The Problem with Women... is Men: The Evolution of a Man's Man to a Man of Higher Consciousness (Paperback)

~ Charles J. Orlando (Author)
Key Phrases: evolved men, The Problem, Evolved Man, Man's Man (more...)

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Relationships. Marriage. How do they work, and why don't they last? Flip on the TV or peruse the self-help section at any local bookstore and you see the same theme over and over again: Women need to alter their behavior, and should work harder at understanding men. But nothing could be further from the truth. Women in committed relationships are not to blame for men's bad behavior, or 100% responsible for failed relationships. Based on author Charles Orlando's past experience as a "morally challenged" young man, and hundreds of interviews with men and women, The Problem with Women... is Men: The Evolution of a Man's Man to a Man of Higher Consciousness takes readers on a humorous, blunt, tell-all romp through the world of men and their issues. Women can regain their sanity, men can evolve beyond their primal instincts, and perhaps society will start to raise the bar on what the term "man" means.

Product Details

• Paperback: 158 pages
• Publisher: BookSurge Publishing (November 6, 2008)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1439205140
• ISBN-13: 978-1439205143
• Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 6 x 0.2 inches
• Shipping Weight: 7.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (18 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #506,558 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A recommended read!, January 27, 2009

By	Barbara J. Jacobucci (Seattle, WA) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

The Problem with Women ... is Men: The Evolution of a Man's Man to a Man of Higher Consciousness


Charles Orlando gives us a deep view inside the world of the man. He asks the question: What is wrong with men and where are all the gentlemen? He really tackles this subject head on. It was refreshing for me to see these questions being posed by...yes...a man! Charles takes the Man's Man and strips him down. He explains in detail the core flaws: Dominance, Etiquette, Infidelity, Emotional Availability. He clearly outlines these flaws and tells us, point blank, that men get away with murder with the women in their lives. Wow. Someone in the male species is actually willing to step out and tell it like it is!

Before you make the judgement that this book is about throwing the man under the proverbial bus, you must continue reading. Charles offers new insight on how the Man's Man can become an Evolved Man. He lays out a course of action for men on how to refine and refresh their lives to influence their relationships in a positive way. He takes his readers from the definition of the Evolved Man through the path to become the Evolved Man. He offers many humorous anecdotes along the way to demonstrate his points.

As you read through this engaging book, you will find that Charles does not hold women harmless and unaccountable. He sends the clear message to women to stop being victims. He doesn't tell us to rear up and fight back with the force of a hurricane. What he does do, is deliver suggestions on how we can positively affect a mans evolution without losing our identity. This was a refreshing message for me. He also suggests that women can train men. He makes the point that if you are unsuccessful in positively affecting a mans evolution, then perhaps you are actually training a man for the success of their next relationship. I find this interesting to consider. Can I recondition myself to not see a woman in a bad relationship as weak and powerless, but as the hero for her unknown sister?

One of the most profound lessons I learned is the idea that we do not give 100% of ourselves to a relationship, we give 50%. I give 50% - you give 50%. This makes a 100% effort in a relationship. This leaves me with 50% of myself, for my own identity - to remain me! This was music to my ears. We've all heard the stories of (or experienced first hand) women who have realized, too late, that they have lost themselves in a relationship. They gave it all. They had to bend, adjust, accommodate and accept - losing their real self in the process.


The Problem With Women...Is Men is full of lessons for both men and women. It is a must read for the Evolving Man as well as the women in their lives. I plan on reading this book again, and perhaps again. There are so many new thoughts and ideas that I wasn't able to absorb them all in one reading. This book will be on my night stand for a while.

Barb Jacobucci - Nice Shoes! And more life observations http://barbjacobucci.blogspot.com

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Fresh new view on men and women in relationships, January 2, 2009

By	J. Olson "psychology teacher" (Pleasanton, CA) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

"The Problem with Women....is Men" is a fresh new perspective on how men and women relate, and how they both contribute to the ups and downs of relationships. Men might think this is a book bashing men, but quite the contrary. Mr. Orlando examines both the societal lack of evolution of men and the enabling habits of women. More than just identifying the challenges, it examines the possible solutions in many areas from finances, to manners, dating and sex. It even goes so far as to put in a very handy index of things all "evolved" men should know, and that self-aware women should know as well. An easy, educational and very entertaining read, it is a must read for women and for men. If you want another relationship book that blames the other side, this is not the book for you. However, if you are looking for a light-hearted but critical look at how the sexes can improve themselves and the way they interact, this is a must read.

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Read this BEFORE you think you need it!, December 31, 2008

By	Pat Williams "Pat (Cletch)" (Michigan) - See all my reviews

My 18 year marriage is slowly coming to an end and I've been spending a great deal of time evaluating what went wrong and what could have been improved. I read the book "The Problem with Women... is Men" with interest while wishing Charles J Orlando had written it 18 years earlier.

Many of his points were truths in my marriage but the author provides solutions to the situations society has promoted for years. The reality is that men need to stand up and be responsible for more than just their jobs. Women have been working and taking care of the children and home for decades now - it's time for us to stop enabling the men in our lives and demand the same level of responsibility we take on. This change will free our time to be happier women, better wives and more successful in our chosen careers.

"The Problem with Women... is Men" explains how supporting this change in societal thinking will ultimately benefit BOTH people in the relationship.