess: they all have game. In other words, they have intelligence, hustle, and common sense that they apply to every aspect of their lives -- especially in their relationships.

Play or Be Played is an instruction manual for women who are tired of being played by men and who want to be players themselves. Though women may not want to play games, the truth is men often do. So women who hope to win in the game of love must first learn the rules. Bestselling author and true mack, Tariq "K-Flex" Nasheed shares:

ways to spot a scrub

what it takes to get with a baller

why men cheat

how men really judge women

the top three mistakes women make in relationships

Street-smart and straightforward, Play or Be Played will help you get with a king without being a hoochie, groupie, or a chickenhead.

About the Author

Tariq "K-Flex" Nasheed is the author of the bestseller, The Art of Mackin'. A popular guest on both radio and television, Tariq has been featured in Vibe, Honey, and Source magazines. Mr. Nasheed lives in Los Angeles and can be reached at www.kingflex.org.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 224 pages
• Publisher: Fireside (December 30, 2003)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0743244923
• ISBN-13: 978-0743244923
• Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 5.4 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 7.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (44 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #31,304 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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17 of 17 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Denial is not a river in Egypt, July 28, 2005

By	GWilson "Sane, Balanced, Rational" (St. Louis, MO) - See all my reviews

The funniest thing about this book, is that the women that stand to learn the most from it are most likely the same women that wouldn't touch it with a ten-foot pole. Yes, the overwhelming majority of it is good old-fashioned common sense, but as the saying goes, common sense ain't common.

I found Nasheed giving sound arguments and solid answers to questions that I've been pondering since I was fresh out of high school. I liked the way he broke the personalities down into categories that both men and women fall into, and both men and women that have spent the equivalent of a month's time in the dating arena will most likely nod their heads in affirmation of them. No, every single observation he makes doesn't apply to every single man or every single woman, nor do they have to in order to be accurate.

What I liked most about the book, however, is how Nasheed doesn't pull any punches and speaks his mind fully regarding regressive behavior that he's witnessed in the opposite sex, from attempting to get over solely on looks to crippling their children with "ghetto" names, and everything in between. Truth is, Nasheed really isn't saying anything that anyone outside of the group targeted wasn't already thinking anyway, but having access to the venue of publishing affords him a little more freedom than those of us within earshot of said group. Much respect for chapters Four (Are You a Hoochie? Take the Chickenhead Test) and Six (The Victim Hustle).

A wise woman once told me that her mother told her, "When a man cares enough about you to tell you the truth, the least you can do is listen to him." Ladies: if you've been contemplating giving this one a read, then don't be turned off by the negative reviews of the book here. If I were a betting man, I'd bet that most of the reactions to the book displayed here stem from women seeing themselves in Nasheed's words, and not in a flattering light. No collective group of people on the planet likes to be told the truth about themselves, and in the face of the truth, everyone wants to believe that they're the exception and not the rule.

If you prefer someone telling it like it is over what the numbers indicate and political correctness, then you probably won't gather much new material here (because you'll already know the deal), but this is still a quick and very entertaining read, and you'll probably find yourself agreeing with Nasheed repeatedly.

It's also an entertaining read for the guys. (Well, at least it was for this guy.)

8 of 8 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Play or be Played...Understanding Yourself First!!!, July 23, 2005

By	S. Sabrsula (Texas) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

This book was inspirational and very eye opening, an absolute must for any woman of any race!!! It covers everything in a text that is easy to read and easy to understand and/ or apply to life's everyday dealings with the opposite sex.

As it covers all the variety of topics and types of men, the message is for women to look deeper within themselves and take responsibility for the actions at hand. Nothing happens to you that you aren't allowing to happen, or in some cases happening again and again...change your views and habits and look for better men instead of falling for the same lame losers!

This author hits it where it hurts and goes right to the core of the issue, society promotes problems! Quit being alone and work as a couple and family. Deal with the issues at hand and understand there are differences between the sexes, agree to disagree on the small stuff, and if you don't have trust or faith in your man... QUIT INVESTING TIME.

You can't change a cheater no matter how much he begs for your forgiveness...don't die thru your crotch;AIDS or any STD isn't worth a man's infidelity or your trouble to worry about it. Kick a cheater to the curb...'cause the same fate awaits you!

READ THIS BOOK!!! Life's to short to keep staying with or dating neanderthal a**-pickers!

6 of 6 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars EACH ONE, TEACH ONE!! GET THIS BOOK AND SCHOOL YOURSELF, LADIES!!, November 30, 2005

By	SoulWriter (Dallas, TX.) - See all my reviews

I found myself reading the first few pages in a Waldenbooks, buying it and reading it right then and there in the food court at the mall; WORTH EVERY DIME LADIES!!! If you consider yourself a classy, quality lady, and are tired of getting pushed up on by (practically) every ignorant bottom-feeding scrub in a 5 mile radius, or if you look at another sister and wonder what has her so together, THIS BOOK IS FOR YOU. Whether you like the premise or not, Mr. Nasheed is a man with tight game whose goal is to lace the ladies with some strategies on how to get theirs together, period. He keeps it real on what makes you a chickenhead, what type of females there are and how they get that way, and most importantly, HE ALLOWS YOU INTO THE MINDS OF MEN. This book should be REQUIRED READING and has even helped me to find my own king, as well as polish my game up. He has some observations and opinions that some may find offensive, but what you learn is far more valuable in the long run. GET THIS BOOK, DON'T SLEEP!!! (this would be a great stocking stuffer for your clueless, dateless, no self-esteem having girlfriend/sister/cousin who never seems to 'get it.')